AIBU to not breastfeed?

[Stephieee]

DD is yet to arrive, but I never breastfed with DS and my goodness, I was made to feel terrible about it! I've told people that I'm not going to, this time around, but their views haven't changed :(

Why do their views matter?

I FF all 3 of my DC and never regretted it for a second.

Make your decision, own it and don't give a second thought to what others think.

Opinions are like arseholes, everyone has them. Do what's right for you and your child, formula isn't poison.

Of course YANBU to do whatever the fuck works for you.

Don't tell anyone what you're going to do?

What does it matter what they're views are anyway?

Do what is right for you - there is absolutely nothing wrong with formula.

its your choice

It matters a lot - I've had comments that are quite hurtful... Like, I'm going to be a shit mum...

Both mine went straight on formula.

If everybody wanted and managed breast feeding, nobody would have invented formula...

But why are you telling people before your baby has even arrived?

Then you're going to need toughen up.

You can't change the people around you (though you could ditch the twats)

You can only change how you react to stupid comments.

They think it's terrible that I haven't even bothered to try...

Because they're family

If anyone says any such rubbish again Stephieee, just walk away without replying and add them to your shit list.

They're talking bollocks, you must know that?

Ynbu. It's a personal choice. Fuck what people think. It's your body.

I didn't BF my DD and nor would I BF any subsequent child. After pregnancy rightly or wrongly. I wanted my body back. And if that makes me selfish. Then I guess it is what it is. Not only that but I'd feel embarrassed breastfeeding infront of people. Silly I know, but I can't help how I feel.

You really need to stop giving a fuck about this.

People have asked me so many times how I intend to feed my baby (35 weeks pregnant )
Whilst I completely understand that breast is best nutritionally, I will be feeding my baby in whatever way is best for both of our well being. The way I see it happy mum, happy baby !
Please don't let anyone make you feel bad for the way you choose to feed your baby.

I BF, I think it's great. For me. I also think that if anyone is horrible to you for your choices, can fuck off.

FWIW I got shit for BFing, just from a different group of people. For some reason women get to be told off by everyone.

So let's all join hands and a big "fuck you" to people who want to tell women off all the time.

Being family doesn't give them licence to treat you like shit.

You don't have to listen to them or put up with the rubbish they're spouting.

I wouldn't mind, but it's family and I see them a lot and now DH keeps suggesting that I try!

When DH lactates, then he gets to BF himself, doesn't he?

I breastfed my children because I want/ed to. There is nothing wrong with formula.

Thanks everyone! :) I appreciate some of you can just give 0 fucks, but I'm finding it hard to...

And fudge what dh thinks - like terry says - when he can do it - he can do it.

Just tell them to back off, and you aren't going to talk about it.

Personally, I don't really understand why you wouldn't even try. Perhaps people feel that you need a bit of a push to give it a go?

At the end of the day, don't let other's opinions bother you, I breastfed my kids but I did other things that people didn't like - that's their problem!

What about:

Food
Reins
Discipline
School?

Everyone has opinions about everything. Sooner you tell them you don't give a shit about their opinion, the better.

I remember turning round when FIL was going on at DD about her food and I hissed, "food is not a battleground in this house". He's never commented since. Grow your inner bear.