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To feed them pasta with pesto?

181 replies

duckbilled · 01/01/2016 18:41

My db, dsil, and two dn just turned up to spend the weekend.
I am exhausted after being up late last night, looking after my own kids all day, and getting the house ready for their arrival. I was going to order (and pay) for a takeaway for dinner.

Unfortunately it is a hours wait for the delivery and the children were hungry now, so I cooked some pasta and added pesto and cream. Apparently the children aren't used to this kind of food, their grandma who lives with them usually makes sure they eat better....... Hmm.
I can punch dsil right??! Confused

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Tink06 · 01/01/2016 21:03

Pasta pesto is a favourite here to - with some frozen veg n sweetcorn - nice quick ready tea.

Hellochicken · 01/01/2016 21:10

No serving pasta with pesto is fine!

Having said that I know my in-laws and most of my DHs siblings wouldn't eat it.

DHs nieces and nephews (aged between 2 and 13) wouldn't eat the following I have made (because they came for various meals and refused the following) - pasta pesto, or baked potatoes, or eggs, or sweet corn, or carrots, or beef and mushroom stew, or vegetable soup, or broccoli, or fish, or salad. Yet when I ask what they do eat "anything" "they eat well".

So when I finally got the sense to ask specifically what they can eat - it turns out it means only chips, sausages, chicken goujons, fish fingers, ham sandwiches, roast chicken dinner and plain pizza. So these are the only things I will now make for them. SIL explained these are the only foods "appropriate" for children.

The bedding comment is ridiculous!

rhetorician · 01/01/2016 21:17

perfect food for emergencies/when short of time etc. My girls love it

mrsrupertpenryjones · 01/01/2016 21:22

pesto = snail poo. yuk

KitKats28 · 01/01/2016 21:27

Fucks sake...how do people overthink this shit so much. Surely acceptable food for people who turn up unannounced is whatever you have in the freezer/fridge/cupboard.

I seriously can't get over all this "ooh I'd put this that and the other in it" or "ooh that's not very guest friendly". I mean really, you feed kids what they will eat. If someone turned up to my house and then complained what I fed their kids, they could fuck off to a restaurant and spend their own money feeding them.

My own kids have always taken the piss cos I've always fed their friends spag bol, but they eat it and like it. I can't be arsed to put any more thought into it than that. I'm a mum not a bloody gourmet chef.

thebestfurchinchilla · 01/01/2016 21:32

YANBU. She is your guest, she accepts what is given or takes you all out! Just popping out for a jar of pesto...

Castrovalva · 01/01/2016 21:32

Fucking hell, send her here. She'd love it.
I'm a shit cook, pasta and pesto is one of my posh 'making an effort' meals

Karanka · 01/01/2016 21:40

If you invite people with DC for the weekend, you find out what the DC like and buy it in in advance. And prep it so it's ready when they arrive. You don't wait until people who have travelled to see you are ratty and starving before you cobble something together and then snarl at how ungrateful they are because they are tried from the journey in unfamiliar surroundings and don't like it.

Holy sht, have manners changed so much lately?? If someone invites you then your DC eat what they're f-in well served (unless it will actually* poison them) and not whine about it.

CheesyNachos · 01/01/2016 21:46

If unexpected guests came to my house tonight they would have had either pasta with tomato sauce (literally ketchup), frozen wedges or brown bread (stale)with butter and jam.

expatinscotland · 01/01/2016 21:54

'Fucks sake...how do people overthink this shit so much. Surely acceptable food for people who turn up unannounced is whatever you have in the freezer/fridge/cupboard.

I seriously can't get over all this "ooh I'd put this that and the other in it" or "ooh that's not very guest friendly". I mean really, you feed kids what they will eat. If someone turned up to my house and then complained what I fed their kids, they could fuck off to a restaurant and spend their own money feeding them.

My own kids have always taken the piss cos I've always fed their friends spag bol, but they eat it and like it. I can't be arsed to put any more thought into it than that. I'm a mum not a bloody gourmet chef.'

This! Too right. This thread is right up there with the 'guest hamper' one.

And mine would never eat it with mackerel and broccoli mixed in. I wouldn't, either. Yak.

DoesntLeftoverTurkeySoupDragOn · 01/01/2016 21:54

She was rude, undoubtedly, but pasta and pesto is rank IMO.

MoMoTy · 01/01/2016 21:55

DancingDuck what a ridiculous post.

Yanbu, your sil sounds like a lazy whiny arse who relies on their gm to care for her kids. Your poor db for being married to that.

abbieanders · 01/01/2016 22:16

Here's what I always want to know in these situations - how do the complaints come up at all? I've never been involved in, nor witnessed, this kind of rudeness.

How does that conversation go? You hand her kids some food you've prepared and she says...what? It's not really relevant, I'm just curious.

PuntasticUsername · 01/01/2016 22:16

I'm absolutely not place marking for any updates on the gender specific bedding or anything similar. Definitely not. I would NOT do that.

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duckbilled · 01/01/2016 22:41

Abbie as I was stirring in the pesto she was standing behind me, blatantly telling me that it was rubbish.

The bedding issue was because it had owls on it. Green sheets with owls quite obviously stimulates the gay switch right?? Angry

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Pinkhousealreadyinuse · 01/01/2016 22:49

I need to know more right now. Feel free to give back stories! Grin

PuntasticUsername · 01/01/2016 22:50

Wow, how did she not end up WEARING the pesto! Loser.

I would bloody love owl bedding. How silly. I don't drink so have a Wine from me ,sounds as if you need it!

Pipbin · 01/01/2016 22:51

Oh yes, owls are well known to carry the gay virus.

Owls ffs, it's not like it's covered in princesses and fairies is it?

madein1995 · 01/01/2016 22:57

SIL is rude as fuck. Fair enough, kids don't like it (i was a fussy eater as a kid and wouldn't have touched pesto). Then she could have asked if you had any bread and butter and made them toast herself. If they like what you made, SIL shouldn't have made any comment. If they didn't like what you made, SIL should make them toast and apologize for their fussiness.

Stripyhoglets · 01/01/2016 22:59

Please keep us posted over the course of your weekend OP, purely to keep your stress levels down obvs!!

steppemum · 01/01/2016 23:08

she is rude.

But I have 3 kids and only one would eat pesto, the others hate it.

So, I would have politely asked you to leave the pesto off pasta for 2 of my kids and they would have eaten it plain or with some cheese.

BathshebaDarkstone · 01/01/2016 23:12

How utterly rude. Yes please do punch her. My DC have gender specific bedding because it's their space with their choice of bedding, but DH invariably puts Peppa Pig on DS's and dinosaurs on DD's because he can't see why it matters. They haven't complained yet.

WitchWay · 01/01/2016 23:21

My DS would have loved Owl bedlinen so would I

NickiFury · 01/01/2016 23:23

There's nothing wrong with it, I love it, but my kids would never eat it and my heart would have sunk when it was served.

rainbowstardrops · 01/01/2016 23:27

She sounds like a loon!!!
How on earth do you stay calm and polite though?