Senpai my reading comprehension is fine thanks, got a degree and post grad to prove that.
Then act accordingly, and don't put words in my mouth. If you can't use your degree in practical application then it is writ on water.
Your tone was dismissive of women on boy sa.
No, it was stating statistics. Statistically it is not likely. That is a fact, whether that's palatable with your anecdotal evidence or not. I never said it shouldn't be taken seriously, just that it wasn't likely. I also said it was inappropriate and needed to stop. Again, reading comprehension problems, Ms. I-have-a-degree.
Grooming IS a crime and the police are well trained to recognise it. In addition they recognise how difficult it is for a parent to deal with. They CERTAINLY wouldn't laugh at the op.
Yes, it is a crime. However, OP has not asked OW to stop. She has not expressed discomfort.
It will be logged as a paper trail, but until the messages get sexual the police have nothing. It is innocent until proven guilty, and texts quoting a cartoon and telling him to have a good day prove only that she is obnoxious.
Gotta say I too would not have waited this long to take action. Stuff what the ex might think! Surely the CHILD is the priority?
Exactly. The child takes priority.
That means taking measured steps such as talking to her ex about it, and talking to her child about dangers of grooming, appropriate adult behavior, and never going alone with someone he's uncomfortable with. If she over reacts, her child may well end up hiding texts from her. The ex could very easily discredit OP as she is his ex getting upset there's another woman.
Unfortunately life doesn't actually work by MN logic where if you just stamp your feet hard enough and rampage like a bull in a china shop things get solved because right always triumphs. Real life is messy, and it doesn't work like that as much as you'd like it to.
The best thing she can do is keep her "enemies" close, so that if OW does do something, she'll know about it. But alienating her son, or convincing him he'll be the cause of something bad happening to her if he tells is just going to push him to keep secrets. Or she'll convince him his mother just doesn't get them, and his mother is crazy. After all, has she propositioned him yet?
As someone who apparently works with these cases, you should already know this and how tricky it is to actually prosecute these cases. The OP has no good evidence, and you know it. You're giving her impetuous advice that will keep her in the dark from this point on.
This is her family we're talking about, not a witch hunt. Not a holy war. Not a cause for righteous outrage. She's doing the right thing by gathering information she needs.