Im a dater of the 90s too...except, no,im not, because there really wasnt dating in the 90s ime.
I was young, i'd get a crush on a guy I knew, get drunk at a party, sleep with him, move in with him, then he would be my boyfriend.
Its different now, with online dating, and its different when you are older.
Personally I dont stay in contact several times a day, and I do prefer to talk on the phone, rather than text, but thats probably my age.
When I was 25 I would have passionately agreed with the "its all equal, men are people too " argument. I would have taken umbrage at the very idea that any woman had to wait around for a text, and couldnt make the first move.
But, actually, men and women are generally a bit different in the way they perceieve sex and relationships. It isnt good to be one of those women who expects "comittment" from every guy she meets, but many women find it difficult to seperate physical intimacy and emotions.
I know I do, whereas most men I know can easily compartmentalize between sex just for fun with women they are definitly not in love with, and meaningful encounters.
The trouble is, they dont always make it clear which they think it is. A good friend of mine was dating a woman for a while, and took her for an impromptu weekend in Paris. While he was saying to his friends it was just a casual thing, and probably not going anywhere, she must have been thinking something quite different.
Sorry, I am the biggest feminist ever, and maybe the difference is socially constructed, but it is there. It is annoying though. When I did online dating nobody I "liked" first messaged me. Ever. Tons of "likes" and messages from men (honest!) but never if I made the first move. Infuriating.
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