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AIBU?

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Has anyone's dh done less than mine today?? surely not

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Candleabras · 08/11/2015 19:45

Today he has, dug potatoes and carrots for 5 people out of the garden, washed peeled and chopped them (for tomorrows tea), been to visit his mother, cooked tonight's tea and washed up (I prepared it) and will walk the dog at 9 tonight

Actually, writing it down it looks ok, but he will have spent about 7 hours watching tv by the time he goes to bed tonight, that's what pisses me off

AIBU?

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Original poster

Candleabras · 08/11/2015 20:41

he doesn't have a problem preparing tea for tomorrow, and I said it's the amount of time on his bum that annoys me.

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PrincessMouse · 08/11/2015 20:42

DH has looked after 22 month DD, entertained her, taken her out and done everything whilst I sat around all day complaining none stop about how ill I feel and the fact I am never drinking again. I rarely drink a lot because I have always been useless at it. Can't even remember last time I had a hangover.

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 08/11/2015 20:43

Sounds like a lot to me.
Mind you I am married to the original couch potato

AlwaysHope1 · 08/11/2015 20:43

But why does it annoy you??

MrsMolesworth · 08/11/2015 20:43

DH did some gardening and cooked a roast dinner. That's it afaik. Plenty for a Sunday.

Clobbered · 08/11/2015 20:43

Mine has made several cups of tea, drained some cabbage and answered the phone a few times. Got rid of an item on Freecycle, watched some TV and stared at a screen (work related) for the rest of the day.
YABVU.

AnotherDame · 08/11/2015 20:44

OP, What else would you have him do?
I'm assuming you both work full time? so why not allow a day for slobbing out in front of the telly? Would you rather he ran a marathon?

pudcat · 08/11/2015 20:45

He must have got up early to watch 7 hours of TV already plus doing all those jobs.

cardibach · 08/11/2015 20:45

We know it's the sitting watching to which irritates you - what we do t understand is why it irritates you! What do you want him to be doing?

FindoGask · 08/11/2015 20:47

My husband:

went to the supermarket
engaged 2 x children in wholesome kitchen-based baking activities
made a roast lunch
bathed 2 x children
is now doing a mountain of ironing

hoovered and tidied the house
did the washing up
read a bedtime story

I think I've had the easier day, mainly because of the ironing, but he does claim to enjoy this.

BuggersMuddle · 08/11/2015 20:47

I'm not really seeing the issue with the amount of time a grown man spends watching the TV when there's nothing more pressing to do.

I could see your point if there were a list of jobs needing done, or if he sat in front of the TV constantly (pretty boring), but as a one off? Meh. More to be bothered about.

We both work full time, so although we not doubt have our own opinions about watching Casualty while reading about gadgets you don't want (DP) or gaming with a bit of FB / MN (me), we tend to keep these to ourselves as long as they're not impacting other things we've agreed we'll do.

At the moment I'd love to have 7 hrs to watch TV, so I could with a catch up on my favourite shows / Game of Thrones box set not bloody Casualty

LadyMaryofDownt0n · 08/11/2015 20:48

Jeez it's Sunday, isn't that the day for all nothing if you please. IMO YABU. He sounds like he's done plenty.

Ps that must be a big dog!

LBOCS2 · 08/11/2015 20:49

Does it even matter? Presumably he does things the rest of the time? There's nothing glaringly outstanding on your list of things he must do that hasn't been done?

FWIW, DH got up with DD at 7.30 this morning and took her and the dog for a walk. When they got back we all went to the cinema, then to lunch. Got back, he mopped the kitchen floor and got the dishwasher on, I went and sorted out the garden and cleaned the patio. He cleared out the shoe racks and broke them down ready for replacement then watched the football, I made a cake, bottled my flavoured rum, made a simple dinner for us all - while he took the dog out. I've now sat down and he took DD for a bath and then bed. We've been fairly even today but usually he does a lot more than me.

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Candleabras · 08/11/2015 20:50

yep, he was up about 6 as usual and usually goes to bed late. he doesn't need much sleep. he works part time

some dh on this thread sound amazing husbands

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Ripeningapples · 08/11/2015 20:51

Mine did make me a cup of tea this morning but only because he wanted me to give him a lift to golf. He was at golf from 10.30 until 6pm!!!! Something to do with the 19th hole . He has filled the dishwasher after eating the roast lovingly made for him and has done the bins. He is now lying on the bed, "doing his accounts".

I have: made him a bacon sarnie, done three loads of laundry, done an hour's ironing, the dishwasher, tidied the dining room, fed the cat, done some general sorting, been to John Lewis to buy lights and curtain poles, cooked a roast and a fish pie for tomorrow.

He might also have had a little moan about the house not being tidy.

I am bloody exhausted and not feeling great and might not go to work tomorrow. But I don't feel cross with him, he doesn't have the option not to go to work tomorrow.

cardibach · 08/11/2015 20:52

Still haven't told us what annoys you so much OP, or what else you would have liked him to do...

2tired2bewitty · 08/11/2015 20:53

I'm confused, that sounds like you both did plenty for a Sunday.

Mine has spent most of the day sitting on his bum writing an essay. He has filled up the car and made custard though (I always burn the milk). I have entertained two small children, cooked, washed and cleaned all while heavily pregnant, but that's fine, cos the essay is important.

LBOCS2 · 08/11/2015 20:53

Oh, and I've just spotted that he has folded the clean washing which was sitting on the other chair, and he's dealt with one if not two loads of laundry.

mrssmith79 · 08/11/2015 20:53

Mine was out playing golf from 7:30 til 1, ate lunch, went to the pub for a few hours, came home, nap and supper and now we're watching x factor.
It's Sunday, do what we like day.

AlwaysHope1 · 08/11/2015 20:53

You sound like one of those people who think that having downtime = laziness or somebthing. I have a relative like this and she's a bloody nag, always wanting her dh and kids to be busy doing something.
You don't get to decide that because he works pt and doesn't need much sleep that he should spend his day busy doing stuff. How annoying!

pudcat · 08/11/2015 20:54

some dh on this thread sound amazing husbands
But so does yours.

Armi · 08/11/2015 20:54

Did he forget to worship at your altar of wonderfulness? I have an acquaintance who seems to expect her DH to behave like a large spaniel with opposable thumbs. Time spent watching the telly should be spent gazing at her and all that.

Am sure you aren't like that, OP.

Jhm9rhs · 08/11/2015 20:55

More than mine has done. Fuming.

Tolivebythesea · 08/11/2015 20:56

All mine did yesterday was go for a 2 hour bike ride.

All he has done today was go for a 2 hour bike ride.

pudcat · 08/11/2015 20:59

Are you looking for some excuse to leave him, because it sounds like it? Have you found someone else and want put the blame on your DH's so called laziness.

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