To wish I didn't have to do drop off for neighbour's kids for 2 weeks?

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Neighbour has asked me whether I can do the morning school drop off for her two kids for 2 weeks. I said I can because she used to give me and DD lifts to school every day for about a year. She has a job which finishes at 2.40 so I'm wondering whether she will ask me to do the pick up some days, too.
AIBU to feel uncomfortable about this situation? I'm stressed at best in the mornings and it's so difficult to find parking space near the school. I can get DD and myself ready on time at 8.15am. But these two kids usually leave home around 8.30 and I'm worried that they won't be ready on time and will delay us all to get to school. Neighbour lives about 2 doors down, by the way.
I'm ready to accept I'm wrong, so please be honest. Thanks in advance!

As its only for two weeks I think you should do it, especially as she took your dd to school for a year!

Have you told her it's conditional on leaving at 8.15?

Given that she drove you to school for a year, I think you do owe her this favour. If you were willing to accept favours, you have to be willing to reciprocate with goid grace.

That said, you are within your rights to expect them to be ready at the time you need to leave. You do need to kake them aware of this in advance though.

Laurey, yes I have told her that we are leaving at 8.15, however, I'm not sure that they'll stick to it as they have form for being late. Sigh...yes, Spurtle, I know I should suck it up for 2 weeks. It's just that when she gave of its to DD, I always went with her, too. So she wasn't exactly responsible for DD. But in this case, I'd be responsible for her kids, which I'm not too comfortable about.

But you find parking space when delivering your own dd??

of its = lifts

I said I can because she used to give me and DD lifts to school every day for about a year.

So it was OK for them to take your DD for a year, yet you don't want to do it for 2 weeks

Floggy - yes I do as we leave very early and arrive at school very early. So DD and I sit in the car chatting, reading etc. till it's time for school doors to open.

She gave you lifts for a year. Yes you definitely can't say no without looking ungrateful and rude. Its only 2 weeks, if you end up late a few times, so be it. Just ask them to be ready for 8.10 each day.

Yabu yes.
The reasons you give don't seem enough for you to feel like this, is there something else going on?

Yabu, can't believe how selfish you're being, and instead of leaving so early and pointlessly sitting in the car for ages why not leave later and simply drop off and drive away.

Why did you accept lift from this woman for a year?

Is this one of those stupid reverse threads?

So neighbour did you a huge favour for a long time and you're moaning about 2 weeks? Wow. YABU. Last year a friend collected dd1 one day a week for me and liked after her for 15 minutes, this year I take her dd to school one morning a week. Never have I moaned. Mornings are stressful yes and I have 3 dc to get ready of my own (2 of them in reception). If I was your neighbour and saw this I would be really hurt and cross with you and your one sided friendship.

Yabu. Read op back to yourself and have a serious think.

I don't understand the stress for you of being responsible for her kids. Sometimes having extra kids around changes the dynamics and can make it more fun. I'm sure the two weeks will pass quickly especially if, when you pick them up, you make the choice to show kindness and fun towards them even if the school run feels stressful.

Actually, yes, must be a reverse with massive holes in the story.

Looked not liked.

Agree with pp. You owe her a favour. Does driving / parking stress you? Is that why you're worried about being late and then not being able to park and then being extra late etc.? If that's it then I would use this as an exercise to get your confidence up! And yy to stipulating that your neighbour's dc should be ready.

Of course you should do it you owe her big time.

Will it definitely only be for 2 weeks?
You have to do that as she has done you a favour, but you don't have to feel guilty if you say no to longer. You can just cite you were late for those two weeks and it was too stressful. See it may do you a favour long term for them to be late.

Yes, I know IBU. Thanks for your replies.

I'll just give a back story to this. A year ago, neighbour finds out that DD is going to the same school as her kids. She then offers lifts. I say no, thanks, we don't mind walking. She then insists. So I accept. But I try to walk with DD as much as possible (by giving excuses like we are going to library, play date etc) so that we don't have to depend on them all the time.

I know I sound like an ungrateful b* and I probably am. But said neighbour has somewhat blurred boundaries. She insists on DD going over to her house to play with her sons but Dh and I never allowed her to, because the older son has been rough with her in the past.

Neighbour is starting a new job which finishes at 2.40 and school finishes at 3. If she asks me to do the pick up as well, is it ok to tell her that sorry but DD has after school club on that day, we are bringing home a friend so no room in the car etc?

Why did you accept lifts from her for a full year if she was making your DD late every day?

I think you have got off lightly, she could just as easily have asked you to return the favour and drop off her DCs for a year.

You have just the one, could you walk down to hers at 8.00am and collect her DC that way you can give her a hand herding them out of the door?

You could walk with her DC to save you the stress of driving/parking?

That thing of giving a backstory when lots of people have replied on the bare facts - that's known as drip feeding. Which is unpopular when you are asking complete strangers for their opinions.