If you had good friends visiting you for the weekend

[DisappointedOne]

and then your parents arranged a family lunch, would you bring the frIends along (they wouldn't know anyone else there) for the meal or would you just decline the invitation and do what you'd already planned? WIBU?

I think Clem has it. I know I'd feel like a tiger in a cage if I was stuck somewhere like you were and really had no reasonable way out.

I remember your other thread. Disappointed, I really think you know you're on the precipice of having to make a decision about your marriage, and you really don't want to have to make it.

The main issue isn't a hungry dd or inconsiderate iLs. It's that you are married to a man who doesn't give a shit about anyone other than himself. I think once you truly face up to that, you'll see what needs to be done.

I second NoSquirrels. Take the lead, take the car keys abd make things happen. If people won't fall in with it, it's no skin off your nose.

It all sounds dreadful. I haven't seen your birthday thread, but from the sounds of it, you've already done everything you can to make life bearable and it hasn't worked. I doubt anything will work, tbh.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do, though. Genuinely good luck.