To think that going out with the "girls" isn't the B all and end all and that maybe these people need to grow up and stop dumping their kids on people so that they can go out and get drunk!

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Just that really. I have shall we say aquaintences on Facebook who I've known from various places, work, college, school etc and their posts are full of nights out, holidays, lunches etc and this is all they seem to care about. There are four women in particular, three of whom are single parents (if you can call it that) and the other is married. There Facebook feeds are all about how they can't wait to dump the kids on their fathers at the weekend as they can't wait to go clubbing, to parties, concerts etc etc, but are dreading their hangovers the next day!

Now I know that everyone is entitled to a bit of me time and shouldn't be begrudged a night out but with these women it's every single week! Three of them don't even work so I don't know how they afford to go out every week as well as buying a new outfit, getting their hair done weekly, manicures etc.
As far a I'm concerned (before anyone suggests it, and I know that they will) I'm not jealous, I'm relitively happy with my life and could chose to go out every weekend if I wanted to as I have enough friends who socialise in different circles and I'm always invited to go out, but I work all week, my children go to after school club so weekends are for family time. Now I know that people do things differently and whilst that's all good I don't know how these women can just dump their kids every week not spend any time with them and spend their money on goog out when their kids need things first. I know I'll probably get flamed for saying this but I dot care, I think it's disgrace, a parent is supposed to put her kids before everything (within reason) and clearly these women don't give a damn and would rather spend their time getting drunk on nights out than with their child and spend money on flashy clothes and haircuts rather than on their children, AIBU to think this is kind of sad?

The fathers are dumping their kids on their mothers every time they go out to the pub after work. What's the difference?

Smug married looking down her nose at single people.

It would be a shame if your husband fucks off at some point OP and you're faced with the choice of sitting at home having a 'gab' or going out and having the chance to meet someone new.

Karma really does not favour the smug, remember that!

The fathers are dumping their kids on their mothers every time they go out to the pub after work. What's the difference? including the Ops husband by all accounts

Thinking about it Id love to go out have a good drink, have wild sex with a randomer and then eat a runny fried egg sandwich.

Sounds great.

Oh and who wants to read about boring crap on the Internet.

I don't want to know what you have fed your kids or what reading level they are on.

Either post a funny cat video or sod off.

I'm full of envy for these ladies on their nights out! My ds is 10 weeks and I've not ventured out alone yet,

I'd love a night out including a cocktail and chips n cheese on the way home!

OP, I'm pretty sure the NHS can help you with removing the enormous chip on your shoulder and stick up your arse.

So what do you expect the single mums to do when the kids are having access with their father?? Sit at home crying about how much they miss their children??

I also feel a bit sad that Women like the OP, who could be widowed at any time, don't feel that they could provide "a happy stable home" and follow their own interests.

My three DDs are all different personalities and will Parent differently (only one has children at present), but I can respect them and they can fully accept others that make different choices.

We are all off on holiday and me, my eldest and my Son In Laws will be getting hammered on at least two nights.

All this non acceptance doesn't bode well for a happy family life.

Thanks to this thread, I had a lovely runny egg sammich this morning.

Had a fried egg sandwich this morning. Very nice.

Yabu. Who made you judge and jury on others lifestyles? You come across as very bitter. Being a single parent is no walk in the park. The responsibility is 24/7 relentless. And if that's they way to relieve yourself of it then so be it. It's none of your business. Instead of concerning yourself so much with it try and chill out and concentrate on your own life.

Bacon, egg and tattie scone for me. I knew the op would go frothing berserker, it just took longer than I thought.

They don't dump their kids on their exes - it's the children's contact weekend with the non- resident parent and they have every right to go out and have fun on those weekends if they wish to.

Derek, that's just unacceptable. You must spend your day preparing for your dcs arrival. Prepare a home cooked dinner for him with organic, homegrown veg. You may as well make his lunch for tomorrow too, no sandwiches or crisps though! Perhaps some nice quinoa.

And don't forget to knit him a lovely jumper, it's getting a bit chilly now.

Snap out of that hangover, disgusting behaviour!

Ah well, you will have to be more prepared next time!

I once bought a randomer back, turned out he was a chef. I married him and have never had to make food since!

My eldest son is 8, I have no friends, my dh and I in 9 years of marriage and being parents have been out twice as a couple.

And are you pleased or sad about that cats?

cats that's sad.

No, no, it's not sad, it's stable.

Well according to the Op cats should be the happiest here! How odd she doesn't seem it, isn't it?!

Seriously I hope you are as happy as you can be cats. It does make me feel a little sad for you though.

eat you know you've "dumped" your boy on his grandma and your taking advantage of her and he'll be completely traumatised by it just so you could get plastered!

Oh wait seens you has a good time and he's enjoyed weekend with grandma!

Perhaps children should never see their fathers then, is that what the op is saying?

Wish I could meet a good fried egg cooker who would bring it to me in bed along with a frothy coffee whilst serenading me.

Think I will 'dump' the kids with their father next weekend and try and find one.

Then I can post it all on the Internet along with pictures for good measure.
Oh and sad faces of my dcs looking forlorn at the thought that their mother isn't hand stitched to their side 24/7.

No friends and never going out as a couple is stable? Er, okaaaay