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AIBU to be annoyed with my mum for buying a chocolate advent calendar for my 22 month old?

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BettyBi0 · 04/12/2015 10:30

We've always aimed for low sugar, healthy diet yadayada with our toddler and my Mum knows this.

Anyway, she totally hyped up sending my DD (22 months) an advent calendar which finally arrived yesterday. We opened one door and it had a chocolate inside. DD thought this was the best thing ever but then refused to eat her dinner later shouting CHOCOLATE! Want it!!! Ugh are we going to have this every day of advent?

I'm a bit narked at my mum for sending it tbh as my DD is still little and chocolate is definitely not an everyday thing in our house. I know it's spread over the next 21 days but there is about 200g of Chocolate in that bloom into calendar. I'd never dream of giving her a 200g slab of choc - albeit spread out over 3 weeks.

AIBU it would you think it's fine for a not even 2 year old to expect chocolate every day?

OP posts:

Iadmit · 05/12/2015 11:43

This thread has made me chuckle my 3yo has a chocolate calendar, I'd never thought of it as a problem

I had the whole 'I want to eat all of them now!' after the first one...he soon got the message it wasn't going to happen then proceeded to forget the next 3 until after tea. He ate all 3.....in a row....on the same day he redeemed himself today though, refused the chocolate and had a banana and satsuma instead. I ate it.

FWIW I have never denied any food sorts to my 3.9yo. He doesn't like sweets, won't eat cake, and will choose to drink water instead of lemonade sometimes wonder if he's mine! . The other day he shamed me...there's me eating a bag of crisps and a mars bar aldi equivalent and he says he's hungry. Asks for tomatoes, red pepper, cucumber and cheese with crackers

Has the OP been back at all?

Enjolrass · 05/12/2015 11:43

This thread is so weird!

It's a tiny piece of chocolate.

It's not unusual for kids to refuse food to try and get some control. It happens...a lot.

If you don't want her to have it, you should have given her.

Your mum did it to be kind. My mum bought my nephew one last year, he was 6 weeks old. She didn't expect him to eat it. She just I didn't want to get the other grandkids something and leave him out.

Dbro and sil aren't that keen and when their eldest was little they would hide it and give him a bit every so often.

Getting annoyed at someone who did something nice is unreasonable.

It's clear that 'it's the thought that counts' clearly isn't considered anymore

SideOrderofChips · 05/12/2015 12:13

My DD's have two advent calendars. I get them a toy one every year (this year lego and playmobil) and my DM gets them a chocolate one. they are age 8 and 4.

Do i fucking care they are having a small bit of chocolate a day? No. Because its the only chocolate they generally get. Rest of the time its fruit.

OP you are being very PFB.

PurpleCrazyHorse · 05/12/2015 13:51

DD (6yo) and DS (5mo!) got a chocolate advent calendar each this year. DD started off eating both but I've started getting in their first to eat DS's. We try for a balanced diet for DD but by denying her chocolate and sweets, she'll only gorge on it elsewhere. Same will be true for DS when he's older. She has a balanced diet, eats lots of things and that includes chocolate and sweets, often over a period of time rather than a whole packet in one go.

Chocolate advent calendars are fairly obvious before you start opening the doors, so you should have binned/hidden it before opening the first door. One bit of chocolate a day isn't going to have lasting effects and all children will whine ask for things (repeatedly) until they think you'll give in , saying no and sticking to it is something that comes with the territory.

PurpleCrazyHorse · 05/12/2015 13:59

Oh, I should say that the chocolate advent calendars came from my mum.

DyslexicScientist · 06/12/2015 20:42

Acting militant over treats will only give your child issues in later life and as soon as she's old enough she will gorge if you carry on the way you're going.

Any hard evidence to back this up? Its a common view spouted as fact here.

imgoingdowntown · 06/12/2015 21:25

really OP? Why did you give it to your DD if you knew it had chocolate in it? It's hardly rocket science to work out that it's a chocolate advent. Also in the grand scheme of things, is minuscule but of chocolate really a big deal? Live a little.

Stellar67 · 06/12/2015 21:30

Just eat the lot OP. They don't get it at that age. Your mum was being a granny.

Brioche201 · 06/12/2015 21:38

You are talking what about 8grams of chocolate per day.If it offend you so much you eat them, or give them to your Dh.You epitomise PFB!

passmethewineplease · 06/12/2015 21:40

YABU and massively overreacting

Rinceoir · 06/12/2015 21:43

My sister sent one to my 19month old. Odd child that she is she asked for an apple instead of the chocolate today.

ShamefulPlaceMarker · 06/12/2015 21:43

Lol,
Your post screamed pfb!

My dd is 2, she has a 6 yr old brother so definately knows what chocolate is! She demolished her advent calendar this morning, which means I'm now going to have to somehow explain to her that her ds still gets one whilst she doesn't

ShamefulPlaceMarker · 06/12/2015 21:50

*Acting militant over treats will only give your child issues in later life and as soon as she's old enough she will gorge if you carry on the way you're going.

Any hard evidence to back this up? Its a common view spouted as fact here.*

Roald dahl?! :)

Amummyatlast · 06/12/2015 21:59

I think YABU for blaming your mum, but YANBU to not want to give a 22 month old chocolate everyday. My DM bought my 2 year old a chocolate advent calendar and so I thanked her for it. But she isn't given the chocolate we eat it. I have no problem with DD having cake, biscuits and the occasional bit of choclate, but I don't want her having a daily piece of chocolate at only 2 years old.

Brokenbiscuit · 06/12/2015 22:09

Why did you open the first door if you didn't want dd to have the chocolate? Surely she is under 2, and wouldn't have been any the wiser if you had just put it up as a decoration?

kennyp · 06/12/2015 22:21

is this your first child? to misquote mary steenburgen in parenthood when she's talking to kevin (her son's) headmaster ... "first child ... very strict ... second child... not so much ... by the third kid you let them juggle knives"

etc.

i wouldn't have given either of my kids chocolate a day at that age. they didn't have coke (a-cola) until they were about 7 .... and i realise it's pissed you off. is it your mother's first grandchild or a thing she does with all her grandchildren so doesn't really think about it?

bloody christmas, eh

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