AIBU to be thinking about calling off the wedding over a "wedding watch?"

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,e and DH are getting married this summer. we set a budget of £20000 and are so far below that budget. we agreed at the start that anything left over would be used as spending money on our honeymoon.

DH came home the other day looking very proud of himself and said that he got himself a wedding watch. Ive never heard of such a thing, and he said that because were well under our budget that he could afford to buy himself a watch for the big day. he likes his designer watched and has a case with at elast 10 on his dresser (all rolex, omega etc).

the watch he bought cost £4000! His reasoning was that my dress, ring, shoes, hair, makeup and bridesmaids dresses/shoes/gifts cost more than his watch did and were still under budget. wed still leave us with 1000 to take on our honeymoon. I am absolutely fuming that he'd spend so much money just on himself. we had a big row and he went to sleep round his mums place (didnt even take the watch wtih him). im seriously considering calling off the wedding. how can he not see this from my point of viwe?

8 grand on a dress and watch is crazy foe a budget of 20k. Also if he has his own business now and his parents are rich and you have a big house surely you will have enough money in your own joint bank account for your honeymoon rather than just relying on the one grand remaining in the wedding fund.

Where/when are you getting married op? I love a good wedding.

I don't think he was being unreasonable when it's his inheritance basically. I think yabu and if you are willing to call the wedding off over that you can't love him that much.

I totally agree with Magpie. You will wear your dress for one day while he will wear the watch forever. Just as a bride has their engagement ring forever. Also, given that the money is from HIS parents, it may also be something that will remind him of them. Why should the groom not have an equal amount of the wedding fund spent on him? It always seems to me that the bride gets more (dress way more expensive than a suit etc.) and I personally don't think that is fair. A wedding is about BOTH of you.

Id go fucking nuclear.

And then he ran home to mummy?
Shit.

BTW do you like Birkins, yoga and pilates and does your DH live in an American timezone with his work?

Does your husband to be have a daughter that you will become the stepmother of on marrying?

Love vagina recliner and muff malingerer.

Another vote for Vagina recliner!!!

I'm looking forward to the AIBUs from the guests when they turn up the the lavish wedding where £20k has been spent on dresses, watches and hairdos but no thought has been given to the guests who are starving and have to pay for their own booze.

How many hours of standing around hungry do you think there'll be while the couple have several million photographs taken?

OP you must post photos of your PIL's faces when they realise that FIL's golf club buddies will be paying for their own whisky. You have invited the golf club buddies, haven't you?

I keep thinking of Flangemate and it makes me

Does this mean that I, as the author of Vagina Recliner, am the winner? As that is the really IMPORTANT thing here, I think we can all agree.

I cajoled my fiance into buying me a wedding necklace. Feel guilty now. It was only £300 mind.

For some reason, flangemate makes me think of this.

Imagine that in a £3700 dress and you can start to see why the bridesmaids will be in primarni.

Having rtft I can truly say without a hint of sarcasm , op, you and your intended are really meant for each other. Enjoy being his cleaner/housekeeper.... You do not 'need' to work. Sod the fact that actually for your own self worth, you would want to show your children that you don't ' need' to live off a man (or a mans parents) wealth.
Just remember this ; never ever fall ill, where you can't keep the house pristine. Never feel tired, even with a two week old baby, where you haven't slept since the birth. It's no excuse for the house not to be pristine. (That's what he is buying in this marriage - long term 24/7 house keeper with VERY high standards)
Never ever let your size 8-10 slip. He has bought at woman of a certain type. You don't work 'outside the house' but I guarantee you are expected to ' keep working on yourself' and making sure you remain a 'trophy' wife. Don't let things slip... Or you will be out on your ear...

Has Ireland taken up with the British pound now, or have you translated from the Euros for us?

Well this thread has been an immensely entertaining nouveau-riche caper, and I'm grateful to all involved.

I'm still waiting for another poster to come on and tell us we are all just jealous.

And they don't both have more money than sende. She has none of either.

Large house but how many rooms actually get used? Bedroom, loo, kitchen, living room. Just shut the doors to the others and then go in and hoover occasionally and open the windows. Gives you more time to lunch.

Why can't you help run the business if both his parents did?

*sense

Did anyone else originally assume a Wedding Watch was like Springwatch? I had visions of Kate Humble and Chris Packham hunched in a shed commenting on the latest invitation and favour choices.

I'd definitely call it off if that was going on.

muff malingerer is a strong contender (more impressive if I'd spelt it right 1st time..) but I will be incorporating ' vagina recliner' into my everyday language . Its a winner

So 4k is on brides dress, shoes, hair, make up, bridesmaids dresses etc etc. Yet your dress alone was 3.7k.

There was a pivotal moment I realised with this thread, the contributions to Honeymoon as wedding presents! Now I'm not against this actually, but I bloody well would be when the budget was 20k and 7.7k was spent on a dress and a watch which is wasn't because this thread is bullshit anyway.

LOL wedding watch with Kate Humble. .

YESSSSSSSSS

I thought that, 50000Lira!

I thought maybe the PIL were going to be filming them writing the invitations, buying a dress, choosing flowers, and were going to send it to friends with comments from them, sitting on a sofa.

I have to say, I don't think I'd like that. The OP WNBU if that's what it was.

Someone will use Vagina Recliner as a Mn username. Its only a matter of time.This could really take off in a big way for you PUNTASTIC.