DH reads paper while I make dinner every weekend. V pissed off. AIBU?

[lottytheladybird]

DH works long hours during the week and so I do everything for the DC (3 and 5) and the house during the week, but think that it would be nice to have some help when DH is around. However, come the weekends, I still do all the cooking, house work and the looking after of the DC. I also do almost all of the getting up in the night, should my DC need me.

Here's how it goes at the weekends:
I get the children ready to go out. DH rarely helps. We go out, then when we return home, DH goes upstairs to catch up on sport on his phone, while I sort the children out with snacks and drinks. I then start cooking dinner straight away. At some point, DH comes back down, offers me a cup of tea while he makes himself one, then goes to read the paper in the lounge. I then cook dinner and get the DC ready for dinner once it's cooked. DH only emerges once dinner is pretty much on the table. He does however then do the washing up afterwards, but he says he'd rather do the washing up than tidy up the toys with the DC after dinner.

I got really annoyed with it all today. When I asked DH if he was going off to read the paper while I was preparing dinner, he said: "Yes, I need a rest". I said: "Well, so do I". He then said: "Well..." and walked off. After 40 minutes, I went into the lounge and said: I'm not making dinner all by myself again." This prompted him to get up and start shouting at me, accusing me of all sorts of untruths.

AIBU to be annoyed by this situation?

Why does your husband shout when you ask him to do something? Seems a very odd reaction to you asking for support.

Time wise. As long as you have the same amount of down time away from chores/kids/work, it doesn't matter when it's taken.

I think you need to have another look at the definition of cocklodger, Harsh

Yes, smashing household objects is defined as abusive. A household where this happens when children are present would ring warning bells with Social Services, for example.

There are other definitions of "abusive" than getting a punch in the gob, and OP's husband is already fulfilling two of them (and that's just what op has told us...as evidenced time and time again these threads are often the tip of the iceberg)

Yanbu. Reading thread later.

Breaking things, whether an ironing board or a powertool, is clearly childish and idiotic, Helena. However, I don't think it constitutes "abuse".

I've never lived in a home where anything like that has happened.

Call me a wimp, but I would find that scary as an adult, let alone as a child.

What I mean is, it's so outside the realms of normal for me, that I would find it scary and intimidating.

If it's within the realms of normal for you, then I can see why you'd gloss over it as 'childish' and 'idiotic'. But I think you're irresponsible to downplay it to the extent that you'd encourage someone else to overlook it.

It's absolutely not normal behaviour in a loving home, even in a fit of pique.

harsshbuttrue ops dh could spend quality time with dc whilst op is making dinner. Instead he choses to read the paper leaving op to look after kids and cook at the same time.
Also in response to person who said a single person doesn't have to finance another adult. Well a single parent also doesn't have the luxury of another adult to look after dc including all night wakings.

What an unpleasant cunt he sounds.