to expect a text after we slept together?

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So I've been seeing a guy for around a month and we had our fifth date and I stayed at his and we slept together.

We both left early as he had work.

He would have finished work by now and I've heard nothing from him.

Am I expecting too much?

My preference would be for a man to contact me first as was the OP's preference

The problem with sticking rigidly to this is.....how does the man know you are sat waiting for him to text

SuperFlyHigh - well from your comment I take that you think that AIBU is basically a place where you ask questions and must fully expect to get judged, ridiculed, dismissed, and bullied just because you don't play to the (baying) crowd. If it's not what you think then re-read the thread because that's how I saw it, and certainly not for the first time here.

Strawberry - I know not all vipers which is great. But the vipers that are here seem to have more venom than they used to (old timer here). And there are more vipers.

It makes me sad that when we ask for advice on this board we are now required by everyone to give full chapter and verse as well as what colour knickers we are wearing, rather than being able to ask on a topline level.

I still think that on the whole MN is a fab place, but is definitely less supportive than it used to be. Sisterhood and all that...

Skip no one said AIBU was a happy smiley place - we all know you want the other side aka NMs for that.

OP could have quite easily posted her dilemma in relationships and not got the judging, ridiculing, dismissiveness and bullying that she got in AIBU. Of course some people will be annoyed if there isn't an outcome.

It isn't as if OP didn't know about AIBU either as she's not a New User.

I agree she didn't get the support here on AIBU but why post here if she knows how soon (And especially re her topic) it can turn into a baying mob mentality. And before you start I didn't put the boot in.

I think it's sad that it is like that. I know that it is often that way, but now everyone seems to just shrug and accept that which seems fucking mental to me. It's like allowing bullies in the corner of the playground to say what ever they like to any poor soul who ventures near them, but that's OK because it's the bullies' corner. It's like the bloody Lord of the Flies round here.

I wonder - do all those who spend their time on AIBU who so quick to censure and criticise act the same to people who ask them for advice in real life? Doubt it - they simply wouldn't have the guts, so why do it here?

Because friends tend to tell you what they think you want to hear! AIBU is a place to come to get a balanced viewpoint. You get extremes of opinion as has happened here.

I don't see bullying on this thread. I see a split of opinion about what OP should do, and in lots of posters' view it IS a feminist issue, and as such can get quite contentious. Opposing opinions are appearing on this thread, and If a group of them disagree with yours, SkipToTheGoodBit, I don't see why that has to come under the bracket of "bullying."

As someone else has said, if you want everyone to agree with you (whether they do actually agree or not), and get virtual sympathetic nods, then post on NM. If you want to hear a variety of opinions, and consider that there may be alternative ones to yours (fancy that!), then post on here.

I have been told I am wrong by the majority on a couple of occasions, and it gave me real food for thought. This isn't even a majority opinion.! It was roughly evenly split over what she should do. Those that felt strongly about it felt REALLY strongly about it, and that has become apparent. No need to call the other "side" bullies!

Curlyhaired I agree with all you say. I myself rarely start new posts on AIBU, sometimes reply to posts there (I hope I try to be balanced in my response), and think some topics are bonkers so leave well alone.

But ever since I joined here (on I think third name due to MN virus a year ago) I've always known that AIBU is a place where you get volatile people, extremes of opinion, and not always the handholding you want. Certain topics (hatred of MIL/bridezilla etc) DO attract sympathy here and God forbid if the subject themselves posted (MIL, bridezilla etc) they'd most likely get short shift here.... I'm not saying the OP in this case DID want handholding and special treatment but no one reallly bullied her and certainly was no nastiness.

It's a bit like a soap opera because yes, we all like to know the next instalment/episode and OP has left it wide open for guesswork (her perorgative).

In fact even on AIBU there's the occasional swear word, nastiness but it all blows over. On the rare occasion I've been rude, nasty to someone I think I apologised on the board and the person accepted my apology. Also not everyone will be your friend here....

Anyway that's my tuppenceworth.