To get very cross when DSD wears this shirt?

[LittleSnaily]

DSD has a shirt that says "escaped from psycho ward" on it.

I find it really offensive. Do has explained this to her but she still wears it.

She is always talking about people being racist and homophobic and how dreadful it is but then she does this to wind me up!

I have been a mental health patient in the past so I'm probably hyper sensitive.

Aibu?

So many people walking round waiting to be offended

Just because something 'offends' you doesn't mean it offends ithers. Feel 'offended', have a moan, deal with it and move on. That's life, not everyone likes everything!!

Yes it is sad that so many people can be hurt, and so many other people think it's fun to do so.

The OP is hurt by her DSD wearing a shirt she knows damn well upsets her and for good reason. Why is the right of this teenager to wear a (potentially) offensive t-shirt so very much more important than her step mothers right not to be taunted?

A person with any compassion would agree not to wear the t-shirt or at least to cover up the slogan around her step mother. The step-daughter obviously feels that some forms of discriminatory abuse are really wrong, but people with mental health issues are fair game.

Sadly I think that's not even an uncommon point of view.

Should everyone be forced to remove a t-shirt that someone else claims taunts them?

Who said anything about forcing? Would you choose to wear a shirt with a slogan that you knew upset someone in their presence on a regular basis? Isn't that really quite an unkind thing to do, and be making a statement about how little you cared about them or their opinion.

If I (for example) chose to wear a t-shirt that said 'I'm a crazy mong, me' in front of my sister who has a dd with Downs Syndrome I'd be being a bit of a cunt really, not some sort of free spirited rebel. I see this shirt in the same vein. I bet that the step daughter would be up in arms if the OP wore a shirt with a homophobic or racist message on it.

Why is the right of this teenager to wear a (potentially) offensive t-shirt so very much more important than her step mothers right not to be taunted?

Here. You imply that the current state of affairs is wrong, so the only conclusion to draw is that you want the opposite to happen. Which is, er, putting the rights of the offended ahead of any free speech.

I don't see unfettered free speech as something to fetishize.

No, you seem decidedly anti-free speech.

Well, the obvious thing to do in this situation is explain to SD that T Shirt makes her feel upset and explain why. The SD would probably decide not to wear it then.

Nooka I completely agree that we should be polite to people and not say hurtful things. However, I don't think that we should have laws banning people from saying offensive stuff. Also, it isn't always obvious what might cause offence to some people. The big example here is the T Shirt. It is all a matter of perception and reaction.