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To think that there is a serious lack of perspective on mn now to the point it is not actually possible to have a decent discussion any more?

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wannaBe · 26/11/2015 14:29

Yes, thread inspired by lots of threads but provoked by the flaming I have just had on one in particular. But not a thread about that particular thread.

It seems lately that it is impossible to have an actual discussion on mn without someone either misinterpreting, misreading, twisting, or generally overreacting to everything

Example: poster starts a lighthearted thread about something which it should be obvious that it is lighthearted. A few posts in someone decides to take it very seriously and give the op a flaming. A few more posts in and someone suggests the thread title should be edited by mn hq to ensure people realise it's lighthearted, even though the subject was something like "ibu to burn the house down because I found a spider in the bathroom?"

Or: "ibu to think it's the end of the world because dh ate the chocolate?" response: "there are children dying in the world how dare you even post about chocolate," meant very seriously.

And yes, on the thread I was just on, recounting an incident 35 years ago where my cousin sent out fake invitations to a party unbeknowns to his parents and children turned up. Shock obviously mortifying at the time but 35 years on it's something that his friends remember and laugh at, something which was brought up in his best man's wedding speech, and yes, something which 35 years on is amusing in a "OMG his parents were mortified," way. And yet I have just been told I am sick in the head for finding children's utter devastation over a party they didn't attend 35 years ago amusing.

Mn has always been supportive but has also always had a reputation for being amusing, funny, lighthearted etc, but it is rapidly losing that reputation IMO.

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Maryz · 26/11/2015 15:52

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WizardOfToss · 26/11/2015 15:53

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iwantbrewstersmillions · 26/11/2015 15:54

Anything with politics is bizarre too. I know mn is left wing but no one can have an honest chat about things like labour response to the statement yesterday.

All politicos thought it was awful. People on mn thought it was amazing Confused

HaydeeofMonteCristo · 26/11/2015 15:55

I think everyone tries to "out-mumsnet" each other.

As in, I will come out with party line or stock phrases to prove I am a regular.

Sparklingbrook · 26/11/2015 15:56

I do often wonder how some OPs make it from a bizarre thought in the poster's head to an actual thread though. Some are best left as thoughts. Grin

Maryz · 26/11/2015 15:58

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PaulAnkaTheDog · 26/11/2015 16:00

I feel very sorry for step parents on here. They really seem to get a beating.

Obs2015 · 26/11/2015 16:01

Well I'm not surprised.
I'm longing for a serious debate where it doesn't get ..... Just silly really.
But they are few-and-far-between these days.

Passmethecrisps · 26/11/2015 16:01

IT is a bit like those moments where someone says something that they clearly thought was just in their head. Like that but typed and then totally brazened out

PaulAnkaTheDog · 26/11/2015 16:02

Also, certain posters don't want to help, they just want to bitch at someone. I think that's where a lot of the problems start.

kali110 · 26/11/2015 16:02

Yes paul.
People don't like the thread, just report it!

Obs2015 · 26/11/2015 16:03

Full moon? Wink

To think that there is a serious lack of perspective on mn now to the point it is not actually possible to have a decent discussion any more?
ScoutandAtticus · 26/11/2015 16:03

Yanbu. It seems this place is full of people who could have an argument with an empty room.

Sparklingbrook · 26/11/2015 16:04

It's been said many times but I would love a MumsnetLite and a MumsnetVairSerious.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 26/11/2015 16:05

The sanctimous arses would still weasel their way into Lite unfortunately. They wouldn't be able to resist.

Maryz · 26/11/2015 16:06

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bluebolt · 26/11/2015 16:06

Sometimes people try to find the angle, I was reading a thread about a new mum not sleeping, but even though with a disabled child who has not really slept for 10 years I know this is not what the OP needs to hear. But it did come up later in the thread by someone else. There would be no threads if we thought about the homeless, starving etc it would just be a board of I am thankful for the shit I have got because it is not as bad the shit someone else has.

magimedi · 26/11/2015 16:07

Paul - are you not being so unfair to weasels?

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MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 26/11/2015 16:07

YANBU. There was a beautiful thread that demonstrated how a large number of people just read the thread title, not even the original post, just the thread title and then post their oh so important thoughts! Unfortunately it must have been in chat because I can't find it.

But the number of people with limited comprehension skills is quite staggering. Add in those with no understanding of sarcasm or irony, plus those who extrapolate an argument to the point of absurdity, the competitive sadders and those who are just nasty bastards and it's a wonder anyone bothers to post at all.

And don't even get me started on those who just swoop in to criticise someone's grammar/punctuation/spelling because they are just oh-so-clever and "people need to be educated" by some smug twat don't you know? Hmm

Ultimately what we're seeing is how some people's egos are unchecked online and run riot. In real life people would avoid you if you behaved like that but as anyone can post on any thread you can't just hang out elsewhere unless you totally fuck off out of here.

Werksallhourz · 26/11/2015 16:07

iwant Anything with politics is bizarre too.

I work and am heavily involved in politics. Three members of my close family are elected representatives (of different parties, no less), and I know a lot of political bods working at constituency, party, local or national levels.

So I have a pretty good idea of various aspects of public opinion through public correspondence, canvassing reports etc, and the picture just does not match the impression you get on MN.

My suspicion is that there are quite a few hard-left political shills on Mumsnet that distort the debate. There are some hard-left groups that are known for this kind of "media infiltration", and it would actually surprise me if there weren't any on MN.

bumbleymummy · 26/11/2015 16:08

YANBU. Some people seem to get away with bring absolute dicks on threads without so much as an 'Ahem'.

strawberryandaflake · 26/11/2015 16:10

Yes, I wish people would read posts properly before replying. Nothing more satisfying though, than saying 'if you actually read what I have written' and knowing you are in the right! Smile

Lots of people looking to pick a silly online fight.

ShesAStar · 26/11/2015 16:13

My worst sort of posts are the ones where someone has a go at the OP, then someone else has a go making the exact same point in a slightly different way, then another person comes and does the same, and another, and another and on and on until the poor OP probably wants to cry. It's so unpleasant, just bulling behaviour.

ShesAStar · 26/11/2015 16:13

Bullying behaviour

PaulAnkaTheDog · 26/11/2015 16:14

magi apologies to the weasels. Blush

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