To be narked a grown woman is texting my 11yo ds?

[OiledBegg]

Myself and my 11yo ds's father are divorced but have a great co-parenting relationship.

Through a hobby, exH is friends with a woman who is in her mid 30s and married. No children.

Ds is also involved with this hobby so has met this woman many times and they get on well and see each other frequently. She bought him a little bday present which I thought was sweet.

For ds's bday a week ago he got his first mobile phone. Mainly to keep in touch with the parent he isn't with that particular weekend, and to get him used to keeping in touch with us ready for when he's older and more independent.

ExH clearly gave this woman ds's number as she's been texting him a few times in the last week.

The first message was some quote from a film/series that I don't know of which was "hey baby, you smell good you been bathing in cupcakes and rainbows again?"

Then he replied, and she text back with "now you have my number you contact me if you need to, about anything at all ok?xxx"

Aibu to find this annoying, and feel kinda undermined as his mother? The other texts are just "morning! Have a good day at school!" and stuff like that.

Also is this even appropriate behaviour? What if ds were a girl and this adult friend were male, surely it'd be majorly off so why is it different that he's a boy?

Or am I being jealous and precious and totally overreacting?

[Cagliostro]

I remember this thread. I hope the texting, and any weirdness, stopped.

[Mummyme1987]

After 16 pages I want to know too!

[Blondeshavemorefun]

Know this is old but rem reading it last year

Just wondered what happened

Wsird ex didn't think it was strange

Did the woman ever text again op?

[Mummyme1987]

This one isn't but I've been caught a few times lately. Read pages to only find it was a zombie thread.

[FeckinCrutches]

Agree it's a zombie thread but it's not 'years later'

[Mummyme1987]

I know this one is only 6 months old but there seems to be quite a few zombie threads regularly.

[Mummyme1987]

It just tricks people to read it all and post.

[Mummyme1987]

Why would you post on a zombie thread and get it active again years later?

[halighhalighaliehaligh]

Ahh just seen this is old. Did the op come back to update?

[halighhalighaliehaligh]

Really weird I think. What does your ds think of it. Do you think your ex would find it strange? I would tell her you find it inappropriate and wouldn't want her left alone with your ds. Could be difficult if you can't get your ex onside though

[Iknownuffink]

Totally out of order.

Does your ex have an opinion?

I would take the phone to the police and have them look at the texts.

Women can be sexual predators too.

[newtscamander]

Oops, didn't realise it was old.

[FrameyMcFrame]

I thought I was stepping into a time warp then, I remember this thread from last year... Or getting very bad de ja vu

[SpiritedLondon]

I once dealt with a case involving a woman in her 30's texting her sons friend who was 14. They were honestly the most explicit texts I have ever read in my life.....all about what she was going to do to him.. When I met him he was a very regular little lad who looked a little younger than 14. I appreciate that my perspective is skewed but you can't assume that everyone's intention is innocent.

[JiffyLemon]

Hmmm... if this woman was his step mum it might be less wierd, but just a friend of EXH? Odd

[WalkingBlind]

Giving advice to someone no longer in the situation who is no longer reading the zombie thread! Come on guys really.

[MyCatWasRightAboutYou]

Oh Ffs I didn't see how old this is

[CraigN24]

Worried ^

[MyCatWasRightAboutYou]

Good, I'm glad you're putting a stop to it. It does seem inappropriate. I have some younger friends through tumblr (like social media) I'm very aware of keeping boundaries and wouldn't talk to them one-on-one offsite. I wouldn't ever send them something like that quote, either. She might not be aware of how she's coming across, but that still doesn't make it alright. It concerns me why she would even want the number in the first place

[CraigN24]

I would be seriously worrie and would talk to her ASAP and make sure ur Ds Dad is also aware of it.

[PovertyPain]

Take the hint.

[BettyDraper1]

I don't know what level of bored i'd have to be to start texting an 11 yr old.

It's v. V. V. weird. Fuck her off.

[AnyFucker]

ZOMBIE THREAD

[newtscamander]

wtf, she sounds like a paedo?! Seriously you need to speak to her and block her number.