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AIBU?

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Original poster

Has anyone's dh done less than mine today?? surely not

305 replies

Candleabras · 08/11/2015 19:45

Today he has, dug potatoes and carrots for 5 people out of the garden, washed peeled and chopped them (for tomorrows tea), been to visit his mother, cooked tonight's tea and washed up (I prepared it) and will walk the dog at 9 tonight

Actually, writing it down it looks ok, but he will have spent about 7 hours watching tv by the time he goes to bed tonight, that's what pisses me off

AIBU?

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chillycurtains · 08/11/2015 21:32

Yes. YABU. Very unreasonable. Try joining him in a chilled day next Sunday. You might like it. Smile

TurnOffTheTv · 08/11/2015 21:32

FFS talk about dragging it out.

WHAT DO YOU WANT HIM TO DO?

Have you got a plan between you about the decorating?

PaulAnkaTheDog · 08/11/2015 21:34

Is this a stealth boast about how amazing you guys are? If not, loosen the fucking reigns and leave him alone!

fredfredgeorgejnrsnr · 08/11/2015 21:34

c'mon, be fair to the OP, she doesn't have time to decorate, she has all that ironing to put away, and prepping a roast dinner for a few people (but not the spuds or carrots or chicken parts of the roast obviously...)

PlentyOfPubeGardens · 08/11/2015 21:34

Ah right, so it's a wider problem, not just what's been done or not done today, and by whom?

Generally, I think it's good in a partnership to be aiming for equal leisure time so if that isn't happening in the longer term (i.e. not just a one-day snapshot) it would be good to sort it.

Does he actually have more skills for doing the house up than you do? IME it's one of those things that men are just expected to know about, in the same way that women are expected to be good at cooking and cleaning.

I can sympathise, we also live in a bit of a shit hole because we are both crap at DIY and decorating.

SocksRock · 08/11/2015 21:40

Everybody was fed. Nobody is dead.

Do I get a prize?

PaulAnkaTheDog · 08/11/2015 21:40

Also, you sound like a friggin nightmare. If this thread was a man talking about his wife he would get flamed to hell, called a controlling abusive bastard and a worthless, awful piece of crap.

catrin · 08/11/2015 21:44

To be fair to him, he foraged, peeled, chopped, cooked, washed up, sorted out both his mother and the dog and you expected him to have fitted in decorating?

In future, could you not do all the above to free him up for doing the decorating? The bloke could shove a paint roller up his arse, but failing that, I am unsure where he'd find the time to fit much more in....

annandale · 08/11/2015 21:48

Decorating and diy are horrible. Make a plan to pay someone else to do it even if it will take years.

Dowser · 08/11/2015 21:49

My dh walked with me for lunch and then got into a taxi for dinner with me.

And I've done the same ;-)

cardibach · 08/11/2015 21:50

I'm a bit suspicious about this sudden decorating. You were asked repeatedly whether there was something else you would have liked him to do, and it took you 5 pages to think of something? Forgive me for doubting the existence of decorating.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 08/11/2015 21:52

Op, just saw about the decorating.

I also noticed that on your list of today's activities there was no mention of you doing any...

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Candleabras · 08/11/2015 21:59

Can't do the decorating, as all the walls need rewiring and then replastering first, and its needed that doing since we moved in 18 years ago. I can't do it, he can't be bothered and we can't afford someone to do it for us as he only works part time, and likes to watch TV too much. If he's not watching TV and busy doing something, it at least makes me think he's not lazy after all.

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PaulAnkaTheDog · 08/11/2015 22:04

Learn to do it and stop leaving it all to him. 18 years? You're being fucking ridiculous.

TheJiminyConjecture · 08/11/2015 22:04

OP I think you're getting a bit of a kicking because your post made him sound quite productive to be honest. It's clear that the TV watching is grating because he has more leisure time than you (assuming that you work more hours). Why does he work part time? Is he doing most of the child care or are his days off his own?

BillyDaveysDaughter · 08/11/2015 22:06

Hmm. I have long suspected that I'm the lazy one around here. My defence is that my DH is so quick to take the piss or find a complaint about the way I do things, that I have slowly backed away and left him to do everything himself. Wink

Coconutty · 08/11/2015 22:09

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CremeEggThief · 08/11/2015 22:10

YABU. All I did was made tea and toast, then made dinner and another cup of tea and washed up and wiped the surfaces down. I didn't even put away all the clean laundry.

TurnOffTheTv · 08/11/2015 22:12

Is he an elctrician or a plasterer?

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Candleabras · 08/11/2015 22:13

Learn how to do the re wiring? Are you kidding me, how am i being ridiculous?

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Candleabras · 08/11/2015 22:16

No, he's an accountant

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AlwaysHope1 · 08/11/2015 22:16

So why should he be doing it and not you??

PaulAnkaTheDog · 08/11/2015 22:16

Is he an electrician? yet another thing you failed to mention that's completely relevant

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Candleabras · 08/11/2015 22:19

How can I do the rewiring, I'm not an electrician!

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TurnOffTheTv · 08/11/2015 22:20

And neither is he, so once again,

What exactly do you want him to do???

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