Would it be a total faux pas to do this on mn?

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We don't hug and we don't hun, right? I think I've got that, spesh from the nm vs mn debate.
But there are a couple of posters in the last few days that I've noticed and I've thought- bloody good point and I like the sound of you.

Do we pm each other and strike up friendships? Or is that way too weird and stalkery and I should without doubt desist?

What sort of social difficulties, Anyfucker?

Sophie you seem to see an inocuous thing such as a simple message in your inbox to be some sort of threat to your equilibrium.

In no way is a pleasant "I really agreed with you on X thread" equivalent to getting into a stranger's car.

I've never been on netmums, so I'm not trying not to be netmummish. Sometimes I give support. I give cups of tea! It means the same as a hug, so there .

U2 you see I thought your username was familiar!
but you need to remind me who you are on HayDay.

Exit

I have been playing much less on HD since beginning of June.
only last few days I've been on more (coz I've not been well and can't do much anyway)

shall I post a photo of DD's dress I've been working on?

If you read my posts more carefully you might see that that isn't what I'm saying. I wouldn't have an issue with that sort of message.

I would have an issue with someone seeing the message system as a full scale alternative to open discussion on MN.

I apologise if it isn't clear.

Dixie
are you in a good neighbourhood?
we have 2 spaces in ours if you want to join

AF

having said that, get in my car.
it's really nice

I think we can all agree it would be a faux pas to PM Sophie.

Everyone else, just give it a try, OP. I met my best friend in all the world online (not here). Ten years later we speak every day and she comes to stay 2-3 times a year. I could not do without her.

If I need to cite an example; a few weeks ago a new poster posted a thread regarding something rather controversial.

I mentioned on the thread that I agreed with him in part.

There followed a series of PMs which sought to give me far more information than I was interested in, and assumed my full support which he did not in fact have.

'I really agreed with you on X thread' was therefore more like 'I noticed you agreeing with me on X thread, therefore here is my full story, [three more long paragraphs] thank you for being such a kind and lovely person, regards [name] ps if you live near me let's meet up'.

Can you see, I am sure you can, that there is a difference?

Sophie, think you are taking a very hard line here.

I PM'd "iwashappy" a while ago (I had a different name) to tell her that I saw a huge difference between 'trolling' and holding back truth from an audience eager for action on MN. I felt that 'iwashappy' had been guilty of no nothing more than holding back on a truth that she couldn't bear to share and none of us owes the internet the whole truth. I didn't expect anything back from her. I just wanted to let her know that I for one certainly did not think badly of her.

I would get in your car, Zing. I would have to wrestle a few anklebiters out the way though

psst, let's all PM Sophie to cure her of her PM phobia

I think its called flooding thereapy or somefunk

I have baby rabbits in my glove compartment. Beat that

not anymore AF

I have a very naice car now. it purrs like a big jungle cat

ah, Sophie, it rather sounds like you fell foul of a rather creepy goady fucker

that is unfortunate name and shame and we will sort him out

anything that makes you uncomfortable can be reported to MN and they will have a look behind the scenes

I didn't expect anything back from her.

Exactly. What the OP is suggesting implies that a response would be welcome; 'Do we PM each other and strike up friendships?'

That's expecting something back.

Not that I'm trying to suggest the OP is in any way sinister or has a weird agenda. But a lot of people don't feel secure with PMs from people they don't 'know'.

I've had some great PMs and some useful PMs and I've really appreciated them all. Go for it :)

Don't worry if someone doesn't appreciate it they'll just not reply, so there's no down side.

I've never had a mumsnet poster develop into a rl friend, but, I don't go to any of the meet ups which is what really helps with that. If PMs are so dangerous, I wonder what meet ups are? Maybe akin to playing hop hotch on the motorway? :)

Thanks AF. You can have your sad face back too if you like

Sorry, that sounded arsey - I'm just relieved to have sorted it out

Zing - don't you DARE!

I'm dying to know if 'baby rabbits in my glove compartment' is a euphemism

If it wasn't, it is now!

Sophie

I have over 900 PMs in my inbox, I've deleted many.
Yet I don't know anyone here in RL, apart from one friend who I knew way before I found MN and one I met having chatted loads on HayDay.
and Pistey. she is lovely

I've had a few Pm's over the years, but they've always been nice, friendly & supportive. I've had a Pm to say thank you from someone who was ripped to shreds on a thread about swapping a belt on a dress in a shop. Honestly she was practically hung drawn & quartered for it.

My very first PM was from MNHQ telling me I'd won a £50 Boots voucher. I was over the moon!