to expect a text after we slept together?

[BigOCupOfTea]

So I've been seeing a guy for around a month and we had our fifth date and I stayed at his and we slept together.

We both left early as he had work.

He would have finished work by now and I've heard nothing from him.

Am I expecting too much?

If anyone told her she was insecure I certainly didn't.

On the dating scene, if I have to ask, I Already know the answer. I wouldnt have to ask. It would flow. The OP wasnt so sure and I supported her.

Some people have become waaaaay too invested in this.

I didnt make a fool of her.

I don't think I've ever seen so much fuss over something so trivial.

A man and a woman shag.

Woman wants text contact with man but refuses to initiate it.

Man texts woman after he's finished work.

And five hundred posts later, we're all still here talking about it

Fuck this. I'm off to open the wine.

some people have mocked the op and hence i wouldnt blame her for not coming back.

Im not invested as such, I dont invest in online. I do however get frustrated when people become nasty about a question.

I'm beginning to suspect that I offended pinot on a thread in the past quite frankly.

Then stop thinking Dixie, it's bloody bad for you

Man usually texts woman during work

this stops after shag

the pattern changes

woman wonders why

woman thinks is this normal

woman thinks is she being needy

woman asks mumsnet

woman gets lots of negative feedback

woman doesnt want to post any more

some people have mocked the op and hence i wouldnt blame her for not coming back.
Not many though, there were loads of supporters here
I was totally with her till she left us hanging....
For her to finally get a text and not share it with so many ladies (including you) who made an effort to help her, is a bit thoughtless and odd!

Where are you OP? I'm invested here, I want to know what he said...

I dont really need a conclusion, why would you?

People ask things, you say whatever.

No one in real life has ever come back and told me an outcome so im not sure online should be any different.

"It's the man's place to text because in male culture sex is a conquest. The OP has "given it up'" because she liked him. The very LEAST he can do is text her."

I've thought of various long-winded answers to this. I'll give you the edited highlights: bollocks it is.

It is bollox gabilan.

It is the same whether there are bollox involved or not.

Umph I just rtft and can't believe we still don't know what's in the text!

No one in real life has ever come back and told me an outcome so im not sure online should be any different.
But it's not that she didn't come back, it's the fact that she wrote half the update... She bothered to say he texted her but not what about
Anyway her life her texts , hope she got something put of this thread at least

i have no idea why people need that? its on line, you take from it what you will. I advised her not to post back due to the horrible things people said.

The op was only asking what to do... instead she got 20 pages of anger.

very worrying.

why do you care? whos the investor?

I don't mind that she didn't come back.... She might come tomorrow

The test scarlet is to see if he is emotionally tunes in to me. Not texting shows he isn't. I don't see that as a skill that can be learned, so after five weeks I'd give it up. That said, in my younger days I put up with immense emotional fuckwittery and abuse. I'm very lucky to have learned from bad experiences, and spent a long time single. So I appreciate how hard it can be.

I'm glad he texted her. I hope they have a happy ending.

Tuned, not tunes

I came back to see what had happened....and what happened was things got a bit weird.