So you have history of abusive relationships? Which makes you MORE vulnerable to abusers in subsequent relationships. You don't get less vulnerable ever... Unless you do the therapy/groups/hard work to undo the damage that led you there in the first place.
You think you know someone cos you went to school with him? Right oh, I bet all your friends thought your abusive ex was lovely too, because they DIDNT know him in a relationship context. You don't know this guy, not even now.
Did you know that it takes on average 2 years for an abuser to make themselves known? They can usually hold 'playing at normal" together for about a year, but then there will be little traces that in hindsight you'll spot, but not at the time.
He has played a very cruel joke at best, but at worst, he's teaching you that he needs to be uppermost in your mind. Let me tell you clearly, no normal man would do this.
You have delegated your baby's overnight care to a man you don't know well, who has played a very cruel joke at best or is at worst punishing you for caring for your baby.
I'm sorry love, but I feel sick at this situation. You have not done a single thing in your life to recover and put the past behind you, or to give yourself the tools to protect yourself in future.
You are, I fear sleepwalking into a catastrophe. Now with a baby who you now say settles better for a bloke who's been in your life as a partner for months than with you.
With respect. Wtaf do you think you are doing here? You would have to be brain dead to not see that the odds you are playing here are totally stacked against you.
If your child is sick, fuck the Christmas shopping! You have not had a child free day for 3m? And now is the right day to have one? Really?