Was the man in the wheelchair BU?

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I'm only mentioning his wheelchair because I guess it's relevant to how people responded to him.

We were in a small cafe in a park late yesterday pm waiting for some child friendly 'fireworks' - it was a laser show thing.

Me my DM and DD got there really early and got a hot drink. A man came in, in a wheelchair that he was maneuvering himself by using his foot.

From a brief chat we had with him it seemed like he could have had something like cereal palsy but obviously I don't know.

When a BBQ gazebo area was set up outside, he left his takeaway drink on the table and went outside. The cafe started to get really busy and a group of people, several mums with about 6 children took the table next to 'his'.

Anyway he comes back in and shouts to the women to move his table back and away from the children as he was saying his drink would get spilled.

The mums were shocked at the outburst but moved the table away for him anyway.

I wouldn't have bothered posting but he did it about another 3 times to other people who dared to sit at his table. Even though he was outside, so it was a 'free' table. He wasn't even particularly nice about it but I noticed people were really quick to move even if their children had just sat down. Should they have? I felt annoyed on their behalf and felt he was being quite rude.

Aw, bless you dawn. I've seen much ruder here.

Again. No hot drink in his hand just a burger and he moved the wheelchair with his foot. No saying that's not difficult!

A part of the cafe set up a BBQ outside for the fireworks bug he was in and out unrelated to the burger several times.

Anyway that's it from me. Don't want to say anything further that will aggregate people but do carry on.

Onto other things: Yes, he may have been being rude, but it may have been other things. My dd has to 'shout' or speak loudly to project air past her vocal chords, she has a form of CP.

perhaps OP you should try a day in his wheels and then judge.
my adult child is a WC user and every outing is a nightmare

Dawndonnaagain mine does too and so do most of the people i know with cp

Errm the one I reported and was deleted would be a good place to start looking at yourself, goodnight!

goodnight yes even if he was "shouting aggressively" and making me feel like an unfit mother. Coffee shop hot drinks and young children's skin do not mix as any burns unit will attest.

I find when you're in a wheelchair you have to shout speak loudly because people think you're invisible don't seem to see you sometimes!

No problem with hands as he came back in eating a burger.

So let me get this right

He bought a drink and put it on a table so he could go outside and get a burger and while he was off getting a burger at least one group moved his table and others tried to sit where he was sitting.

Being an occasional wheelchair user it may well have been the only table he could maneuver the chair to.

You mean the bingo one? I wasn't notified of that, had to go back and check. That's hilarious. It was obviously a comment on how MN posters views anyone who acts like a twat - that there must be some underlying cause. Nope, 99% of the time, they're just a twat.

Bless MNHQ (and you for reporting it!). Oh well, better bow out of this bunfight now, AIBU vipers are all out in force

YANBU, I personally think he was rude.

DB's FIL is a paraplegic with cerebral palsy who uses a wheelchair and there's no way ever he'd be rude or shout or demand others moved...

He regularly goes out in London and his home city (SW England) and eats out a lot with family and by himself at restaurants, cafes, rugby, art galleries and museums etc. And manouevres the wheelchair by himself too.

If he did want a drink to be moved (he wouldn't be so selfish asking a table to be moved) he would ask politely and not shout.

Yes people who act like twats are indeed often twats

Perhaps the OP did start this thread to slag off the man in the wheelchair or to be a dick to people with disabilities. Personally I don't see that but my confused autistic brain often struggles to see people's intentions.

However some of the replies on this thread are reminding me again why I have always avoided the SN boards and why I am glad us mumsnetters with SN fought so hard for (and got) our own topic.

I think I would be a bit scared if I accidently annoyed some of you.

Well thanks toads.

I am also sort of wondering why was he would be at an event where he knew children would be, particularly if he thought they'd run around etc.... And knock over drinks.

I was at a fireworks event last night and about 2 hours earlier there was a separate children's display which of course I avoided (not to avoid the kids but to let them have fun unimpeded by inebriated adults) (of whom there were a fair few at the adults event me included!).

Oh-ho fanjo I see what you did there! Very clever, I almost didn't notice it, it was so well done. Masterful, really.

Notice I haven't called you a name, though, have I? But no, no, you go on, do you. Bein' all superior and whatnot. It's awe-inspiring.

Whatever goodnight

Oh DB's FIL has an electric wheelchair. Which I think he operates with his one useable hand.

It was your general attitude I reported goddnight. It just happened to be that post that tipped it for me. HTH

I left the school playground 25 years ago. Not going back there on here

To quote fanjo, the COOLEST OF THE COOL, fairy:

Whatever. Like totes. Whatever.

I can't quite tell if you're being sarcastic Fanjo but ime it's true.

It doesn't really matter now though, we have our own safe place .

Jesus wept! Are you 12?

Toads no I was slightly hurt. But glad you have a safe place away from scary old me who is so nasty to adults with disabilities. (Slight sarcasm there yes)