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Friend being a dick about my DD's birthday

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DrMum83 · 02/01/2016 19:58

Am I being all pfb?
Known a couple for 15 years - we're all close, went to uni together, see each other loads as a four, they live 5 mins away.
We have a DD who turns one next week.
They're planning a family but both of them have hectic social lives and on NYE said that they can't bring themselves to ttc as they'd miss their independence but will have kids at some point. have mentioned this to avoid backlash of 'maybe they're having fertility issues', they're not
Since DD was born we have seen them a lot less for obvious reasons. We often invite for dinner at our house or have met individually - so I'd do lunch with the wife and DH might play squash with the husband, but they're really not child friendly- on the few occasions my DD has been there, the husband has completely ignored her existence and the wife has done some obligatory cooing but obviously isn't that bothered. This is fine with us - we get that pre kids, life is about drinking, lie ins and nice holidays and we definitely don't expect our DD to be centre of attention.

So..next weekend were having a really low key tea and cakes birthday thing at our house.
I just made a whatsapp group and added the couple and said 'no offense will be taken if you'd rather not but you're welcome to pop in for a cuppa and cake at any point. I honestly do not mind if you don't fancy it'
The husband replied 'this sounds shit' and then I got notification that 'husband has left group'

Now, I get they're not into kids but AIBU to be miffed at his rudeness? Half of me thinks it's funny- we have a very banterful relationship and it could be just that but ffs, he could have just said he was busy or ignored it??

OP posts:
AliceScarlett · 05/01/2016 23:51

I'd take it as banter and laugh, maybe send a "fuck you" in response.

spaceyboo · 05/01/2016 23:55

You are being very unreasonable. Your invite was poorly worded and sounded very reluctant. The husband shouldn't have been rude but you definitely shouldn't have issued an invite like that (best not to invite them at all it there's any doubt in your mind).

SquinkiesRule · 06/01/2016 18:05

I didn't think the invite was worded well either, makes it sound like you aren't into giving your child a b'day party and things like this are so boring. Meaning your child and having a child is also boring. Just the way it comes off. You're trying too hard to be cool in this horrible mans eyes.
You should be happy for your child, he's having a birthday, celebrate it and anyone who doesn't like to or thinks it's beneath them can fuck off to the far side of fuck.

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