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AIBU?

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Original poster

To just think actually you dont know, or youve forgotten

160 replies

Dameshazaba · 06/12/2015 23:24

I am still up tidying and cleaning. I am by no means the mummy martyr. This is just simply the amount of shit that needs to be done after a weekend. I work 3.5, dh full time and this is just the fact of the matter if you want your kids to arrive at school with clean clothes, having eaten home cooked meals over the weekend, having gone to a kids party and done an activity. We have not even had a social engagement of any sort all weekend, unless you count buying the Xmas tree and decorating it. I am literally just doing the basics. I am exhausted with no time to myself except a bath this morning while ds was at football and DD napped. Friends who don't have their own family envy me my family time, parents and in laws want to see us more- I want to shout- come and help me with the fricking washing and cleaning!!! Just so I am not judged by every fucker!! Fact. Rant over.

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Dameshazaba · 07/12/2015 22:29

Yup. Zero.

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TheSecondViola · 07/12/2015 22:30

You're just being a bit dickish now OP. And shouldn't you be dusting something?

shutupandshop · 07/12/2015 22:32

I'm surprised your on here what with all the uniforms housework you need to do in the next few hours. Mooney away but did you have time with your busy life to wash your ass? Your rude and need to get a grip.

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Dameshazaba · 07/12/2015 22:33

I think you'll find you started off the dickishness on this thread.... Pipped only by shut up and her sandwich suppers.... Wish I'd never started it!

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Dameshazaba · 07/12/2015 22:34

You're rude. You're. That's how it's spelt, you see, when you abbreviate.

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shutupandshop · 07/12/2015 22:34

I don't do sandwich suppers. Rtft.

shutupandshop · 07/12/2015 22:35

Have you got time to correct abbreviation mistakes?

UmbongoUnchained · 07/12/2015 22:38

Her house must be a shithole because she's too busy being a bellend.

ghostyslovesheep · 07/12/2015 22:45

oh well - sorry for attempting to engage and be pleasant - I suspect the reason your house is a shit tip is because you dedicate too much time to arguing with strangers on line

Just in case you didn't realise no one gives any fucks - it's a thread on a website - we don't know you and vice versa - just passing time with my feet up knowing my house is clean, kids asleep and work will be great tomorrow - slightly sore because of the 10K fund run I did Sunday but you can't have it all Grin

night :)

Notimefortossers · 07/12/2015 22:48

Well this exploded Grin

shutupandshop · 07/12/2015 22:49

Ooo 10 k fun run. Go sheep!

Iggi999 · 07/12/2015 23:18

Ofgs people, behave yourselves. If I wanted to witness pointless fighting I'd go and get the kids back up.

TinklyLittleLaugh · 07/12/2015 23:28

Er, mine are the sandwich suppersGrin

Dame you obviously only wanted to wallow and not receive any constructive advice. I, for one, will be leaving you to your Mummy Martyrdom.

wannabestressfree · 08/12/2015 06:04

I.am hoping sandwich suppers becomes a 'thing' like soft play and family time :)

TheSecondViola · 08/12/2015 09:31

OP; AIBU?
Lots of people: yes you are.
OP; you don't understand unless you have young children and a part time job
People; We do have those things and more.
OP; you're all bitches and I don't care.

Dickish.

LaContessaDiPlump · 08/12/2015 10:01

I'd like to see actual sheep doing a 10K fun run. That would be amusing.

Stratter5 · 08/12/2015 10:34

OP doesn't 'only work 3.5 days'.

She works full time, she's a parent. Or do non working parents not work at all? Hmm

Stratter5 · 08/12/2015 10:36

Woah. Things changed whilst I was posting

christmascracker2015 · 08/12/2015 10:52

Sometimes things that aren't too bad seem very difficult when we are going through difficulties. This happened to me and I had to be signed off work for a bit. These things happen in life when sometimes things are harder to cope with than usual. No need for some of the remarks from above posters.

Infinitynose · 08/12/2015 10:55

I do minimum house work, buy non iron shirts, cook basic but healthy home cooked meals so I can spend my time mnetting and reading books and doing fun rubbish like making paper snowmen.

I am goady abouts this and proud! Who cares about the other stuff really? As long as you don't live in a pit.

Grumpyoldblonde · 08/12/2015 10:59

The only obnoxious remarks were made by the extremely rude Op.

christmascracker2015 · 08/12/2015 11:03

The op has been told that she shouldn't struggle by some people. I think she was looking for support and sympathy not others coming on saying what they could do. If she is feeling a bit down it might make her defensive as it isn't nice to struggle, especially when you have always been a capable managing type of person. Probably projecting there a little but still think we should all play nice.

Grumpyoldblonde · 08/12/2015 11:07

She was asked why she struggles and given lots of sound advice which she threw back in peoples faces, but she gives zero fucks (here words, nice). If she wanted sympathy AIBU is perhaps not the place. Mumsnet Housekeeping may have been better or for 'Aw Hun, yeah me too' , Netmums

OnlyLovers · 08/12/2015 11:07

No, I think some posters have been a bit obnoxious. All the head-tilting 'Why exactly does x or y take you so long? I can do uniforms/dinner/tidying/ironing/Iron Woman training/Nobel Prize-winning theoretical physics in oooh, about two hours...' type posts.

christmascracker2015 · 08/12/2015 11:10

Yeah maybe so. Don't worry op this happened to me to and it made me seriously ill as my parents just said I should be able to cope. I was signed off in a seriously ill way and it has taken me time to recover. I wish someone had told me it was ok not to be able to cope sometimes as until this point I had never struggled with anything in my life. I was the type everyone admired regarding everything I could manage to do. You are only human and everyone had their limits. Chin up and it will get better. I wouldn't have believed that myself a couple of months back before my breakdown.

Take it slow and be kind to yourself is something the doctor said to me. I am finally learning what that means for the first time in my life. No one has ever said anything as kind to me as that before the doctor did.