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AIBU?

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To think that going out with the "girls" isn't the B all and end all and that maybe these people need to grow up and stop dumping their kids on people so that they can go out and get drunk!

438 replies

Suzi78 · 03/10/2015 15:28

Just that really. I have shall we say aquaintences on Facebook who I've known from various places, work, college, school etc and their posts are full of nights out, holidays, lunches etc and this is all they seem to care about. There are four women in particular, three of whom are single parents (if you can call it that) and the other is married. There Facebook feeds are all about how they can't wait to dump the kids on their fathers at the weekend as they can't wait to go clubbing, to parties, concerts etc etc, but are dreading their hangovers the next day!

Now I know that everyone is entitled to a bit of me time and shouldn't be begrudged a night out but with these women it's every single week! Three of them don't even work so I don't know how they afford to go out every week as well as buying a new outfit, getting their hair done weekly, manicures etc.
As far a I'm concerned (before anyone suggests it, and I know that they will) I'm not jealous, I'm relitively happy with my life and could chose to go out every weekend if I wanted to as I have enough friends who socialise in different circles and I'm always invited to go out, but I work all week, my children go to after school club so weekends are for family time. Now I know that people do things differently and whilst that's all good I don't know how these women can just dump their kids every week not spend any time with them and spend their money on goog out when their kids need things first. I know I'll probably get flamed for saying this but I dot care, I think it's disgrace, a parent is supposed to put her kids before everything (within reason) and clearly these women don't give a damn and would rather spend their time getting drunk on nights out than with their child and spend money on flashy clothes and haircuts rather than on their children, AIBU to think this is kind of sad?

OP posts:
WorraLiberty · 03/10/2015 15:31

How exactly does one manage to 'dump' their children with their parent?

Your OP is full of bile and vitriol.

I suggest you get yourself a hobby and fast.

Oysterbabe · 03/10/2015 15:31
Biscuit
LemonPied · 03/10/2015 15:31

They go out so therefore they don't give a damn about their kids?
Bugger me.

WorraLiberty · 03/10/2015 15:32

Oh and this is rather telling...

"a parent is supposed to put her kids before everything"

Just the women then?

Savagebeauty · 03/10/2015 15:32

I would rather spend my money on haircuts than on my children Grin

Suzi78 · 03/10/2015 15:33

Don't twist things, I've already said that I think that everyone is entitled to a night out or a bit of me time, but every single week, seriously?

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DiscoGoGo · 03/10/2015 15:33

Gawd I'd love to be able to "dump my kids on someone" so I could have a night out!

In fact am doing so towards the end of the month when FIL is having them so we can have a day out. Woohooo!

OP YABU

AnyFucker · 03/10/2015 15:33

three of whom are single parents (if you can call it that)

what the fuck does that mean ?

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 03/10/2015 15:33

I think your op is kind of sad.

DaddyPigIsMyParentingGuru · 03/10/2015 15:34

Haven't you posted this exact same thing before?Confused

AnyFucker · 03/10/2015 15:34

goady stuff and nonsense Hmm

LeftMyRidingCropInTheMortuary · 03/10/2015 15:34

Well just pity them, forget them and concentrate on your own family. Yanbu btw.

Suzi78 · 03/10/2015 15:34

I'm only referring to women and not men as the people I'm discussing in my posts are in fact, women!

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StillStayingClassySanDiego · 03/10/2015 15:34

Those children are with a parent so not being 'dumped'.

I think your post is nasty and ranting.

PotteringAlong · 03/10/2015 15:35

But they're not dumping their kids. They are facilitating access with their dad / leaving them at home with their dad. I don't see what the problem is?

Suzi78 · 03/10/2015 15:36

I'm not being goady, not in the slightest I'm merely posting about something I find irritating and kind of unreasonable, have I missed something or is that not allowed on mumsnet?.....

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MrsEvadneCake · 03/10/2015 15:36

Why not every single week?

They are Parents not martyrs. If that's how they choose to spend their time then whose business is it really? If you choose to spend it at home then that's your choice.

YABU

Lemonfizzypop · 03/10/2015 15:36

get a life

TheGirlFromIpanema · 03/10/2015 15:36

YABU a parent is supposed to out her kids before everything Hmm

If I put my kids first before everything they would probably be homeless and hungry Confused

Some normal people like to go out and let their hair down, so what? Each to their own and all that.

I would respectfully suggest that you need to get out more OP Wink

BasinHaircut · 03/10/2015 15:36

I think you need a night out love.

Oysterbabe · 03/10/2015 15:37

So the single parents look after their kids all week and go out with their friends at the weekend and allow the children to see their father and this means they don't give a shit about them?
Ok Hmm
You need to mind your own business.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 03/10/2015 15:37

Three of them don't even work so I don't know how they afford to go out every week as well as buying a new outfit, getting their hair done weekly, manicures etc.

This isn't your concern, why does it bother you so much?

Are you sure you're not a teeny weeny bit jealous Envy.

Suzi78 · 03/10/2015 15:37

So I must be a martyr then for not choosing to go out every weekend when I could if I wanted to?.....no, it's me wanting to see and spend time with my children.

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cuntycowfacemonkey · 03/10/2015 15:37

You sound a joy bet your kids love having you around all the time Hmm poor buggers

biscuitkumquat · 03/10/2015 15:38

YABU they can't wait to dump the kids on their fathers at the weekend

Has it occurred to you that they would maybe actually like to spend time with their children at the weekend, but it's their DC's time with their fathers, and rather than sit in the house looking at the 4 walls, they've chosen to fill their time seeing friends?

My ex DH sees his DS every weekend (he can't see him mid-week because of work), so I miss out every weekend.

Would you suggest that I stay in every weekend with my manky nails reading a good book?

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