DH asking me to leave the house

[Hartofpixie]

My normally lovely DH has two work colleagues - he's worked with them for many years. One (Belinda) is happily married and we occasionally see her and her DH socially. The second (Claudia) is very single, and has always had a bit of a thing for my DH (she told him once, and he very politely let her down gently).

Claudia sometimes invites the wider working team round in the evening. I have never been invited. DH feels he needs to reciprocate, and has told me he is going to invite them both round for an evening meal. All fine, apart from he just told me I have to go out that evening? It's -4? On a Monday?

So AIBU or is that extremely weird and rude?

Produce a bowl of Pombears every so often.

Simple solution would be to either stay for the meal portion and then go elsewhere in the house so they can discuss work or be in the house but absent from meal as well. Or have the husband change the venue to a local pub so dinner and chat can be hosted there.

Definitely weird. Why isn't he ok with you staying in? I wouldn't be leaving the house at all. Could you stay, but in another room, or upstairs if it is a worky thing?

all sounds very dodgy to me..

I'm sure he's not about to flop his friendly python out for her to admire

I've just choked on my Hobnob.

I wouldn't go out
Anyone who had a thing "previously" for DH wouldn't get through the door
threesomes? This is gripping stuff...OP I would have laughed DH out of the house at the very suggestion. ..except I doubt my husband would dare suggest it..

You don't need bugs. Just discreetly placed baby monitors 😂

Don't waste yer hobnob, quality biscuits...

I think he is being massively disrespectful in socialising with a woman who has made it clear that she fancies him. And that's before you get into him asking you to leave your own house in order for him to do so!

Your husband is not coming across as at all 'lovely' to me. At best, he is enjoying the attention. Inviting her over sends her all the wrong signals and tells you that he doesn't care very much for how you feel.

Threesome alert. Belinda's bringing the champagne, Claudia the lube.

I thought OP said this evening was just socialising? Other posters are suggesting it's a work meeting. If it's the latter, then maybe I would watch TV in another room. I still wouldn't go out, unless I had somewhere specific to go.

I often go out when DP has his friends/colleagues over. But they talk maths all night.

He often goes out when I have my friends/colleagues over. We speak a different language.

But neither of us would ever dream of asking the other one to go out! And we do socialise together when we feel like it.

I think we'd both feel very differently if someone in the either of the groups had confessed interest in one of us though. That's just fucking rude. Tbh I'd have a hard time welcoming a wannabe-OW into my home. Or I might volunteer to cook - and spit in it

I want to know how the conversation, where he said Claudia the hooer had a thing for him, went?

Dinner was really nice tonight, thanks. Btw darling Claudia at work really fancies me. Is it bin day tomorrow or Thursday?

I want to know if Claudia is in fact Sharon.

I'd set up a spy camera which you can log onto online. You tell your dh that you'll just remain upstairs watching movies and eating chocolate and then you can follow events on your screen.

If there's anything untoward going on, you can rush downstairs, ninja style, and floor the floozies before they even realise what's going on

If you trust your DH then what's the problem

If you trust your DH then what's the problem It's a cold night and dull sitting in the cinema/propping up the bar at the local on our own on a Monday night. Especially when you have a nice warm house of your own

I bet you would want him out if you was having a girls night in with your friends

I remember being invited to a colleagues house -with others - and his wife had prepared a lovely meal for us and gone out. I don't think it's a particularly odd thing to do.

I, on the other hand, think it's utterly peculiar. If you go to someone's house for dinner, they're a package. I would find the other partner's absence very odd.

Weird!

bet you would want him out if you was having a girls night in with your friends
If she was cooking for two lads one of which fancied her and asked dh to go out in the freezing cold, would that look OK to you?

OP said, about 4 posts from the start...

In his slight defence, occasionally I suggest he goes out if my girlfriends are coming over for some wine. But equally I don't mind if he lurks upstairs watching a DVD / or comes to top up our glasses

some may call that drip feeding

Thing is, I would probably choose to go out BUT if Dh told me to go out I would find that rude and weird.

I wouldn't have a problem going out for the evening if DH had colleagues coming over...BUT there is absolutely no way that Claudia would be welcome in my home after making advances to DH.

StrangeLookingParasite the meal I referred to was in fact lunch, not dinner. Does that make it less peculiar in your opinion? She had things to do.