to be fucking beyond furious with my ten year old daughter

[ovaryhill]

Had a call from fraud prevention at my bank today
Daughter has been playing Movistar Planet and has taken my bank acard nd spent £266 over the past couple of months!!!
I'm so upset I could cry

[pointythings]

I think selling her dolls is absolutely fine - should bring the consequences home very firmly. She should also have no unsupervised Internet access for a very long time - remove all personal devices and only allow her computer time for homework purposes. YANBU for being furious, my DDs are 12 and 14 and they know what the results would be if they did this stuff. Not that they could, I've passworded everything, but nevertheless.

They're both tied to my Google Play and Amazon accounts so if they get an app (free apps only) I get pinged an email anyway.

[LumpySpacedPrincess]

Did she actually take your card and deliberately make a purchase, or is your card tied to google play/apple and she guessed the password? Were in app purchases turned off on all her devices?

[Theimpossiblegirl]

I agree with Yellow, she may have done it once and the other times could have been more automatic. She may not have realised how bad it was.

I still think she needs to understand the seriousness of what she has done, but if her denial was pretty convincing, it may have been at least partly accidental.

[AnotherTimeMaybe]

lady I agree with you kids are very clever these days, shame they use this skill the wrong 'careers'

OP fantastic discipline you chose! These things happen , she ll definitely learn from this! It could have been worse!

[ovaryhill]

She actually took my card each time two cards were used
The other reason she was caught is because her two friends she plays this with and has fallen out with had 'grassed' to her older brother about her using the case in front of them

[OneDay103]

So if she wasn't told on she would have continued. Your punishment Seems very fair. Let her throw her hissy fit, she knows she's wrong.

[MythicalKings]

YANBU.

[ovaryhill]

Card in front of them I meant

[Theimpossiblegirl]

Fair enough then, sell the dolls.
:)

[TenForward82]

ovary you handled this really well. No device access and selling her possessions to pay for it. Well done!

[AnotherTimeMaybe]

OP I don't want to freak you out but is there a chance she's done something similar before even to someone else? Even though this incident didn't happen in a day, it's still a lot of money for a 'new starter'
Any chance you can ask the friend she fell out with?

[AnyoneButAndre]

I think flogging her Monster High dolls on eBay is a brilliant idea.

[LumpySpacedPrincess]

overy

[longdiling]

Shitting nora, I'd be raging too. I also have a 10 year old MovieStar Planet addict and would hit the roof if she did that. It's not like accidental in-game purchases if she's actually taken your card and put the digits in. Bloody hell!

I hope you get a refund and she learns her lesson first time.

[ovaryhill]

I don't think she's done it before, Dh bought her something on it about two months ago for six pounds and absolutely as a one off
I think she very carefully watched what he was doing with card
I'm in shock at the deceit,
Card def not registered to site, bank confirmed it was a separate debit each time plus different cards

[SaucyJack]

YANBU! :-O.

My 10&8 year old's are not above "finding" the odd pound of mine that I've left on the side or whatevs, but I would be go smacked if they thought to that.

As an aside- do you have Verified By Visa on your account? It's pretty good for stuff like this if the particular website uses it.

Also- does she have any MH houses or furniture? Put a link up if you're selling them

[CinderellaRockefeller]

That's not accidentally clicking that's deliberate stealing. Exactly the same as taking money from your purse.

I would sell the dolls. Unless it is her device she is using to play the game on, in which case sell that.

[RomComPhooey]

Unless it is her device she is using to play the game on, in which case sell that.

The nuclear option, but I imagine it would give her pause for thought.

[KanyeWestPresidentForLife]

Are you absolutely certain she did this? An awful lot of it seems to depend on her friend and her brothers claims she did it. Are you absolutely certain this couldn't have been the friend? It's just the fact she keeps denying that rings bells for me, even though she knows it's making things worse for her.

[KanyeWestPresidentForLife]

Even if it was her I think she should be made to work it off or chose items to sell.

I think selling a 10 year olds dolls, to which she will be emotionally attached, goes far too far. Yes she needs to make good the money. But a punishment which amounts to retribution goes to far IMO.

[ovaryhill]

I'm going to try and contact them tomorrow Boopsy
I might get one of my lovely colleagues to take me on as a client and phone on my behalf, I don't trust myself to be rational on the phone!

[TenQuidProQuo]

oh, dear . That's really naughty. I'm not suprised you are furious. Did she do this on the PC site? She must have done it very carefully.

I think selling the dolls is a good idea but I'd be careful of making her punishment too drawn out and vague. She is still so young and must be feeling awful. She needs to be able to make amends but will also need support.

[ovaryhill]

Kanye she doesn't keep denying it
She denied it initially then admitted it
I was also emotionally attached to my money seeing as it's my new job and first proper wage!
I think selling the dolls is getting off lightly

[ovaryhill]

She did it on my laptop ten