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To tell someone about this 11yo girl's YouTube videos?

249 replies

ScottishGlen · 05/12/2015 23:21

My dd(11-yr6) told me today about a classmate of hers who puts videos on YouTube including showing off her gymnastics skills in her bedroom. Dd wasn't remotely concerned- just told me about the gymnastic because she is interested. I felt a bit uncomfortable about it so searched using the girl's name and surname on YouTube this evening. A whole series of videos from the girl's bedroom came up. All about gymnastics, school, dancing etc. Generally pretty innocent stuff.
However in one of them she is wearing only her swimming costume and bending, stretching and doing the splits right in front of the camera. In another clip she is proudly showing off a pen she won at school, complete with school name and logo. I feel worried that her clips can be accessed by anyone, have her bending and stretching without much on, have her full name on and her school.
What should I do? I only know mum by sight ( and she has a reputation for being a bit fierce) so I don't think I'd be comfortable talking to her. Talk to the girl's class teacher maybe? (She and dd are in the same class) Do nothing and keep my nose out?
I'm also in a dilemma about my DD. She clearly sees no problem with this girl prancing around on YouTube with very little on which worries me. If she knows I have "interfered" by telling someone about these clips she will be mortified and probably less likely to talk to me about things in the future.
Sorry for the long post. Advice appreciated please wise Mumsnetters.

OP posts:
theshitestuff · 06/12/2015 21:17

And how a leotard is inappropriate for gymnastics

bigbuttons · 06/12/2015 21:18

Is that a serious question?!

AnyFucker · 06/12/2015 21:18

the op describes the young girl is wearing a swimming costume

Brioche201 · 06/12/2015 21:20

What is the difference?

christinarossetti · 06/12/2015 21:20

From what OP has said, people could leave comments, theshitestuff.

merrymouse · 06/12/2015 21:21

a whole series of videos from the girl's bedroom came up. All about gymnastics, school, dancing etc. Generally pretty innocent stuff.

Sounds as though the videos are about more than gymnastics technique.

I suspect the OP's alarm bells were triggered more by a year 6 child posting personal videos from her bedroom than a prurient attitude towards gymnastics.

christinarossetti · 06/12/2015 21:23

Most people on this thread are completely aware that a leotard is what women and girls wear for gymnastics.

And a swimming costume is what women and girls wear to swim in.

There may well be people viewing videos of women and girls in leotards or swimming costumes who do not regard what they're wearing as sports attire, but interpret them as revealing, provocative garments, worn for the intention of revealing the body and sexually provoking others.

It's about the interpretation of the viewer, not the intent of the poster.

I actually can't explain that any more simply.

Brioche201 · 06/12/2015 21:24

1 swimsuit
2 leotard

To tell someone about this 11yo girl's YouTube videos?
To tell someone about this 11yo girl's YouTube videos?
AnyFucker · 06/12/2015 21:26

It seems some people are determined to never see any ill intent in the world

I actually wish I had more of the PollyAnna about myself...unfortunately life experience knocked that right outta me

you are completely right, christina, it's about the interpretation of the viewer not the intent of the protagonist

well put

AnyFucker · 06/12/2015 21:26

I am leaving this thread now as I believe some posters are on the wind up

Brioche201 · 06/12/2015 21:31

here may well be people viewing videos of women and girls in leotards or swimming costumes who do not regard what they're wearing as sports attire, but interpret them as revealing, provocative garments, worn for the intention of revealing the body and sexually provoking others.

You realise that is the same thing as saying women should not wear short skirts because they are inviting rape?

You look at any gymnastics club website and you will see pictures of young girls doing splits in leotards.

Brioche201 · 06/12/2015 21:34

Just because people don't agree with you anyfucker it does not mean they are on the wind up.
personally I cannot believe you are insinuating that people should modify what is perfectly normal attire for an activity incase they get perved over by some saddo.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 06/12/2015 21:36

Oh dear God
I'm with anyfucker on this one

atreya · 06/12/2015 21:39

I am leaving this thread now as I believe some posters are on the wind up

I think I said similar about Any much earlier. Far too extreme.

theshitestuff · 06/12/2015 21:40

Anyfucker often appears to have god like status on mumsnet

Fuck knows why

Brioche201 · 06/12/2015 21:46

I think she is the sort of person who finds it much easier to flounce than admit when she is wrong

theshitestuff · 06/12/2015 21:49

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bigbuttons · 06/12/2015 21:51

AF is not wrong. She's pissed off with your inability to see the most basic of facts. I am too.

theshitestuff · 06/12/2015 21:54

bigbuttons - like we said, flounced

bigbuttons · 06/12/2015 21:56

No, she just can't be bothered to engage with you.

theshitestuff · 06/12/2015 21:58

But you can. Which is nice Smile

bigbuttons · 06/12/2015 21:58

And she's right; you are on a wind up.

Brioche201 · 06/12/2015 21:59

She's pissed off with your inability to see the most basic of facts. I am too.
The only fact is the girl made a video of doing gymnastics in a leotard Everything else is posters opinion

Brioche201 · 06/12/2015 22:01

bigbuttons are you AF? Your style is very similar?

theshitestuff · 06/12/2015 22:01

I'm not on the wind up

My opinions are valid, and I asked reasonable questions