giving a baby a biscuit

[Lolly1984]

My ds, 7 months came with me to a return to work chat, unofficial. Nice colleague said she'd look after him in office.
Come back to find hes had some banana and a shortcake biscuit.
Not a massive problem, but hes 7 months, and I'm not happy hes had something sweet. Hes also allergic to dairy so now I have a sad, spotty baby with tummy ache.
I didn't say anything coz she's the kind of person to get upset, crocodile tears, and tell everyone her mistake.
But now I'm home I'm fuming!
Aibu?! Who gives a baby a biscuit without checking with parent?!

If it's dull to you, feel free to join in with another discussion elsewhere. No-one is forcing you to contribute to this one.

Okay, I'll do that. If you promise to stay on this one.

IME, 7-month old babies don't have teachers. That is not a controlling parent, it is a parent who doesn't want their very young baby to eat a biscuit. That is care and nurture, not control.

And my ds hase allergies and you tell people if you are leaving child with them.

Ah, can't promise that Mitzy. I might find something else more interesting. I might pop in from time to time though

(It might not be for a while though, I can promise I won't be around much today as I do actually have some work to do, regrettably)

Avocado's are disgusting things.

This is nut care and nuture. Care and nurture takes a village not just a controlling parent

If I fancied a biccie and someone offered me an avocado I'd be

It's perfectly easy and reasonable for a 7 month old to be unaware that biscuits exist, just like they're hopefully unaware that McDonalds or Doritos exist. I just don't understand the angst here. Babies who aren't fed biscuits aren't sad.

Care and nurture takes a village

Surely that can only happen if you actually live in a village?
A parent of a baby not wanting that baby to be fed something at random is not controlling.

My daughter has allergies (I said this further back). Her grandparents still insist upon buying her chocolates that contain nuts, even though they know she has a nut allergy (among others) Me stopping her from eating them was not me being controlling, but being a caring parent because I didn't want her to die.

You DO NOT give a baby/young child something to eat without first checking with the parents. Even when people are aware of an allergy, they will still come out with crappy comments like 'Oh, it's just a taste. A little bit won't do any harm'.

I agree with Bruffin. If you really don't want your child to eat biscuits, tell someone. Generally speaking people are being well meaning and trying to help. Not everyone knows the ins and outs of looking after a child be it for 5 minutes or 5 hours.

someone continuing to buy or offer something after they have been told not to is a completely different thing, and totally unacceptable.

Well meaning, not knowing any better offering a biscuit... Not a huge offence.

I am not a controlling parent and seriously resent any implication. I think you need to get some things in perspective!
And this thread was about a biscuit, from a kind well meaning person who was not aware of his issues due to my miscommunication. he's 7 months, there is plenty more time for me to fuck him up.

Evans o know about allergies and ds os now 20 and nobody came out with a little bit wont do him harm because i wasnt precious abou

About other stuff, i meant.
It is also a figurative village.

TheCatsMeow - so your reasoning to give a 7mo a biscuit is to try different tastes and textures? Right I've heard it all now.

My mum gave a friend's (my friend) baby a piece of sausage once at 4 months or so. It was when the friend was out of the room. Friends had just started weaning on fruit purees and the family was vegetarian. I was mortified.

She had form, mind. Once she gave my twin babies an out of date yoghurt which had been in a hot car for 24 hours. That was after she'd said she was going to do it, I said no, and she gave it behind my back when I'd left the room. Bloody cow. Claimed she didn't think there was anything wrong in that! Mortified wasn't the emotion then.

OP, just be grateful you don't work with my mum! (For the record, your colleague WBU IMO)

Coconut my reasoning is it's the same as all other food. You enjoy it in moderation.

How's it looking in PFB neurotic land?

TheCatsMeow - moderation for sweet treats applies to older children and adults, not giving unnecessary junk to babies. You're projecting your own need for a biscuit onto a 7mo old who does not need it. It's not PFB to think there's something wrong with giving a 7mo baby a biscuit. I like chocolate, that doesn't mean I'd give it to a 7mo in "moderation". That's bad judgement.

Sweet of you to ask, CatsMeow

DD has managed to make it to the age of 23, IN SPITE of people like you, thinking some of us are PFB neurotic. (Induced coma for three days, ventilator/assisted breathing - but she's fine now). Thanks

coconut no it isn't, don't be so precious. In the same way that you let them try food you can also let them try a treat. It's not bad judgement.

Bad judgement is wrapping your kids in cotton wool and forcing your neurotic ways on them.

Evans but why be PFB lol? It's so pointless!

but why be PFB lol? It's so pointless

Cats - What the Freakin' Hec???? Have you actually read the posts, or are you so intent on your own point of view that you are just completely oblivious?

So my DD almost died (and I'm pretty sure she's not alone) because of other people's ignorance, yet you think that deserves a 'PFB Lol - pointless'. Really??

Idiot.

Just reread your post, I'm really confused. I think I'm missing something, what happened to your DD? She became ill because some of us don't get upset about the odd biscuit?

Sorry if that sounds stupid I'm genuinely really confused.

Rereading it again, as I'm confused, did your daughter have an allergic reaction to a biscuit? That's the only thing I can think of