giving a baby a biscuit

[Lolly1984]

My ds, 7 months came with me to a return to work chat, unofficial. Nice colleague said she'd look after him in office.
Come back to find hes had some banana and a shortcake biscuit.
Not a massive problem, but hes 7 months, and I'm not happy hes had something sweet. Hes also allergic to dairy so now I have a sad, spotty baby with tummy ache.
I didn't say anything coz she's the kind of person to get upset, crocodile tears, and tell everyone her mistake.
But now I'm home I'm fuming!
Aibu?! Who gives a baby a biscuit without checking with parent?!

Apple I would rather them drink at my house. Better than them sitting in a wet field with some cheap rank beer causing all sorts of nonsense.

what well said. My mum did that with alcohol with me, I've only ever been drunk about 4 times in my life and whenever I drink it's just one or two socially. I've never done the OMG NO PARENTSSSS LETS GET CHARLIE SHEENED like most people.

Exactly sanity- The guilt and shame my BILs feels is because of his mother's unhealthy attitude towards sugar - that it was some evil thing to be avoided at all costs.

It's not as though parents have to restrain babies from eating biscuits, though, is it? They eat what you offer. At some point, years later, your influence wanes.

In the intervening years, you shape their eating habits which include increasing numbers of biscuits. This doesn't mean that you introduce them at 7 months.

These parents who ban sugar and send them off to a party at age 7 without ever having had a piece of cake don't exist.

I think there is a world of difference between being the cool mum and letting kids drink at home, and allowing a small babysham (oops that showed my age!) with the family Sunday roast.

In France and Italy, having a glass of wine with the family meal is common place, and they have significantly less of an issue with binge drinking that we do. It's teaching responsible drinking and an responsible attitude to food. Not bad in my book.

Hosting parties for your 15 year old to get blind drunk to be the cool mum... Yeah not cool.

Me either cats, I have a couple of glasses every now and then and that's it.

Funnily enough, I'm the same with chocolate and crisps - I enjoy them but never overdo them. can definitely take or leave it.

Apple but there's no harm in offering a biscuit. They probably won't even eat most of it, I gave my nearly 6 month old some toast the other day and he sucked it and played with it more than eating it

babycham! no, it was chablis or merlot, depending on the meat. they didn't give us a wine substitute, they gave us wine and I'm glad they did, it's taught me an appreciation for alcohol and I've never felt the need to overindulge

This is one of those things where there are differing parental approaches and neither is wrong.
The question is whether it's OK to feed someone else's baby a biscuit without asking when you've just agreed to watch them for 10 minutes. Clearly it is not OK and yanbu for being miffed about it.

what same, I'm quite neutral to most things! Which is because there were no weird hang ups about food growing up. The more fuss you make the more you make it something to worry about

Apple but there's no harm in offering a biscuit.

Why would you do this, though? You can send a baby to the moon with a banana. Why offer a biscuit? Just to see their reaction?

My mum bought me some beers when I had friends over at 16. No one got blind drunk, everyone just chilled with some beer.

Apple the same reason you offer anything, to try different tastes and textures

apple why not?! Maybe some of us can see that the world won't end if you give a baby a biscuit.

in fact, I've got some biscotti in the cupboard, I'm going to see if DD would like one later

what

Because if your not a parent you maybe don't think that a biscuit is the worst thing in the world? Perhaps you didn't think the baby would like the banana because you don't know kids of that age love most sweet things? maybe offered the banana whilst you ate a biscuit and surprise surprise baby reached for the biscuit so you gave it to them? There are any number of reasons that a person may give a child they have been asked to look after a biscuit, especially if they don't have children themselves.

But after such a short time.

no one has answered the question as to why the second anyone holds a baby they want to feed it.

do people assume babies are always hungry?

don't people thing it's weird that others can't last a few mins without resorting to food.

and one of the only things my child will eat is banana I'd gladly give him a biscuit if he'd have it for some variety!

Giles I dunno maybe she was eating and the baby grabbed it, maybe she was eating and offered it too, maybe she didn't know what to do with it

Yep Giles I think that when left alone with a small child you don't know well, often the thought is, give them a biscuit, that will keep them quiet.

Even when the mother is right there

Cats there is a lot of non-biscuit food out there for your baby to try. Avocado?

Muskateers I was actually referring to parents giving their babies biscuits, not well-intentioned strangers. I wouldn't be upset if a colleague gave my baby a biscuit, but I wouldn't be impressed if my husband did (and vice-versa).

Apple sorry but who the jeff has an avocado lying around? Also there's nothing wrong with a biscuit occasionally.

Personally I have a picky eater already, he vomits on everything that's not toast, baby rice or banana

But Giles, don't you think that people generally feed people naturally? First thing I say to anyone who comes in my home is "cup of tea? Biscuit?"

Taking care of/looking after kind of goes hand in hand with feeding for many people.

cats ... I have two avocado's here if you fancy one ?!

Musk really?! I've only ever got one for a specific reason, so I never have them just in

Yep, I love avocado but rarely have them these days so they are a treat for me, to cheer me up whilst I'm stuck at home signed off work