AIBU to be thinking about calling off the wedding over a "wedding watch?"

[watchwouldyoudo]

,e and DH are getting married this summer. we set a budget of £20000 and are so far below that budget. we agreed at the start that anything left over would be used as spending money on our honeymoon.

DH came home the other day looking very proud of himself and said that he got himself a wedding watch. Ive never heard of such a thing, and he said that because were well under our budget that he could afford to buy himself a watch for the big day. he likes his designer watched and has a case with at elast 10 on his dresser (all rolex, omega etc).

the watch he bought cost £4000! His reasoning was that my dress, ring, shoes, hair, makeup and bridesmaids dresses/shoes/gifts cost more than his watch did and were still under budget. wed still leave us with 1000 to take on our honeymoon. I am absolutely fuming that he'd spend so much money just on himself. we had a big row and he went to sleep round his mums place (didnt even take the watch wtih him). im seriously considering calling off the wedding. how can he not see this from my point of viwe?

[Katenka]

Tbh I have doubt the thread is real.

But I have known something similar in RL. Dbros friend was getting married. His parents gifted them an eye watering sum for the wedding. She wanted a Vera wang dress. Which left a huge sent in the budget. She then went and asked the her pil to be for more money.

We know the parents. They went mental when they realise over half the money has gone on the dress. They refused to give anymore.

The marriage didn't last long.

[Leelu6]

Setting out costs for my wedding below. Came out of hard earned savings. Still can't believe we spent that much. Could have had it at home in a marquee for a fraction of the cost.

Venue hire £2.5k (posh country house but first year of opening so relative bargain)
Catering £5k
Dessert table £600 (including £70 M&S wedding cake )
Decoration £400
Flowers £1k
Dress £1k
DJ £500
Photos and video £3k
Coach and Hotel for some guests £2k
Groom and best men clothes £500
Pre-wedding event £2k
Rings £3k

[50000LiraForMyThoughts]

"Dear husband, WATCH out, or I will leave you for the gardener"

[hefzi]

Well, clearly he thinks you've been bought and paid for, OP: I wouldn't marry someone like this but then, every time I've got engaged, I've bought the then-DP a smart watch so he has something to wear that's meaningful, like my ring but if you're happy to stay home and not work, and for him to bring home the bacon, you're signing up for a lifetime of this.

[Katenka]

hefzi that's a good point. I got dh a watch when we got engaged. Forgot about that.

[TamaraLamara]

You need a wedding dress, bridesmaid dresses on a wedding day

That's not strictly true. You can get married in jeans and a jumper if that's what you wanted, and bridesmaids are entirely optional too.

IF this actually happened, then fair play to the DH. A watch will be worn more than once, and will retain a good portion of its value over time. A wedding dress is usually only worn once and the value drops by 90% over the course of a few hours. It's ludicrous that we fall for the 'wedding dress' scam. The bridal manufacturers must be laughing all the way to the bank.

[AlisonWunderland]

£3.7k on a dress that will be worn for maybe 8 hours and be hideously uncomfortable for at least 6 of them?

[Blondeshavemorefun]

Think op has been scared off

I'm a lady wot lunches few times a week

Tho I work nights so I'm paying for it :)

[Grapejuicerocks]

£3.7k on a dress is splashing out plus engagement ring which from the sound of it wouldn't have been cheap. £4K on a watch now sounds very reasonable but he should have talked to you about it. Having said that though, if it was a spur of the moment thing and there is more money available than just your 20k wedding budget then I can see how he easily justified it.

The watch isn't a problem in itself. Look at your relationship though. Is he controlling in other ways? Do things always have to be his way or the highway? Is there mutual respect and normal good communication? Are you that trophy wife mentioned up thread. What security do you have?

Depending on the answers to the above questions, the watch may or may not be a problem. Is it just indicative of a bigger problem?

[JackandDiane]

lol at the word MAID being used in 2016

[toomuchinternets]

The troll cake toppers are the best thing in this entire thread

[IonaNE]

If the thread is real, then, OP, I'd not say anything, given that he's ok with you not having to work.

To those who say the lifestyle of "ladies that lunch" is boring: read a book, write a book, learn a language, learn a musical instrument, do crafts, learn website coding, exercise - and that's without even meeting up with friends.