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AIBU?

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To wish I didn't have to do drop off for neighbour's kids for 2 weeks?

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Ironfloor · 01/11/2015 18:27

Neighbour has asked me whether I can do the morning school drop off for her two kids for 2 weeks. I said I can because she used to give me and DD lifts to school every day for about a year. She has a job which finishes at 2.40 so I'm wondering whether she will ask me to do the pick up some days, too.
AIBU to feel uncomfortable about this situation? I'm stressed at best in the mornings and it's so difficult to find parking space near the school. I can get DD and myself ready on time at 8.15am. But these two kids usually leave home around 8.30 and I'm worried that they won't be ready on time and will delay us all to get to school. Neighbour lives about 2 doors down, by the way.
I'm ready to accept I'm wrong, so please be honest. Thanks in advance!

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LetGoOrBeDragged · 12/11/2015 21:47

When it's your own child who has to go to school, you sometimes have little choice but to take their poorly sibling with you on the school run.

I'd be mightily fucked off if I had to take my own unwell child on a school run, to take someone else's dc to school, so their own parents could get to work!

thickgit · 12/11/2015 23:49

No brainer. A whole year. Two weeks. Hello?

Ironfloor · 13/11/2015 07:16

MillionToOneChances - errrm, no, I wouldn't do that. Read what LetGo said.

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Ironfloor · 13/11/2015 09:44

Woohoo, last drop off done and I'm opening the champagne! I'm so looking forward to just dropping off my DD and not having to manoeuvre 3 kids on narrow pavements and across the road.

MillionToOneChances - why exactly would I drag my poorly DD to school just to drop off neighbour's kids? If they were my kids, of course I have no choice. But neighbour should sort out childcare for them.

To everyone who said since I accepted lifts from her for one year, I have to help her out, well, I always went with DD, I was responsible for her, not neighbour. In this case, I have to be responsible for them. So there is a difference.

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MillionToOneChances · 13/11/2015 09:54

Glad it's over! I don't think you had any obligation to her at all, and I think I posted that higher up, but if you've committed to help and don't realise your daughter is ill before the mum has gone to work, I think you have to suck it up. If you realised before mum had gone to work you should have just texted and said you couldn't help that day. I just think you're focussing on the wrong part of the issue - you minded about your daughter being ill and still having to help because you didn't want to help in the first place! So don't help next time...

knickernicker · 13/11/2015 10:09

I think you should now cancel the arrangement for the times her dh is away.

Ironfloor · 13/11/2015 10:27

Million - yes, you are right. I couldn't inform her before she left to work that DD is not going to school, which is why I dropped the kids while DD stayed at home with DH, anyway. But the reason why I couldn't tell her early enough was because DD seemed OK in the morning but her condition started deteriorating afterwards. This is the problem with the whole helping out thing. There is no flexibility.

Anyway, neighbour came to thanked me later and she was very grateful. And from the way she spoke, I assume she is not going to palm her kids off to me again when hubby goes abroad. Usually, his next trip will not be for a couple of months and I hope that is long enough for her to sort out a childminder or breakfast club.

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MillionToOneChances · 13/11/2015 22:01

Great, sounds like you can stay on friendly terms :)

ovenchips · 14/11/2015 11:33

Sounds like it has all turned out to be not such a big deal then. Some things really aren't worth the angst.

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