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AIBU to have remarked at the Asda colleagues?

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tooneedyme · 09/08/2015 22:30

I have been annoyed twice in Asda recently at the behaviour of colleagues. Firstly was at the self serve checkout where my babygirl who was in her car seat (10weeks old) started crying and an Asda worker came and unstrapped her and lifted her out without my permission. I remarked that I hadn't given her permission to lift her out and she said, "Why do you mind?" Secondly was today with my DS (3) who was eating a sandwich and the checkout lady asked him if she could have a bit and he laughed and said "No". She then said "Oh you are very greedy." Then she said "Can I not have some?" He then said, "No it's mine not yours." He was laughing as he said it and she said, "Oh you are cheeky too." SHe didn't say it maliciously but I would never tell my ds he was greedy or cheeky without good reason and this annoyed me so I said "Actually he is a lovely little boy and not greedy or cheeky at all." AIBU to be annoyed at these people?

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Littlefish · 09/08/2015 22:33

I think you are right to be a bit annoyed about the first incident but you are completely over-reacting about the second incident.

The second lady was just being friendly. Heaven forbid people actually talk to small children!

BoeBarlow · 09/08/2015 22:34

YADNBU about the 1st one Shock I would have been furious if anyone had done this to my DD.

I'm inclined to think the 2nd one is less bad but maybe you were still annoyed about the 1st incident.

WeAllHaveWings · 09/08/2015 22:35

if these are your colleagues, do you work in ASDA and they know you?

First one YANBU, I wouldn't like someone taking my baby out of their car seat, but I would think they were just trying to be friendly/helpful.

Second one, YABU, they were just trying to be friendly.

LooksLikeImStuckHere · 09/08/2015 22:36

Agree with the others. Second one is ok, first one absolutely not.

BIWI · 09/08/2015 22:36

Do you work at Asda? If not, as from your post it hardly sounds like you do, why do you refer to them as colleagues?

I think YABU - I think the Asda staff were trying to be human and friendly, and you have totally misinterpreted them.

WildImaginings · 09/08/2015 22:37

In the first instance, YADNBU. If she really unstrapped your baby, and picked her up without your permission, then that was completely out of order.
In the second instance, I think that you are probably being a little unreasonable. While greedy is probably not a great choice of words, it sounds like the lady was genuinely trying to engage with him. Your reaction was a bit precious.

Weallhavewings- ASDA refers to their employees as 'colleagues'

Only1scoop · 09/08/2015 22:38

Do you know these people?

Regardless yabu about the sandwich.... a total non event.

ClaudiusMaximus · 09/08/2015 22:39

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WildImaginings · 09/08/2015 22:41

I think the OP is referring to them as colleagues as ASDA uses the word 'colleague' rather than 'member of staff' in their PR etc.
It's part of their policy (family member works there)

gamerchick · 09/08/2015 22:41

They've always been described as colleagues.. Better than ruddy asda ace which is the cleaners.

I wouldn't be happy about people picking up my baby but the second would just leave me mildly irritated.

BigRedBall · 09/08/2015 22:41

I don't know, I've never been a fussy mother even with dc1. I don't think I did the whole pfb shebang. I would have been a bit taken aback by a shop person holding my baby but if it quietened the baby down then that's great. Ideally, she should have done your shopping for you rather than pick your baby up though.

Second one was clearly a joke and you're taking it too seriously. Stop being so touchy.

kissmethere · 09/08/2015 22:42

Totally out of order to take your child out of the seat, and staff should NOT be asking a customer for food. I'd complain.

Goshthatsspicy · 09/08/2015 22:42

The sandwich one, a non - event.
The baby lifting one, l think l'd like more details.

Fluffy24 · 09/08/2015 22:42

YANBU.

Doesn't sound like they set out to upset you or kids, but the picking up thing would have annoyed me a lot. Get what you mean about the greedy/cheeky thing too.

WorraLiberty · 09/08/2015 22:42

First one, YANBU

Second one, YABU and massively precious

MammaTJ · 09/08/2015 22:42

Asda refer to their staff as Asda Colleagues! Bullshit to make us feel they are wonderful. They are not necessarily that great!

OP, incident #1, YANBU! #2 YABU, but maybe influenced by #1.

WorraLiberty · 09/08/2015 22:43

and staff should NOT be asking a customer for food. I'd complain.

Grin Grin Yeah, cos she really meant she wanted to eat it...

WildImaginings · 09/08/2015 22:44

kissmethere- I don't think the lady actually expected the child to give her a bite of his sandwich Hmm

Only1scoop · 09/08/2015 22:44

Well exactly I'm sure she was dying for a bite of that Confused

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tooneedyme · 09/08/2015 22:45

I don't know these people. My work call employees "colleagues" so just call all staff everywhere this.

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QuintShhhhhh · 09/08/2015 22:47

The second lady was being a total idiot.

how is it greedy to continue to eat your sandwich, but NOT greedy asking a small child for his food?

The first lady I would have complained about to management. You dont just "help yourself" to a baby like that

WorraLiberty · 09/08/2015 22:47

Honestly, who'd be a cashier nowadays?

According to Mumsnet they're...

Too chatty

Not chatty enough

Too fast at scanning

Too slow at scanning

Too cheerful

Too grumpy

Oh and most of them tend to 'tut' and 'sneer' at just about everyone.

The cashiering fuckers!! Angry

hhhhhhh · 09/08/2015 22:48

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Only1scoop · 09/08/2015 22:49

Oh for goodness sake she was just trying to be chatty I'm sure she didn't mean he was greedy Confused
Blimey....probably a bit of banter sheeeshh

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tooneedyme · 09/08/2015 22:51

I wish I had complained about the first but with crying baby it never occurred to me. The second event bothered me so much I think as ds can be really sensitive and if he had been tired or grumpy he would have been really upset at being called greedy or cheeky. Thankfully he was neither.

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