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AIBU to ask DH to quit his job?

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PufflesMC · 31/01/2016 14:41

I've got a couple of threads going, right now, but they're on different topics. Just before people point that out!

Twins were born 2 weeks ago and DS1 (9) has got AML and is constantly in and out of hospital - I seriously dislike him being there alone at times, but it's impossible to be there full time with him when I have newborn twins - my family live in Australia it's very small... DH grew up in care, so doesn't have anyone to help support us... We are looking into charities, so that will help. However, I'm finding it impossible to sort DS1 out and the twins and everything else - DH works many hours a day and I need him home - we have savings, but yes, they're savings for the future, but would IBU to use them now? I just can't do it alone, but I don't want to come across... I don't know! But they are mostly his savings and it seems really rude to decide when he decides to use them, when he hasn't mentioned it. Thank you.

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PufflesMC · 05/02/2016 21:21

Thank you!

We went with Aidan Lucas and Elliot Jacob :)

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BeaufortBelle · 05/02/2016 21:30

Well I knew a two lovely Aidans, two lovely elliotts (and I mean really lovely) an adorable Lucas and Jacob fits my heritage so fab choices. xxxxxxxxx

Here's to better times for you all. Welled up now.

StarFlowers

Haffdonga · 05/02/2016 21:56

Puffles and Mrs D Flowers

Puffles - I'm so pleased that your dh has decided to stop work. Instead of resigning from his post would it help him to feel less cut off from financial security if he asked for a career break, say for a year or two with his job held open for him?

Hairyfairy01 · 05/02/2016 23:58

Great news, A few bank shifts for your dh to keep his regersition wouldn't do much harm though. Wishing your family all the best.

DrSeussRevived · 06/02/2016 00:14

Glad your mum can help xx

Blondeshavemorefun · 06/02/2016 08:12

Glad you had a talk and that mum is helping

You have to live for now. You don't know what the future brings (none of us do) so if dh being with you all and support is important and what you need as a family then do it and work will sort itself out later on

You are a family unit and together you will be ok

I hope treatment works and lovely names bless them :)

BlueMoonRising · 07/02/2016 09:36

Delighted that you have a way forward, hope everything goes well for you x

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