to not want my fil to stay over on new years eve

[chocoholic05]

My mil died earlier on in the year. My dh wants to invite my fil to stay tomorrow night and into new years day. In fact despite endless discussions with dh from a conversation with fil today it seems he has. I don't want him to. I would rather came for dinner on new years day and stay for tea as well. My reasons are we only have a small house so where would he sleep other than our living room? He never ever lies in no matter what time he goes to bed. He will bring his dog who is also an early riser. And he will expect us to get up. Alsothe dog smells really badly. I know that sounds horrible but it's absolutely true. Finally I like new year spent with my boys. Family games and dvds.He is only a ten minute drive away. But my dh said it's his first new year on his own.

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

"Omg. FIL was not bothered about staying the night. He didn't really want to sleep in living room."

You have no way of knowing that, BingOWings - particularly the second part.

It is just as likely that, having been invited and then uninvited, he didn't protest, because he didn't want to stay where he wasn't wanted.

[Blondeshavemorefun]

If fil didn't want to stay/not be alone then he wouldn't have accepted invite in the first place :(

If happy to stay on own in his house he would have said 'I live 10mins away will go home but return tomorrow'

I can agree with what one poster said about new year and death of a wife or husband

You look back and reflect. You reliese that next year your loved one isn't going to be with you. You look back at precious new year and what you and hubby/wife were doing

Unless your husband or wife has died you just can't understand the over whelming lonelyness and memories and regret that your life will never be the same !!!!

[Bing0wings]

kali yes I would (if my FIL was a half decent human being). However, I know people who do significantly less than the OP. Would I have him over with dog when I only have living room -no. Esp if he lives only 10 mins away. Would i let him sleep over on his own -yes. Dog nope!

[Bing0wings]

blondes I have no experience of losing a partner , however I told my widowed DM about this post and she thought the negative response was ridiculous and way over the top, esp as he lives only 10 mins away.

[Blondeshavemorefun]

i think its because its the first new year with his dw

the first ny without mr blondes i howled big time

[kali110]

Thankfully there are decent caring people on here!
I feel same as tough i wouldn't care what he bought over, it's his companion.

[IamtheZombie]

Zombie's DH died in February 2004, nine days before what would have been our 20th anniversary. She survived both birthdays, the anniversary of their service of blessing and Christmas, all with the help and support of in-laws and close friends. If she had had to go back to the home they had shared and sleep alone on NYE and then wake alone on NYD she's not sure she would have awoken on NYD. Thank God people who loved her insisted she spend that night with them.

Kindness costs little.

[Blondeshavemorefun]

Thanks boots and blows kisses to zombie