Colleague making remarks about my breasts....

[Weathergames]

Ok I know I'm not being U - more of a WWYD.

Posted about this guy last week - he's a prize prat who is very lazy, unpopular very "David Brent". I feel senior management have been trying to get rid of him for years but he never quite gives them enough rope to hang him with. A fair few of us would not be sad to see him go as he takes the piss and gives our team a bad name.

He is trying to get me to sign something to support his bid to be union rep for my Union and I have politely said no which is won't take for an answer and he actually tried to almost hoodwink me into "just signing this for me" today (luckily I had the heads up from another colleague).

He is married with children as am I - have worked together for 7 yrs so quite "familiar" I guess and I like (pity) his DW.

Couple of weeks ago (just he and I in the office) he remarks on how "huge your tits look" in that top and how he had "never realised how huge they are, how I must get a bad back and how OH is a lucky man" I was shocked and a bit mortified so quickly changed the subject without commenting (hoping it was obvious I was uncomfortable) - I am not a prude but feel uncomfortable around him for the rest of the day.

He tried to open up the conversation again but I didn't engage.

I tried to mention it to my manager but she kind of brushed it aside (her manager hates him and I know is looking for any excuse to get rid of him).

Then today he brings it up again (alone again) and mentions how huge my 16 yr old DDs "tits" also are and again says he hadn't realised how "huge mine were" until "I wore that tight top" (it wasn't tight).

My colleagues want me to take this further (and I suspect nail the final nail in his coffin) but for some reason I feel really uncomfortable about doing this as I feel I should have challenged him myself - but I just felt so bloody awkward I also don't want the hassle and horrible atmosphere of it - and do I want to be responsible for someone losing their job?

He is a manager so well aware of sexual harassment policies.

So do I wait for my next opportunity and tell him or just hang him out to dry

I'm glad you've done that, Weather, but sorry you have to go through it at all. I hope things turn out okay.

Well done! Glad you and your colleague teamed up on this.

That was exactly what I said Op, you might regret not saying something to someone if it went further with one of the teenagers. I'm glad you felt able to report him, well done you.

Thanks for the update. I do think you have done the right thing. I'm sorry you had to deal with such a sleaze.

Another one here saying you have done the right thing in reporting him. Well done.

Well done OP!
Whatever happens now, whatever HR do, you can be comfortable that you have done the right thing.

Well done. Must have been difficult to report but you've done the right thing. People shouldn't be able to act like he has and get away with it.
And I can't believe he's now said things even more inappropriate when it was clear from your changing of subject that you were uncomfortable! What an arse.

I believe you po , thinking of you

That must have been really tough. But bullies like that man are relying on your silence to continue. I'm glad you had the support of a colleague as well. Fingers crossed he meets his Waterloo quicker than had been planned.

Ooh. My first deletion.

What did you say? Must have been pretty vile..?

It drives me crazy when comments get deleted and I don't know what they say!

Me? No. I was probably a bit forceful in my condemnation of the poster before me, who I reported. I guess they had a pop at me too, going by their second deletion straight after mine.

Anyhow, well done for reporting your colleague OP.

Yeh but now I need to know what the other poster said

One pp made several blaming comment and the other called him (I assume) for what he was.

I missed the comeback, Lweji. Was it a treat?

Oh, sorry, I was referring to most posts. I didn't see the very last one.

Well done for reporting, Weathergames.

Glad you've reported. This 'man' shouldn't be in the job imo

Peanutz was a troll (probably a previously banned brother to nicecarpet) who posted something about you wearing a different top, OP. MNHQ usually deletes posts that quote or point out a troll too.

Peanutz suggested that you shouldn't get your panties in a bunch, RomCom. Cliched as well as troll tastic, I'm afraid!

He's not a "man" Bacony; he's a man. It's unhelpful to "other" men that do this - they aren't some different species, just disgusting entitled dickheads.