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Original poster

To be mad at my asshole boyfriend

180 replies

Whatthecrocodilehat · 11/12/2015 20:04

Been really busy today with poorly baby.
My BF has been texting me and my answers have been short as I have been quite stressed cleaning up projectile vomit all day and doing a trip to hospital.
Basically I didn't ask BF about how his day was and how he is.
When he mentioned that, I said sorry and asked him how he was.
He then goes on to tell me that he had fallen off the roof at work, broken his wrist and gouged his leg down the bone. When I phoned him in a panic he didn't answer so I text him again to ask what the doctors have said.
He said that they said that his misses should always ask how he is so he doesn't need to make up stupid stories.

AIBU to be fucking livid and go over to his and give him a fucking kick in the nuts?!

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hereiamagain22 · 11/12/2015 20:30

so either

he is jealous of attention, doesn't give a shit how awful your day has been and how worried you are about your baby - he has to be your number one..

or

he was joking because he thought it would be hilarious to wind you up when you've had an awful day and are worried about your baby.

Neither option good, to be frank.

And he called you, his girlfriend, 'his missus'? LTB just for that. yuk.

CalleighDoodle · 11/12/2015 20:31

Honestly i think move this to relationships as he will get worse. You have a baby with someone else so presumably youve been with this guy less than two years. Some say it takes two years to see the real person. He has shown you who he is. (A twunt on case you havent seen it yet) dont waste another. minute of your time on him. You child deserves someone who cares about their health above his own dreary normal day.

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Whatthecrocodilehat · 11/12/2015 20:32

No I had t told him that we'd been to hospital (she's fine by the way! Just happens to have caught a throat infection, croup and hand foot and mouth all at the same time!)
He's just called. I told him he's a chronic bell end, to go fuck himself and I'll be thinking about any possible future with him tonight. Just ordered an emergency dominos to help with my decision.

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AnyFucker · 11/12/2015 20:34

Domino's has great decision-making properties. Almost medicinal, it is.

Claraoswald36 · 11/12/2015 20:34

Why is he on a roof?

ExasperatedAlmostAlways · 11/12/2015 20:35

Wow, he'd be told to fuck right off. A ill baby who's been at hospital and he's coming out with that bullshit and stressing you out more. Rather than saying, how are you both, I'm finished now is there anything I can do to help or go pick up for you? What a twat.

Cloppysow · 11/12/2015 20:35

Wah wah wah! The little baby is getting all of your attention. I'm going to do something really shit to get your attention, but disguise it as a joke so i can say you can't take a joke and make it look like you're the problem.

What a fucking tool.

Original poster
Whatthecrocodilehat · 11/12/2015 20:36

He was at work. I'm definitely taking all the advice on board. Thankyou everyone. It's quite therapeutic to hear that he's the one being a dick.

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2ManySweets · 11/12/2015 20:37

My XH was like this.

Note the "X"...

ExasperatedAlmostAlways · 11/12/2015 20:38

Even if he didn't know shes been to hospital, I'm presuming when he text you you'd at least let him know she was ill. Yet he still came out with that rubbish.

Claraoswald36 · 11/12/2015 20:38

Take it he isn't a parent then. What a knob

LikeASoulWithoutAMind · 11/12/2015 20:39

What a tosser.

fidel1ne · 11/12/2015 20:40

Not good OP, really.

Original poster
Whatthecrocodilehat · 11/12/2015 20:40

He's a fantastic dad that's why I'm so Hmm about it.

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lorelei9 · 11/12/2015 20:40

ugh
people show you who they are - deeds not words.

hope your LO is better.

Baconyum · 11/12/2015 20:41

"Domino's has great decision-making properties. Almost medicinal, it is."

And THAT'S shy AF is queen of MN Grin

My sbxh was a spectacularly selfish attention seeking prick and even he wouldn't have done this - is he 12?!?

AnyFucker · 11/12/2015 20:41

he is not a fantastic dad, don't make that mistake

Baconyum · 11/12/2015 20:42

Why not shy I don't think AF is shy somehow Grin

Claraoswald36 · 11/12/2015 20:42

Dad to your baby or his own? What is his situation?

AnyFucker · 11/12/2015 20:43

"shy AF"

err, no Xmas Grin

ExasperatedAlmostAlways · 11/12/2015 20:43

He may well be a fantastic dad. But he isn't your child's dad and he isn't your dad and he's certainly not a fantastic boyfriend, coming out with crap like that.

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Whatthecrocodilehat · 11/12/2015 20:44

No he really is I can't take that away from him. Just also a spontaneous prick by the looks of it.

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ShebaShimmyShake · 11/12/2015 20:46

What on earth is with all these women whose partners exhibit the most bell-ended of traits still insisting that they are great dads? At the more extreme end there are women on here nursing black eyes telling us that he's a great dad, and here we've got a prick who tells horrible distressing lies to get back at a partner for not prioritising him while her baby is in hospital telling us the same.

I don't understand how people can set the fatherhood bar so low. What makes him a fantastic dad? The fact he doesn't hit or starve your kid? I went shopping today and didn't have a shooting spree, knife anyone or punch anyone in the face. Where's my medal for outstanding humanity?

2ManySweets · 11/12/2015 20:48

Depends what your definition of fantastic is....
Lemme tell you this: I still maintain that all the love and fun that my XH has buried deep down in his heart would have made him a great dad to any kids we would have had: when everything was generally going well that is. I maintain that he'll meet someone, have kids, and be the dad he's got the potential to be.

As a husband though he was a petulant, demanding, temperamental, controlling hissy-fit filled man-child who'd pull this kind of stunt when I needed to be snapped "back in line".

I left him because of that behaviour and haven't looked back since. Am much happier now with DP and baby on the way.

So be warned. I don't need to know anything else about him; pulling this crap on you is nasty anyway - doing it with a poorly baby is pure poison.

/rant over
/needed that

RudeElf · 11/12/2015 20:51

Just also a spontaneous prick by the looks of it.

Spontaneous? No. Self centered, selfish, nasty, cruel, immature- yes. But spontaneous? Confused