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Husband's attitude

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HappyGirlNow · 21/12/2015 22:46

I was on the train coming home from a work night out.

Last 3 times (over last couple of weeks) I have had to get the train home there have been no taxis in the rank and if I've tried to book one its at least 20 minutes wait. I've eventually got one after standing for 15-20 minutes in the cold. It's Scotland so not freezing but colder than the rest of the UK.

So I called my husband on the way home tonight and asked him to pick me up. Train station is 5 minutes from our home. He said no and for me to just get a taxi as he'd have to put our dogs away to come and get me. He seemed to think it was funny saying no to me (as if I'd find it a joke too). He knows the rank hasn't been populated last times I've tried to get a taxi and I've had problems.

I did manage to get a taxi after 10 minutes tonight (unusually quick). But AIBU to feel hurt that he wouldn't inconvenience himself for 10 minutes to just come and get me?! It doesn't really make me feel warm towards him!

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HappyGirlNow · 21/12/2015 22:47

Sorry, I know this probably seems trivial Blush

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hownottofuckup · 21/12/2015 22:48

Yup he's a twat!

FlameProofBoots · 21/12/2015 22:48

He sounds like a cunt. We've got three kids and I'd happily bundle them into the car to pick dh up if he was waiting, and vice versa. How mean of your 'd'h.

CocktailQueen · 21/12/2015 22:48

Yes, he was being selfish, to say the least. So the dogs are more important than you?

Champagneformyrealfriends · 21/12/2015 22:48

YANBU. I'd be pissed off if my husband refused to come and get me. Xx

TurnOffTheTv · 21/12/2015 22:52

Flame you'd happily get three children out of bed and into a car at 10.30pm to pick up your husband, who get a cab, but had to wait 10-20 mins? Really?

arethereanyleftatall · 21/12/2015 22:53

A 5 min car journey, is a twenty minute ish walk. Possibly. Can you let us know why you can't walk?

TimeToMuskUp · 21/12/2015 22:54

I've popped the sleeping DCs into their car seats before now to pick up DH from the station. It hasn't ever occurred to me to say no; he does the same for me at times, too.

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HappyGirlNow · 21/12/2015 22:54

It's longer than that it's at least 35-40 minutes and I'm wearing heels - Christmas night out!

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TurnOffTheTv · 21/12/2015 22:57

Well book a cab when you get on the train?

arethereanyleftatall · 21/12/2015 22:58

Fair enough. Yanbu.

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HappyGirlNow · 21/12/2015 23:02

Yes I didn't book a cab previously because there was a taxi rank which I innocently assumed would have taxis in it... I am not used to needing a taxi from the station, odd travel situation at the moment. This time (having learned my lesson) I would have, had I thought for a second my husband would have had a problem taking 10 minutes out of his life to pick me up (previous occasions he was not at home).

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Eigg · 21/12/2015 23:08

Come on Happy a 5 min car journey does not translate to a 40 walk!

MamaLazarou · 21/12/2015 23:11

Why didn't you phone for a taxi?

10 minutes is not all that long to wait.

BackInTheRealWorld · 21/12/2015 23:12

Oh sod that. I'm the only driver in our household and I don't mind going out of my way occasionally but sod that, you've had a nice night out while he has been stuck at home so it won't kill you to wait for a cab like everyone else.

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HappyGirlNow · 21/12/2015 23:12

Well I've not exactly timed it Eigg as I wouldn't walk it particularly, not in heels... I walked once but a bit further than that and it was APPROX 50 mins so I've shaved a bit of time off that.. But that was all downhill...Mand coming back it's al uphill... Maybe it's 6 minutes in car and 32 minutes walk.. I'll time it exactly next time... Using a stopwatch....

It's not walkable in heels anyway so all irrelevant.

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HappyGirlNow · 21/12/2015 23:15

He was out too, for dinner back, but he's not a drinker and was home by the time I was coming back. So not stuck in the house!

Maybe it's me but I'd nip out in a warm comfy car for 10 mins to pick him up to save him waiting for 15-20 mins and potentially longer in the cold and wind and rain.

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HappyGirlNow · 21/12/2015 23:17

mama see post at 23:02. Even phoning a taxi round here takes ages and I didn't think for a second he'd not come for me, as I would for him.

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DragonboysMum · 21/12/2015 23:18

I don't think yabu. I'd happily pop
out to pick up DP in similar circumstances and have done. I know he'd do the same for me.

Bonkers1 · 21/12/2015 23:18

You did know you were gong out and you did know that last 3 x there were no taxis so why didn't you ask DH in advance to pick you up? If he'd said no then to organise a taxi whilst on train on way home or in advance.

Yes DH is a bit mean though - is he protesting at you having so 4 nights out? Is he protesting at your lack of patience waiting for a cab?

I have asked DH to do this for me previously but did warn him to pick me up so that he didn't drink or go to bed or have a bath and get undressed etc etc. I've done it for him too.

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HappyGirlNow · 21/12/2015 23:19

and I've spent 3 - 4 hours of my time today sorting out accounts for his business and identifying and chasing up unpaid invoices totalling £12k, and he can't even pick me up from a train station.

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minifingerz · 21/12/2015 23:19

People are so bloody mean on mumsnet.

I'd pick you up if I was your DH. I offer to do it for my DH in similar situations.

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HappyGirlNow · 21/12/2015 23:21

I've not had 4 nights out bonkers - other taxi pick ups due to odd transport situation - Forth Road Bridge is shut and it's caused chaos at train station and no parking available etc.

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grumpysquash2 · 21/12/2015 23:30

A 5 min car journey can be a 40 min walk - mine is from our station. It's about 2.5 miles, mostly along an A road. You can drive it in 4 min if there's no traffic.
Just saying (in defense of OP)

UnderTheGreenwoodTree · 21/12/2015 23:35

People are so bloody mean on mumsnet.

Yes, aren't they?! I've been wanting to say that all night - not just this thread. No Christmas spirit, or perhaps too much Xmas Wink

YANBU, I'd always collect someone from the station as long as I was not drinking.

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