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Or am I just a heartless cow-bag?!

388 replies

MadHattersWineParty · 15/09/2015 09:51

Okay so this is trivial but I am still pissed off and I need a good old rant about it.

Out at a gig last night, obviously a tense undercurrent between two of the people there who are a couple and live together. I'll call them Chris and Lisa.

I was trying to actually enjoy myself and listen to the bloody band sp I didn't want to get embroiled in it, they argue a lot and the tension is really obvious at times.

Anyway to cut a long story a bit shorter, when it was time to leave she was nowhere to be found. Apparently though she had text Chris to say she was leaving us to it. Chris didn't seem bothered, the other member of the group (Dave) was getting concerned as she wouldn't answer her phone.

Now, she has serious form for flouncing off. Earlier this year she did it when we were abroad and informed us she was going to walk the five miles back to the hotel by herself along this little unlit road. Cue us all cutting short our night to get into a taxi and drive along until we found her.

The tube stop that would get her directly home was five minutes walk away, so I sent her a text to say text me when she got in. She didn't read it so I assumed it hadn't come through as she was on the tube. Anyway after about ten minutes Dave (whose own girlfriend couldn't make it as was ill at home in bed) gets a call to say she had been walking for ages and was in a strange part of town.

So I said, well she's obviously just trying to make a point now and get us all to worry about her. She didn't magic herself to a strange part of town, did she, when she could have just gone around the corner to the nearest station.

As I get up for work at 6am and it's now nearing midnight, I said I'd had enough. She wasn't drunk, she had money on her. I left her a voicemail to say get to the nearest station, or get a taxi if you have to, get home and drop me a text when you're there.

Anyway Chris is useless and is now drunk and says he's just going to go home. Dave says I'm being heartless and he's really worried about Lisa (he is now the only person she will answer the phone to as he's the only one indulging her at this point!) I said if he wants to go and get her that was up to him but she's perfectly capable and in my opinion acting really immaturely. During the course of this discussion (everywhere is shut now so we're just outside, and I just want to get home) she texts to say it's alright, she's on her way home but there are drunk people on the night bus and she feels vulnerable. I leave a message for Chris to meet her off the bus, which he apparently did. So Dave talks to her on the phone until she's back and texts me at 1:45am to say she's now back safely but he couldn't believe, as a 'fellow woman' that I'd been so bloody unsympathetic to her and how would I have liked to be in her shoes?!

Isn't it all a bit childish though, this flouncing off and expecting people to run around fretting and picking up the pieces? Or am I really just a crap mate?! we are all nearly thirty for God's sake!

OP posts:
ihatethecold · 21/09/2015 08:51

Send her a fake bill from the NHS for wasting resources!

MadHattersWineParty · 21/09/2015 08:52

Ok I couldn't resist at all (especially as there's quite a few 'oh Hun hope you're okay' type connects.

I've put: Bloody hell glad I stayed away from those Jaegerbombs! Seriously though your GP might be able to help you more than Accident and Emergency can.

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WhoTheFIsJeff · 21/09/2015 08:54

Good for you op. I'm a nurse and want to have words with the silly cow about going to a&e inappropriately.

Nabootique · 21/09/2015 08:55

Oooooh! This woman makes my flippin' blood boil! Chris just needs to man up and dump the twat. Presumably she isn't really liked by anyone in the group (apart from bollockless Dave) so perhaps you'd never have to see her again?

As an aside, I love how invested everyone is in this thread. It would never have happened if the friends had been referred to as A, B and C! Grin

Nabootique · 21/09/2015 08:56

Actually, I just remembered a time when XH drank best part of a bottle of brandy and then tried to claim food poisoning the following day, from something he had eaten more than 12 hours before.

iamEarthymama · 21/09/2015 08:58

I am the biggest fan of the NHS and I am so cross with this little madam!
Maybe people who rock up with hangovers should be charged the full cost of their time-wasting visits.

rollonthesummer · 21/09/2015 09:02

I love the Jaegerbomb comment! Have you had an replies?!

I think what's so good about this thread is that the OP isn't being crap and trodden all over-she's as outraged as the rest of us and isn't afraid to tell her!

rollonthesummer · 21/09/2015 09:04

Is she trying to make out that it's something other than a hangover?

MadHattersWineParty · 21/09/2015 09:08

No replies yet. I think so as Chris told her it was a hangover and she went nuts apparently, and said she's ill and reminded him that people can die of dehydration!

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Nabootique · 21/09/2015 09:20

People can die of alcohol poisoning. Drink responsibly!

Whoknewitcouldbeso · 21/09/2015 09:22

This delicate flower reminds me of those women of yesteryear that complained of having problems with their nerves and needing smelling salts for their feminine fainting.

I have a feeling Chris will be getting rid of her soon. He needs to make sure he doubled up on his contraception as if she gets pregnant he is attached to her for life.

rollonthesummer · 21/09/2015 09:27

I have a feeling Chris will be getting rid of her soon.

I wonder. Being worried what someone will do if you leave them is no basis for a relationship.

If she does go and stay with her parents for a week as he's suggested, can you take him out for a drink and see if he's ok? He might need someone who can see the situation from the outside to help him see straight?

ScrambledSmegs · 21/09/2015 09:35

Dear god what an absolute pain she sounds. Fun for us but Sad for her partner.

If she makes any more comments about 'dehydration' you could helpfully post a link to this.

pictish · 21/09/2015 09:37

I couldn't have resisted either OP. I can't bear those who emotionally manipulate to get attention and their own way like that.
People can die from dehydration? Fuck me has she never had a stomach bug? Of course she has, she just wanted to punish Chris for not going home with her, and the rest of you for carrying on your night without her, unconcerned.

She's an absolute bell-end.

Nabootique · 21/09/2015 09:37

But she couldn't keep anything down Scrambled! Grin

ScrambledSmegs · 21/09/2015 09:40

Shame. Oh well Nabootique, she'll just have to die of self-inflicted dehydration then Grin

CloakAndJagger · 21/09/2015 09:45

Next she'll accuse you all of alienating her and pushing her out, failing completely to see how her own behaviour is providing this response.

Nightmare.

CheesyNachos · 21/09/2015 09:59

yeah, vomiting,needs a drip and can post it all on FB.

I actually know someone SO similar to this that I actually checked their FB (I have their timeline hidden) to see!! Mine has a 5 year old little girl though. She would have pulled the A&E stunt too.

I am really hoping Chris dumps her....... she is a vampire.

Annarose2014 · 21/09/2015 10:08

This thread is amazing.

I wonder if Dave is starting to see the light or if he thinks you're all being "really hard" on her?

ShadowLine · 21/09/2015 10:17

Well, she's correct to say that people can die from dehydration. I'm fairly certain that death from dehydration usually takes quite a bit longer than the time between her starting drinking and going to A+E though.

pictish · 21/09/2015 10:22

I think she's a sad, unhappy person with a lot of issues.
I wouldn't be taking her on - no way, but yes, a person has to have been damaged along the way somehow to feel compelled to behave in this way. Self pity and spite make for an intolerable combination don't they?

Jux · 21/09/2015 11:05

Ooh yes, dh used to have food poisoning after a drinking bout. Until I laughed at him. He used to get man-flu too.

It's just so dull.

Next time you all go out, put up a status beforehand wondering innocently who'll end up in A&E after and how much they'll have drunk.

MsRinky · 21/09/2015 11:23

I wouldn't put it on Facebook, but I would tell her that her behaviour in abusing the hospitality of Dave's parents to line up Jagerbombs, drunkenly flouncing off and then wasting the valuable resources of the NHS for attention was disgraceful.

She clearly has issues, but I really couldn't be arsed with waiting to see if she decides to tackle them.

StayWithMe · 21/09/2015 12:37

I'm wondering if Chris is trying to get her to go home so he can pack up her stuff while she's gone? If he's afraid how she will react, this would be the time to do it.

Plonkysaurus · 21/09/2015 12:50

Poor Chris Shock

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