AIBU to be annoyed with my mum for buying a chocolate advent calendar for my 22 month old?

[BettyBi0]

We've always aimed for low sugar, healthy diet yadayada with our toddler and my Mum knows this.

Anyway, she totally hyped up sending my DD (22 months) an advent calendar which finally arrived yesterday. We opened one door and it had a chocolate inside. DD thought this was the best thing ever but then refused to eat her dinner later shouting CHOCOLATE! Want it!!! Ugh are we going to have this every day of advent?

I'm a bit narked at my mum for sending it tbh as my DD is still little and chocolate is definitely not an everyday thing in our house. I know it's spread over the next 21 days but there is about 200g of Chocolate in that bloom into calendar. I'd never dream of giving her a 200g slab of choc - albeit spread out over 3 weeks.

AIBU it would you think it's fine for a not even 2 year old to expect chocolate every day?

Meaning Coca Cola not cocaine ha!

MarkRuffaloCrumble yes raisins and dried cranberries (my dd loves both) and other dried fruit does have naturally occurring sugar in, as does all fruit. Both need to be eaten in moderation and teeth brushed etc. But naturally occurring sugar is far less bad for you than the refined and processed sugar and fat in chocolate.

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We never had soft drinks in the house during my childhood, and I never drink them now. Can't stand the taste. If you don't eat or drink much processed sugar you are far more sensitive to it - most sweet stuff is far too sweet for me and I find it unpleasant.

Fruit, especially dried fruit is one of the reasons for tooth decay, especially in children.
Dentists hate raisins especially as they stick yo the teeth.
Thankfully i can't stand the things.

Can't believe people can get worked up over this. It's one bite of chocolate a day. Guess what, she's a toddler, she will start whining and nagging for things and using food refusal as a form of getting conrol. It's what toddlers do. You need to unclench a bit I'm afraid!

I admire your restraint.I'dbe eating the chocolate myself

I made an advent calendar when my eldest was about 5 .It's a large felt square with 25 pockets ,in each of which is a figure from the Nativity They used to fight over whose turn it was to remove a figure each day and make up the scene .It prempted my DPs or DPILs buying them the commercial ones -you can probably tell I think they are mostly naff ..(It was not unheard of for me to add 2 pieces of chocolate to each square when they got older. ) I will have to make a duplicate as and whenI have DGCs as they love it and will 'fight' for possession of it .you could try doing something similar(minus the chocs of course)
When they went to Uni I made each of them a Christmas tree version and used to post them 25 small chocs to put in them...must have been mad .
I do find it odd that you even gave your baby daughter a chocolate if you don't want her to have them .,surely she wouldn't have any idea what was in the windows?

And with regard to fizzy drinks my DCs never had them. DD1is addicted to Diet Coke (for the caffeine)DD2 never touches it or anything similar .Rarely had biscuits in the house.DD1never eats them,DD2 often does So not sure it makes any difference .They both have excellent teeth though .

My 2yo DD does the same if I give her a bit of chocolate or refuse to give her junk food. I just tell her the chocolate is all done and she can have some carrots or nothing at all.

If she's a good eater otherwise, just put some carrot sticks or a similarly healthy snack she likes on a plate and keep them within reach after she refuses to eat. She'll eat when she's hungry. I speed the process up by eating them myself off her plate without making a fuss, making them more appealing to her.

I personally wouldn't be giving DD a chocolate a day. She doesn't need that much candy. I'd give her one, then leave it out of sight and never bring it up again.

YANBU to be annoyed with this. DD isnt allowed chocolate and is 17 months she demolishes malted milk biscuits instead

The sad thing is my DHs choclate advent calendar cost 75p from my local supermarket. DDs non chocolate one cost £6 and had to be ordered over the internet.

Which I think is wrong.

Children are going to come into contact with sweet stuff in their life - that's inevitable. I don't think creating a good/bad food dichotomy is helpful to them. We had small amounts of chocolate like this as kids and I've never been that bothered about it, I don't eat much. Coke, however, was bad, bad, bad. Never allowed it. As soon as I had money as a teenager I bought it - sounds dumb but it was exciting. At one point I was drinking eight cans a day. It totally backfired.

Fecking chocolate advent calendars. DH is currently having a row with dd2 after she climbed up yesterday and practically emptied one. It's really unfair that dd1 is getting her chocolate apparently while she gets nowt .

They are going to be banned here next year.

And with regard to fizzy drinks my DCs never had them. DD1is addicted to Diet Coke (for the caffeine)DD2 never touches it or anything similar .Rarely had biscuits in the house.DD1never eats them,DD2 often does So not sure it makes any difference .They both have excellent teeth though

I agree with this chocolate was never banned when I was a child but I am a total addict, once I start I can't stop. I only rarely eat it for this reason. There is nothing else that I am like this with.

My ds has had a chocolate calendar each advent since he was 18 months, he rarely eats chocolate the rest of the year beyond a few buttons, he never finishes anything like that. But he does the same thing as your child is doing for the first few days, of asking for another choc, it's the novelty of a new thing, by the 17th you'll probably realise you both forgot to open door 15 and 16.
I can understand your frustration tho, when you feel like someone else giving your child a treat overrides what you want for them or how you want to raise them. I have those problems too, just with other issues than a calendar. I think most parents at some time have those issues.

My mum has done advent calendar for my ten week old, just eat the chocolate yourself.

YANBU.

I have had funny looks for pointing out that the advent calendar in my house is a virtual one.

Bad mum alert

my 10mth old has a MilkyBar calendar.

Some people really need to lighten the fuck up over a teeny piece of chocolate. Your acting like its a super size bar of choc in each door. Acting militant over treats will only give your child issues in later life and as soon as she's old enough she will gorge if you carry on the way you're going.

I got little treats and advents calenders when younger and as an adult I rarely have choc. Mil was stricter with dh and now he pigs out on choc/crap all the time his nickname is chocolate whore

YABU to be annoyed with your mum as you didn't specifically say you didn't want a chocolate filled calendar. If you had told her this and she bought it anyway, then YWNBU. Replace with a picture one (your child, your choice what he/she has), and ask your mum for a non-chocolate one next year.

I really don't understand why you didn't just chuck the unwanted calendar away and get on of the picture versions.

Lol this is your first child, yes? Wait until you have a few and they go to school and it's parties every weekend, cake sales at school every other day and kids who have birthdays bringing Haribo for the whole class every other day. Losing battle! :-)

My two used to eat all 24 chocs in a day when they were younger, then they went through the excitement of having one every morning for the next few years. Now they are teens and have one as they are leaving for school in the morning.

Neither of them are particularly bothered about chocolate at other times but love having an advent calendar even though they are now 15 & 17

YABU op because you face your child the chocolate when you didn't need to - it was your choice. It doesn't matter who sends what to our house, if I dont want the boys to have it then they don't have it.

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