AIBU to have remarked at the Asda colleagues?

[tooneedyme]

I have been annoyed twice in Asda recently at the behaviour of colleagues. Firstly was at the self serve checkout where my babygirl who was in her car seat (10weeks old) started crying and an Asda worker came and unstrapped her and lifted her out without my permission. I remarked that I hadn't given her permission to lift her out and she said, "Why do you mind?" Secondly was today with my DS (3) who was eating a sandwich and the checkout lady asked him if she could have a bit and he laughed and said "No". She then said "Oh you are very greedy." Then she said "Can I not have some?" He then said, "No it's mine not yours." He was laughing as he said it and she said, "Oh you are cheeky too." SHe didn't say it maliciously but I would never tell my ds he was greedy or cheeky without good reason and this annoyed me so I said "Actually he is a lovely little boy and not greedy or cheeky at all." AIBU to be annoyed at these people?

[WorraLiberty]

Ahh I understand now OP thanks

No, you interpreted me correctly in that I was being sarcastic (obviously), because I think you were being way OTT about the sandwich conversation.

As for my apparent 'lack of understanding' about eating disorders, well that's something that you've assumed/invented as obviously you'll have no idea about that.

But since you've said you've suffered from an ED, perhaps that's why your reaction to the woman's simple banter with your child about a sandwich was so OTT?

Does that make sense?

You said she wasn't malicious, you said he was laughing, so it's only you who reacted badly

[tooneedyme]

I am still confused Murfles. I brought the sandwich from home as we were out around lunchtime. He chose to ask for a sandwich in Asda. He shares very well but I wouldn't expect him to share a half eaten sandwich with a complete stranger and certainly wouldn't have given him into trouble for laughing and saying no.

[tooneedyme]

Maybe so Worral but I am against anyone calling my ds "greedy" or "cheeky" without reason.

To the poster who asked if I had decided I was not being unreasonable why did I ask the question, well, the answers have made me feel more confident in my decision which I now stand by.

[WyldChyld]

OP, I hate to say this but I really think you need to calm down. Yes, the first example isn't great but you evidently weren't so bothered by it as to complain or kick off (either that day or, if you were so bothered by the crying baby, the next day). The second one sounds like a nice lady interacting with your son who "played" with her. You're projecting your issues onto him and this is dangerous. He will be called far worse by far more people in his life.

[DameDoom]

This wouldn't happen at Lidl, Aldi or Ocado ( with Paul and his van with a cauli on the side).

[Bubblesinthesummer]

YABU about your son being called greedy and cheeky. She ment it as a joke like "cheeky monkey". I think your response to her was really rude

^ agreed.....

[chippednailvarnish]

You wouldn't get this with Jesus in the cabbage van either.

And I bet he'd share his sandwich too.

[Murfles]

The second one sounds like a nice lady interacting with your son who "played" with her. You're projecting your issues onto him and this is dangerous. He will be called far worse by far more people in life

I just typed out a huge respons then saw this as it sums up my reply perfectly. I am about to do something that is my first ever on here. as she really needs one. As I said earlier, when your DS goes to nursery and eventually school you're in for a massive shock toon

[Whiskwarrior]

Bloody hell, I call my kids all kind of things, much worse than 'greedy' or 'cheeky'.

I also call the kids at work 'cheeky', amongst other things. It's not actually an insult.

But then, I also know when a joke is a joke!

[WeAllHaveWings]

I think you should consider yourself lucky she was nice and friendly and didn't comment on how your ds eating a sandwich in a totally inappropriate place.

[maybebabybee]

First incident: YANBU.

Second incident: you seriously need to chill out. YABU.

[DameDoom]

I wish MN was around for my mum in t'olden days as I may never have had massive food issues.
I was called greedy for accepting a sandwich once and never got over it. I do still think the colleague was trying to be nice, but I do get it.
Obvs you have more food worries than your child. Try not to make this a big deal.

[Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost]

The 1st incident. Yes she was forward but at the same time probably thought she was helping. That said it's hardly the done thing to pick up a strangers baby.
The 2cd incident was I am sorry a total non event. She was just bAntering, having fun, communicating with your child. Would you prefer she sat stone faced and did not interact with you or your child. It's nice to see them chatting Snd looking like they're enjoying their job. You get some cashiers they act like they're doing you a favour by serving you.
Yes she called him "greedy", but it was a blardy joke . Heaven's sake Lighten up. The world has really cracked it's face. Why do people love looking for an offensive element in every thing these days.

[Spartans]

I would have been a bit shocked if someone took my baby out of her car seat. But not annoyed especially if they had managed to stop her crying while I finished.

The second incident wouldn't bothered me at all. Especially since he was laughing along. She was trying to friendly and nice and have a joke.

[Sansarya]

FGS OP just chill out over the second incident. The woman was just joking and trying to make conversation with your son. How on earth could you think she really wanted a bit of his sandwich? And I highly doubt she was being serious when she called him cheeky - your reaction to her was a bit OTT. If you're going to get offended every time someone attempts to chat to him then I'd seriously consider online shopping instead.

[VulcanWoman]

I wouldn't have a problem with the second one but the first one, I think I would have said 'excuse me, what do you think you're doing', cheeky devil.

[MythicalKings]

YANBU in the first instance but V, overly precious and ridiculous in the second.

The assistant was being friendly and said it with a smile. I bet it gave her colleagues a laugh in the staffroom later. Lighten up.

[SoupDragon]

TBH, if the first woman had stopped my child crying I would have been a little taken aback but grateful.

The second is a complete non event and just someone engaging with your child.

[VulcanWoman]

When she said 'why do you mind', did she carry on or give your baby back.

[Emiliasmumtobe]

OP you sound like a very protective, loving mother. I think YANBU for the first incident, but I agree with PP that the second was just a cashier being friendly to your child.

[mrsdavidbowie]

You've got a sense of humour bypass.

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

I would have been taken aback if a person assumed they could take my baby out of their seat but ultimately grateful if they were bawling their head off.

You are over reacting to the second issue, massively.

[Shetland]

murfles if you were eating your lunch and a complete stranger asked if they could have a bite of your sandwich would you let them?

I encourage my kids to share food too but a bite of a sandwich seems like a step too far.

[RoboticSealpup]

Picking up someone else's tiny baby without even asking is totally out of order. When My DD (or shall I day my PFB?) was that age I didn't even like it when some people I knew picked her up. Paranoid, maybe, but also very normal as your "mama bear" instinct is on high alert.

I disagree with must posters about the second issue. She clearly thought it was a bit of funny banter, but the language she used was actually quite disrespectful. It's perfectly possible to be playful and joke with children without making fun of them. Some children probably won't mind, but when I was small I did not enjoy that kind of banter at all.

[SylvanianCaliphate]

Cool story.