Was the man in the wheelchair BU?

[VulvaVoom]

I'm only mentioning his wheelchair because I guess it's relevant to how people responded to him.

We were in a small cafe in a park late yesterday pm waiting for some child friendly 'fireworks' - it was a laser show thing.

Me my DM and DD got there really early and got a hot drink. A man came in, in a wheelchair that he was maneuvering himself by using his foot.

From a brief chat we had with him it seemed like he could have had something like cereal palsy but obviously I don't know.

When a BBQ gazebo area was set up outside, he left his takeaway drink on the table and went outside. The cafe started to get really busy and a group of people, several mums with about 6 children took the table next to 'his'.

Anyway he comes back in and shouts to the women to move his table back and away from the children as he was saying his drink would get spilled.

The mums were shocked at the outburst but moved the table away for him anyway.

I wouldn't have bothered posting but he did it about another 3 times to other people who dared to sit at his table. Even though he was outside, so it was a 'free' table. He wasn't even particularly nice about it but I noticed people were really quick to move even if their children had just sat down. Should they have? I felt annoyed on their behalf and felt he was being quite rude.

[SuperFlyHigh]

Cool :-)

[Caprinihahahaha]

[MiscellaneousAssortment]

Caprinihahahaha and DawnDonna and DDsDD

Thanks for your insightful and also cheering posts :)

Ok, am going in... Fireworks ahoy, wish me LUCK! (Braces self)

[Caprinihahahaha]

Good luck!

[Dawndonnaagain]

Good Luck, hope you have a great time!

[ToadsJustFellFromTheSky]

This is probably not the right time to do this, but I would like to apologise (again) for any upset I have caused. I can be a real bitch sometimes but it just comes out and it's like I can't help it .

[MiscellaneousAssortment]

I did it :)

Midway through my hideous pain and agony as a consequence, but I got through it and DS had a brilliant time.

The security guys let me in free at a side entrance which was super kind and am very very grateful for, especially as my scooter got stuck and took ages to get out and back, so that saved money went straight onto the extra hours carer pay. Phew!

It was sooo muddy, which I hadn't planned enough around, park looked ok before hundreds of feet churned it up!

I got a lot of 'you're in the way' glares and sighs whilst staying on the mats put down due to the mud. And the usual people taking advantage of nice people in the crowd making room for me to reverse, who start another way through cutting across the gap I need to actually move, grrr.

I wonder if people were cross when I got 'special treatment' at the entrance, and they didn't? And I wonder if they also wanted the same 'opportunity' when I got stuck in the deep mud and had to wait ages before I could attract someone's attention and before someone called over some security guys and had to explain and beg them to get their shoes muddy (& splodges on trousers too, was v muddy!), and then find a colleague who would get muddy to help me etc etc...

So, some lovely people made it possible, and they outweighed the rubbish ones :)

[BigChocFrenzy]

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I hadn't thought about scooters getting stuck in mad.
Your DS is a lucky lad to have you as his mum and he'll remember this special outing.

[BigChocFrenzy]

mud !

[Dawndonnaagain]

Glad your DS had a lovely time, sorry you're still expected to put up with shit from people unwilling/unable to empathise.

[salsmum]

I have a daughter with C.P. cerebral palsy, she hates eating in public because her disability makes her cough and choke when eating...the last thing she'd want while on the rare occasions she eats out is a bunch of mums and kids sat at her table looking agog (and making comments) which has happened while she's trying to eat away from the crowds.
some disabled people are rude as said they are people the same as anyone else and many times when my daughter is out she meets lots of rude able bodied folks who think its quite ok to stare/comment loudly and stand in front of her chair after shoving in front of her which 99% of the time she doesn't comment on....but just that one time when she's been awake all night through pain, has had another carer cancel at last minute making her late somewhere or sat at a bus stop in the rain watching 2 buses go past with buggies in the wheelchair bays or having severe hip pains because the wheelchair clinic still hasn't got her new seating in (3 weeks after ordering) she may actually have a shyte day and be in a foul mood just as anyone else has the right to have being in a wheelchair doesn't automatically make someone humble and kind any more than being a parent doesn't automatically make you Jo Frost! I personally don't mind sharing a table with folks with children/toddlers/babies but not everyone feels that way and some hate eating on those tiny tables next to a stranger/s (for many reasons). Would the O.P. have mentioned this if the man wasn't in a wheelchair??? .

[salsmum]

Sorry meant to add I will go with my daughter to see the lights/fireworks at my local shopping centre on Friday...we go early so that she can sit at the front in her chair and see the stage celebs who switch on every year lots of parents come into the disabled seating area saying their lil one's cant see in the crowd they usually arrive later and then proceed to stand in front of my daughters chair with their lil ones on their shoulders..when I politely ask them to step to one side so that my daughter can also see they don't always take kindly to my request so it does actually work both ways.