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To think if you've escaped a war zone, have shelter and food a wristband is no hardship

242 replies

Lj17lj · 25/01/2016 08:32

I might get slammed but I really don't see the issue. I've went on very expensive holidays and festivals and have to wear a wrist band for weeks on end, its fine. When I go to the steam room in local gym I have to wear a band.

I really can't see the issue. It's not the same as forcing a tattoo on someone.

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 25/01/2016 08:34

You can't be serious?

Siwi · 25/01/2016 08:34

They have dropped this now.

Moreisnnogedag · 25/01/2016 08:35

Really? You really can't see the difference between tagging a refugee and choosing to wear a wristband on luxurious trips? Okaaay.

ShesGotLionsInHerHeart · 25/01/2016 08:36

You can't see the issue in stigmatising, opening up to abuse, violence and shame, innocent people who have come to this country because they were unsafe in their own homes? That's ok with you?

You can't actually be comparing it to wearing a wrist band in your local fucking steam room.

And as for the utter fuckwits who see people wearing them and think that the reasonable response it to abuse them....Angry

usual · 25/01/2016 08:38

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Lj17lj · 25/01/2016 08:39

I'm saying changing the bands is not the solution to the abuse. More time and money is needed in the integration as I doubt no bands will stop this abuse.

Surely they could of just been hidden up their sleeves? It's not like Wales is T-shirt weather for more than a few weeks a year.

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knackeredknees · 25/01/2016 08:39

I'm with you, OP. If they were issued a paper voucher it could be lost, stolen or traded on the black market. A wristband is a perfectly sensible option and I can't understand why they're so aggrieved. They should be grateful. Lots of people wear different wristbands these days, and they can easily cover it with their sleeve if they're that bothered!

Lj17lj · 25/01/2016 08:41

Thanks knees, totally agree. It's just a sensible approach, these new cards will no doubt get lost / damaged as you say.

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ovenchips · 25/01/2016 08:41

Christ. Private Eye have a column called Dumb Britain. This kind of remark could have a very happy home there.

RJnomore1 · 25/01/2016 08:42

Fucking hell

"They should be grateful"

And I'm sure they are but it doesn't mean they should be actually marked out for abuse.

Fucking hell sometimes I'm ashamed to be British.

bakeoffcake · 25/01/2016 08:44

Are you really thick or just a goady fucker?

usual · 25/01/2016 08:44

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bakeoffcake · 25/01/2016 08:45

Just to be clear, my post is to the OP.

BillWagglestaff · 25/01/2016 08:46

I think the Education Select Committee's suggestion to improve holocaust education is a good one. Judging by this post, there are many who need education about how creeping, insidious injustices led to one of the greatest horrors humanity has ever known.

Gobsmacked and sickened by your comparisons, OP.

ShesGotLionsInHerHeart · 25/01/2016 08:46

Maybe the Jews should have been grateful. After all, that nice wee yellow star really brightened up their outfits.

ARE YOU STUPID?!?!?!

ocelot41 · 25/01/2016 08:47

Depends if anyone abuses you or beats you up because of it. That has happened with paper vouchers and a wristband makes you even more identifiable. Or maybe a yellow star would suffice?

LittleBearPad · 25/01/2016 08:47

Maybe they could be told to sew stars onto their clothes instead OP Hmm

BoomBoomsCousin · 25/01/2016 08:48

It isn't the band that's the problem it's the Othering. You can't integrate people you visibly mark as inferior, and with the rhetoric around immigration at the moment, anything that marks people as immigrants will be a mark of inferiority socially.

FoggyMorn · 25/01/2016 08:49

OP is a GF.

Maybe we should tattoo a number on their arms, or make them wear an easily identifiable symbol on their clothing so all "proper" people can see at a glance that they are "other".

*scarcasm, lest there be doubt.

Lweji · 25/01/2016 08:52

Because you chose to use the wristband and it gives you privileges. It marks you as one of the people at the hotel. Not the outcast immigrant.

For perspective, it started not with tattoos but with yellow stars. Surely that was ok.

Maybe the UK should start thinking of ID cards for all with proper I'D instead. It would also make identity theft more difficult.

WanderingNotLost · 25/01/2016 08:59

I see where you're coming from OP but I hardly think you can compare it with wearing a wristband for a weekend at Glastonbury. And neither would I compare it to the Nazi treatment of the Jews- we are helping these people, not persecuting them. And I'll admit I was a bit Hmm when I read an article about asylum seekers in Middlesbrough complaining because the front doors were all the same colour on their free houses

wasonthelist · 25/01/2016 08:59

Maybe the UK should start thinking of ID cards for all with proper I'D instead. It would also make identity theft more difficult.

No we shouldn't and no it wouldn't.

Cheby · 25/01/2016 08:59

I don't imagine the wristbands were introduced with the intention of othering, whoever did it was probably just thinking about practicalities.

However it is a fuck up, it's had a horrible impact and the right thing to do would be to apologise unreservedly the minute it became obvious, and change the system to something like cards etc.

I think worrying about them being traded or whatever is stupid; it's not as if there are thousands of people going to get meals there, surely the staff would get to know them quite quickly anyway?

Sparklingbrook · 25/01/2016 09:00

I might get slammed. But you post it anyway.