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Original poster

DH asking me to leave the house

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Hartofpixie · 15/01/2016 14:03

My normally lovely DH has two work colleagues - he's worked with them for many years. One (Belinda) is happily married and we occasionally see her and her DH socially. The second (Claudia) is very single, and has always had a bit of a thing for my DH (she told him once, and he very politely let her down gently).

Claudia sometimes invites the wider working team round in the evening. I have never been invited. DH feels he needs to reciprocate, and has told me he is going to invite them both round for an evening meal. All fine, apart from he just told me I have to go out that evening? It's -4? On a Monday?

So AIBU or is that extremely weird and rude?

OP posts:
Saukko · 15/01/2016 14:42

I am cackling at the very idea of DH coming in and saying "I've invited two ladies for dinner, so you need to go out." I mean, that's a double whammy of bollocks, that is.

LaurieFairyCake · 15/01/2016 14:42

I wouldn't go out

But we are both quite used to having separate work meetings at home where the spouse stays out the way

WickedWax · 15/01/2016 14:43

Tell him that's fine, you'll go out, Dave from work has recently told you he fancies you so you're going round to his for a takeaway.

GarlicBake · 15/01/2016 14:44

Its actually on her headstone.

Oh, I LOVE this knobbly!

Do it, do it, OP Grin

Fifi10 · 15/01/2016 14:45

Tell him that's fine, you'll go out, Dave from work has recently told you he fancies you so you're going round to his for a takeaway.

^^ Love it!

I'd also add, and he's coming round on Friday so hope you don't mind pissing off then

JohnLuther · 15/01/2016 14:46

I don't think he's planning a threesome FFS, he's just not aware of how it looks.

Saukko · 15/01/2016 14:46

Why isn't your DH inviting 'the wider working team'? He's looking a real sleaze if he's claiming this is a social work meeting and only inviting two women.

Pipistrella · 15/01/2016 14:48

I'd dress up like Penelope Keith and appear with a bowl of car keys and/or pom bears at an inopportune moment.

Nomoregrief · 15/01/2016 14:48

a double whammy of bollocks
this!

maybebabybee · 15/01/2016 14:51

Omg this is so weird!! I'd get the rage if DP asked this of me!

Bogeyface · 15/01/2016 14:51

May I suggest you do this? :o

StayWithMe · 15/01/2016 14:52

I'd go out, however first I'd be straight onto amazon and ordering a spy camera. Rather than putting barriers inhis way, I'd want to know if he's capable of cheating on me.

diddl · 15/01/2016 14:56

I think if OP sometimes suggests that husband goes out whilst she has friends over then it's not totally outrageous that he has thought about OP going out.

Of course if he is insisting, then that's not on at all.

whatevva · 15/01/2016 14:56

Invite Belinda's DH over on Tuesday, and tell your's to bog off out.

Katedotness1963 · 15/01/2016 15:03

I don't think anyone thinks he's planning a threesome, just being bloody rude!

Original poster
Hartofpixie · 15/01/2016 15:03

Will report back later on his logic...

OP posts:
SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 15/01/2016 15:05

Sorry if I've missed it, is Belinda's DH invited?

It seems very odd to me too. I would have thought the natural thing to do would be to invite Belinda & her DH (as you are friends with him too) and Claudia to your home for dinner as a couple.

I can also see how DH inviting a colleague known to have a crush on him to your house & then asking you to go out may look! Shock I wouldn't be happy if my DH suggested the same TBH.

GinThief · 15/01/2016 15:09

YANBU

Either stay in lounge/upstairs with a good book/movie or join in.

I have had work colleagues over for dinner, DP is always welcome to join us but he prefers to be upstairs on computer so I take a plate of food up to him. I wouldn't dream of suggesting he leaves the house while they are here, it's his home too!

coffeeisnectar · 15/01/2016 15:12

I think I'd be handing dps balls to him on a plate if he suggested this to me.

uglyswan · 15/01/2016 15:13

I think you should go out and then hang around outside the window while they're eating, mewling pathetically. Bonus points for dirt-streaked, wild-eyed look of trauma and neglect. If they let you in, crabwalk into the living room and wee on the carpet.

NerrSnerr · 15/01/2016 15:15

How odd. I would definitely not go out.

Pidapie · 15/01/2016 15:16

I would not leave the house, how rude Hmm

AnonymousBird · 15/01/2016 15:17

He may not planning the threesome, Claudia might be!

Jux · 15/01/2016 15:19

Does wider team mean Belinda brings her partner? Or are there more people involved? If the latter, then I'd be wondering why he's only inviting thise two instead of all of them.

And yes, do check whether you're supposed to cook before you go out. Presumably he'll be doing the tidying and hoovering etc first too?

Viviennemary · 15/01/2016 15:20

Absolutely not. Do not allow this woman into your home. She's a predator who has already made advances to your DH. It sounds more than a bit suspicious.