To ask grandparents for our childrens Xmas presents to be under our tree, so that they can open them on Xmas morning

[Kanga59]

Not all of the presents that they have purchased. Just the ones that are on my ds's xmas lists (I have two boys) because these are the ones thatcthey have asked for in their letters to Santa. And I would like the requested presents to be here on Xmas morning as if delivered by Santa.

My OH thinks that his parents would not want to do that because they will like to see the children open their presents when we visit them on Boxing Day.

We haven't asked the grandparents yet as can't decide if it's reasonable to or not. Thoughts?

We have small presents in the stocking from Santa and presents from family.
As we divorced when the children were tiny they spent every other Christmas without me and I never saw them open their presents from me and this side of the family in the alternate year whereas ex DH would pitch up every year for present opening.
Obviously I hate him till the day I die. There would always be more presents in the away year. The children still think that was more fun and they are in their twenties.

We have small presents in the stocking from Santa and presents from family.
As we divorced when the children were tiny they spent every other Christmas without me and I never saw them open their presents from me and this side of the family in the alternate year whereas ex DH would pitch up every year for present opening.
Obviously I hate him till the day I die. There would always be more presents in the away year. The children still think that was more fun and they are in their twenties.

We have small presents in the stocking from Santa and presents from family.
As we divorced when the children were tiny they spent every other Christmas without me and I never saw them open their presents from me and this side of the family in the alternate year whereas ex DH would pitch up every year for present opening.
Obviously I hate him till the day I die. There would always be more presents in the away year. The children still think that was more fun and they are in their twenties.

Oh dear. Sorry.

As so rightly said it has always been our tradition (which has worked very well) that FC does the stocking only, then you avoid such problems and children get to understand/appreciate how the family help make C'mas special not some magical old man/woman!

YABU.

And thats it in a nutshell.

none of our family think that seeing the look on their faces is more important than them actually having the presents to wake up to in the morning

This is also it in a nutshell.

Make your mind up Sansoora!

Just wondering how big these stockings fron Santa are. When i was a kid, it was one of our actual socks we put out.

Mum and dad buy the Santa gifts, all other gifts are from the family ie 'this is from grandma' ' this is from aunt Mary' etc

YABU.
My presents are from me- I do not have a Santa delivery with them- he can do his own!

How can children thank the person if they don't know they sent them?

YABU

Father Christmas brings the presents in our house but we send him the money so they are from us and Grandparents etc. Because Father Christmas is very busy he leaves presents at other people's houses as well or asks grandparents etc to look after them for him.

Waiting for some more present till Boxing Day spreads out the excitement especially if there might be some more things from their Christmas letter there.

Make your mind up Sansoora! grin

I know.

Is one of those 'yeah but' situations

This could be be because we have no family who buy for our children, so everything comes from father Christmas. But I think it's more important for the child to have the present Christmas morning.

the one time of the year I'm happy to have no extended family/friends

Every present for Christmas ends up under our tree. They're not from FC. They have tags on to say who they are from. But they do get passed over before the 25th to be opened on the day.

Likewise all gifts we give go to the right houses before Christmas Day. Almost everyone we know does it that way.

But then I don't feel the need to watch someone open a gift I've bought. I'm more than happy to be thanked later for the gift, either in person, by phone, letter, etc.

So actually I would prefer them under the tree but wouldn't give FC the credit.

FC just brings one special gift here. We don't do stockings either.

^ what hula said. Would this work if they still thanked the gps and you could explain Father Christmas couldn't bring everything.