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MaryBerrysEyelashes · 19/08/2015 22:05

lazygirluk.wordpress.com/2015/08/19/is-it-just-me-thinking-mumsnet-brought-the-dadsec-attack-on-itself/

I'd like to know who the moderators are.

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wreckingball · 19/08/2015 22:52

Don't go dissing macramé, it's retro don'tcha know, very with it.

BastardGoDarkly · 19/08/2015 22:55

Oh is it? I made my mam a plant holder when I was a kid, bet she's still got it somewhere, I'll tell her!

BrideOfWankenstein · 19/08/2015 22:57

Just read the blog in the OP. Found a mistake. Decided that it was the worst spent 10 minutes of this evening. Oh well. Biscuit to blogger. Yawn.

BeatrixVBurgund · 19/08/2015 23:01

You really do need to get a new hobby, dear. Obsessing about Mumsnet is not healthy.

Don't click on her blog - not worth giving her the traffic. She would have known that someone would link on here, and will be hoping we'll all look.

ouryve · 19/08/2015 23:05

She's a bit up herself isn't she (have only clicked on the thread - have studiously ignored the blog all day as I don't want to potentially earn her any advertising revenue)

WellWhoKnew · 19/08/2015 23:12

"Be the first to like this"

No, ta.

ElderlyKoreanLady · 19/08/2015 23:57

Poor single mum here, who name changes too often to become part of a clique. You lot are alright with me until I've been stupidly unreasonable anyway but I deserved that Wink

LuisSuarezTeeth · 20/08/2015 00:00

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Fatmomma99 · 20/08/2015 00:56

Haven't checked the blog and don't intend to. If there's anything I need to know, please PM me.

msgrinch · 20/08/2015 01:03

I instantly thought of crusts and colandular but I think this is a little bit above them.

cakedup · 20/08/2015 01:14

I don't think it's black and white, there are elements of truth which people draw on according to their perspective. Here's my perspective:

I'm broke and single, never felt out of place for that reason. There is a bit of a middle class vibe and pedantic snobbery. Lots of harsh posters and high horse frolics.

I do think it can be quite cliquey and yes, there is a bit of a hierarchy with well known posters at the top.

On another note, I really don't get blogging at all. Unless it's really original, or really funny, or really useful...then I just don't understand why people are blogging about it or why anyone would bother reading them.

MidniteScribbler · 20/08/2015 03:34

Just because you have a keyboard and an internet connection, it doesn't mean you should be a 'blogger'. Quite frankly, practically every blog I've ever read is full of self indulgent shit by someone who is desperate for attention.

OTheHugeManatee · 20/08/2015 07:54

If she thinks Dadsec hacked MN because some people laughed at her once she is even more self-absorbed than I thought in the days of Chicken Shakespeare.

Also, if someone is going to write blogs that presumably they want others to be able to read without wanting to put the writer's face through a window, should they not proofread before publishing? And if they don't know how to do this should they not reconsider blogging as a hobby?

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 20/08/2015 08:15

colandular now there was a strange old fish if ever there was one.

MaryBerrysEyelashes · 20/08/2015 09:30

MEH - i just thought it was interesting - came up on the Twitter feed about the hacking.

Maryz - no joy here - a site I have used and loved for over 12 years? Really!

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the20somethingmum · 20/08/2015 10:03

Hi.
I'm the blogger who wrote the post.
Just to correct you on certain points made above:

No, I don't think the hack was done because "some people laughed at (me) once". I think its a wider issue with the way some- not all and I say the some are in a minority- members behave and are, in some cases which I have witnessed myself as have others, allowed to behave with no negativity from the moderators.

I have no idea who is behind the hack, nor would I want to. Clearly they are disgruntled enough to put themselves at risk of prosecution, and the fact they wasted Police time and scared people, whether those people were nasty to them or not, then clearly, as I said in the post, that is completely unnecessary and I don't condone it (despite several attacks on twitter suggesting I did). Being that as some of you so pointedly mentioned in comments to me on my blog, I'm not even great with HTML, so can assure you I am not in with hackers, nor, as I said, would I want to be.

I hate bullying in all its forms. I am open about this across my blog. Hence, whilst I don't condone bullying on here, or the attitude of MNHQ towards it, I also do not, in anyway, condone the behavior of the hackers or swatters.

I am not any of the old members mentioned above, I was previously FellowshipOfFineFellows. I do stand by my bullying allegation and, as intelligent women, you know I am far from the only blogger, ex-member or journo who has accused MN of being a hive of bullies. I posted about this thread on a Facebook group and within a few moments have had message after message from other members, ex or current/lapsed, who have witnessed and experienced bullying.

What do I hope MN members get out of what has no doubt been an unsettling and frightening time? I would hope your Mods become more proactive on the antisocial behavior of some members, other sites manage it. I hope they improve the security of members details- no doubt as an ex member myself my info was on the list. I also know other bloggers who no doubt as part of the network are at risk too.

Perhaps instead of trying to act as if nothing nasty ever happens, and blaming everyone they can who they know full well they have given cause to be disgruntled, eg Fathers4Justice, the owners of this site need to apologise to those they have upset and allowed to be deliberately bashed on here.

Some of you take absolute glee in making people upset enough to leave. Some of you are utterly reprehensible and its those people who the normal, every day members of this site should be upset with for their behavior putting them in this position.

BrendaandEddie · 20/08/2015 10:04

When you say 'Mods"
who are you meaning?

the20somethingmum · 20/08/2015 10:10

The MNHQ moderators.

Bearing in mind this is the first time I have been on here since 2013 you'll forgive me if I am unable to recall names.

The thread where I was verbally attacked though and led to the admins bemoaning me was regards 16 Kids and Counting.

BrendaandEddie · 20/08/2015 10:13

It obviously upset you a lot

SoupDragon · 20/08/2015 10:14

How tedious.

lavenderbongo · 20/08/2015 10:14

You are very selective about the comments you allow on your blog aren't you!

MidniteScribbler · 20/08/2015 10:15

The blog of the long winded?

the20somethingmum · 20/08/2015 10:20

I am happy to debate with people.

I will not, however post comments that, out of loyalty, seek to bash and be catty. I would think to be fair thats the best course of action, as the comments received in the most part back up what I've said about the chasing across social media to snark.

And nope, I am pretty thick skinned. In my type of social commentary blogging you do tend to attract the crazies and those who do not agree and will happily be as nasty as sin to you.

I don't, however, get why MN is so happy to allow it and then be shocked when something like this happens. Any site that promotes an anti cyber bullying message and joins in with campaigns, should by default back that up by not allowing troll behavior on it's forums. Its very double standards.

SoupDragon · 20/08/2015 10:21

I struggle to view a person who thinks anyone "deserves" to have a SWAT team arrive at their family home ?ith anything other than contempt TBH.

A nice piece of so called "victim blaming".

If someone goes in for that kind of thing, they must also accept that they themselves are to blame for any so called "bullying" they experienced.

HedgehogAtHome · 20/08/2015 10:21

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