No sheets on beds bad mum?

[willywonka07]

Okay a little bit random here but me and my hubby had a bit of an argument over his SIL in which I said something negative to which he retaliated "Well your sisters just a gypsy letting her kids sleep on beds with no sheets!"
Later the dust settled, we apologised and all was fine but I asked him about this. He said in the heat of the moment it came out bad but yes he totally thought she was a bad mum.
Now we have 4 kids and my sister has 2. Neither of us could lay our heads knowing our kids were sleeping on a matress with no sheet or went to bed in clothes they were wearing alday not a chance. However I found myself making all these excuses for my sister. She works full time , husband isn't much help around the house, she is very disorganised etc but they have a lot of money and live in a really nice house ppl would be shocked to know this was going on behind closed doors. He said that if social services seen this they wouldn't be too pleased.
Now like I said we are entirely opposite to this mis matched pj's on my kids would give me palpatations but there is not a single doubt in my mind that she loves those kids so much and they don't want for anything, yet as this basic need doesn't seem to be met could she really be a bad mum. Thoughts and opinions please?

No sheets is weird and gross.

Sometimes my toddler wears clothes to bed though, they are clean ones put on just before he goes to bed after his bath, usually joggers and a t-shirt but sometimes I mess up the washing and don't have any clean pjs for him, so people might think he is sleeping in his clothes from the day but he isn't, they're clean ones. Any chance it could be that or are they definitely the clothes they had on all day?

ricketty

Bed bugs are treated with a combo of cleaning and insecticide, regular sheet changing will do very little to fix a bed bug infestation and sheets ect will not prevent them, bed bugs tend to live in the seams of mattresses and cracks of beds as well as in other furniture and are rarely confined to just bedrooms,they are also certainly not things that are found in all homes and and infestation is not much of a hygiene indicator they are far more common in hotels than other types of places.

And wearing the same knickers for 24 hours is not a significant cause of UTI's.

We do not know if these children have no routine in the evening or if their teeth are brushed or not, just because many people do bath PJ's teeth story bed does not mean someone who skips out the PJ's and bath avoids teeth brushing.

In my household teeth are done 45 minutes after eating each meal time and they are not done again at bedtime.

It appears in the op's sisters household beds are made up at least twice a week by the children's grandmother.

The op had already said that the children are not smelly nobody had raised any appearance related concerns and that they are always well turned out for school.

I do not think this is as clear cut as "yes they are badly neglected" I have a fairly reasonable suspicion that differing standards with the potential for a few possibly easily fixed minor issues is far more likely to be the case.

Why blame the sister? Her dh needs to step up too.