AIBU to be annoyed with my mum for buying a chocolate advent calendar for my 22 month old?

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We've always aimed for low sugar, healthy diet yadayada with our toddler and my Mum knows this.

Anyway, she totally hyped up sending my DD (22 months) an advent calendar which finally arrived yesterday. We opened one door and it had a chocolate inside. DD thought this was the best thing ever but then refused to eat her dinner later shouting CHOCOLATE! Want it!!! Ugh are we going to have this every day of advent?

I'm a bit narked at my mum for sending it tbh as my DD is still little and chocolate is definitely not an everyday thing in our house. I know it's spread over the next 21 days but there is about 200g of Chocolate in that bloom into calendar. I'd never dream of giving her a 200g slab of choc - albeit spread out over 3 weeks.

AIBU it would you think it's fine for a not even 2 year old to expect chocolate every day?

Nope, what's a bit extreme is your shrieking and over the top nonsense.

hahahaha oh there are some jokers on here SS you aren't serious I hope! one tiny bit of chocolate wont make a 22month old obese !

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Really?? If a tiny chocolate is that exciting, that she will go hungry. You are not practising balance.

This is it for me! If you ban items then she will only want it more

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Really? perhaps some people put some things in perspective, having lost my mother 7 weeks ago my point of veiw is i would love to have my mother here to buy my children an advent calander, yet here we have someone having a winge because her mother bought her child an advent calander? it s just ridicilous, its a tiny peice of chocolate!

I don't think you're being the slightest bit unreasonable. My 18 month old has chocolate once in a blue moon - a bit a day for the next month is not a habit I want to facilitate. Your parents should respect your choices.

Bin it and get a picture one.

YABU. If you really didn't want your DD to have a chocolate Advent calendar you should have binned it or put it away and eaten the chocolate yourself.

A tiny amount of chocolate each day isn't going to create an issue. If you don't want to give it then don't but yabu to be angry at him being given it. The best way to create a good relationship with food is to remember that no food is bad, just some are better eaten in small amounts.

shazza sorry to hear that. Perhaps your response was heightened due to your personal circumstances. I do think what you said was over the top and unfair, but understandable.

200g of chocolate is quite a lot for an advent calender. They're normally 60-90g.

Op yabu and a bit ridiculous. It's a small treat for 3 weeks of the year. It's not healthy for your dd to grow up in an environment where you stress so much about "healthy" eating you won't even allow an advent calender.

Nope, not unreasonable. Just do some creative accounting with the days/chocs and then make sure it's not repeated next year. I really don't get the obsession that some grandparents have with giving chocolate and other assorted crap to their DGCs.

I know all the what-does-it-matter types on here think it's ok but we do have a serious obesity prob. Imv no choc for tinies. No sweets for tinies. Common sense imo. Why start young if there's no need. And what about their teeth???? Daily sweets?????

So, just not exposing them to certain foods at all until they're not small any more? Healthy eating is about developing healthy relationships with all food types. These relationships start young. Complete avoidance will only lead to a child getting older and having no idea how to regulate themselves once they've encountered sweet and fatty foods that they're genetically predisposed to crave.

DD's calendar is 90g of chocolate divided between 24 windows...3.75g of chocolate a day. A small bite of chocolate as a treat and leaving the rest for another day is a great way of teaching moderation.

YANBU! I hate the damn things. Children waking up early and sprinting downstairs to guzzle their bit of chocolate before breakfast, or opening all the doors and eating them all at once! Of course it's not going to make them obese or damage their health, but it's not something you joyfully want your 22 month old to do. And I hate the way the default cheap easy present for children is chocolate and sweets.

I bought both mine ordinary picture-behind-the-door calendars this year and despite moaning hugely about them, they are actually still quite enjoying opening the doors every morning!

It's all very well for people to say that by stressing about this you ARE making a big deal out of it, but to be honest if you don't make a bit of an effort to keep their diets healthy and minimise the sweets, chocolate, crisps and junk then they would all eat far too much of it, as it is everywhere.

Chuck the calendar now and buy a picture one!

Jesus wept, people do overthink these things don't they?!

Really?? If a tiny chocolate is that exciting, that she will go hungry. You are not practising balance.

That is total nonsense, she's nearly 2 they all refuse to eat and demand something else it's normal behaviour.

OP it really is up to you. 2/3 of the uk population is overweight so the majority are getting it wrong probably. I don't think being allowed to eat unlimited rubbish on a daily basis is a good thing. Personally I balance it by buying biscuits/ crisps/ cereal bars randomly so we don't have them all the time but not making a big deal out of it. My children have 2 chocolate advent calendars each btw

Really? perhaps some people put some things in perspective, having lost my mother 7 weeks ago my point of veiw is i would love to have my mother here to buy my children an advent calander, yet here we have someone having a winge because her mother bought her child an advent calander? it s just ridicilous, its a tiny peice of chocolate!

So very sorry for your loss, shazza and hope Christmas is not too difficult for you. As for your sentiment, totally agree. And as a "terrible" mother/grandmother/foster mum I bought my children, foster children and two year old grandson a chocolate advent calendar. Thankfully my daughter was perfectly happy I did.

ElderlyKoreanLady, I'm all for sensible approach to treats. However, daily chocolate for the under twos doesn't fit that definition for me.

leopardgecko Thank you x

To be fair, YOU gave your child the chocolate - if you were that set against the idea of chocolate advent calendars then perhaps you shouldnt have done that in the first place. Bin it - really not that big a deal.

Your child your choice op.

FWIW I think this is a big over reaction. Demonising food in this way can lead to long terms problems on my experience.

This 'dilemma' comes up every year on here. I can only hope the posters who actually think this is something to worry about, are able to look back on it and laugh at themselves in years to come.

Bin it FGS. When it comes to my DCs doing what is best for them trumps not offending idiot rellies/friends.

To whoever wrote that...I hope your 'idiot' friends and relatives find more deserving places to direct their thoughts and kindness in future. Ffs.

Those who are gifted advent calanders and things you really don't want perhaps consider donating them to a food bank, I am sure they will find a recipient who will be greatful.

And I completely respect your opinion on that Laurie. But presumably that means if your DC was under 2 and received a chocolate advent calendar, you wouldn't give it to them. OP has given the chocolate to her DC and is now blaming her DM for the way her DC reacts to chocolate. If you choose not to give it to them while they're too young to know differently, completely fine, but you can't lay the blame elsewhere when you've gone against your own ideals.

I'm just wishing my dd2 was still alive this Christmas to open her advent doors, so I think you are making a great great big fuss over a tiny piece of chocolate.
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Not sure I understand why you didn't put the offending item in the bin. Why make such an issue over it?

sugar21. I'm so sorry.