DH annoyed that we're not sleeping in the same bedroom

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My DH has restless feet at night which wakes me up. My job is really stressful and I can't cope with being tired. We have moved to sleeping in separate bedrooms. I love my DH very much and we get on so well but he is getting frustrated at us being apart. We did try twin beds in the same room but I am a light sleeper (he always has to get up in the middle of the night for a toilet stop etc.) DH is saying I need to go to the doctors to get this resolved. TBH I like being in a room on my own just to relax and have some quiet in the evenings.

Notimefortossers the OP said that she was getting marked down at work and considering getting a different job because of the effects of lack of sleep.

I don't think she's getting enough sleep. Given that her partner has rejected suggestions that he goes to the doctor and rejected that she has some nights away from him and doesn't shut up when she asks - what can she do to get enough sleep?

Nice party, Emma

Ftr, Notime missed the business about persistent daybreak chattering (and answering himself ) and failed to register that he's already refused to see a doctor. Both highly significant points. I think there was another important one, too, but I'm having too much fun at this party to scroll back.

Riiiight. To get back to his possible sleep disorder, the OP's DH may or may not have RLS, because HE seems to be able to sleep despite his leg twitches. Which is not typical. But it could get worse over time, as mine did.

I had it for many years and it gradually worsened until I could only sleep in 15 minute naps at best. And yes, I tried all the home remedies suggested, exercised, cut out caffeine/alcohol, took magnesium, quinine, melatonin, gels, whatever I could get my hands on. Nothing worked.

My GP prescribed Ropinirole which I've now been taking for a few years. It is not a cure but a daily tablet means I can sleep. If his legs get worse I would recommend giving it a try. Perhaps when he is thrashing about so much that it disturbs him too he may realise he has a sleep disorder.

Perhaps continuing to sleep apart may give him an incentive to sort it out.
(My DH was a saint, he can sleep on a fence but I did disturb him a fair bit)
Best of luck, OP.