AIBU to have remarked at the Asda colleagues?

[tooneedyme]

I have been annoyed twice in Asda recently at the behaviour of colleagues. Firstly was at the self serve checkout where my babygirl who was in her car seat (10weeks old) started crying and an Asda worker came and unstrapped her and lifted her out without my permission. I remarked that I hadn't given her permission to lift her out and she said, "Why do you mind?" Secondly was today with my DS (3) who was eating a sandwich and the checkout lady asked him if she could have a bit and he laughed and said "No". She then said "Oh you are very greedy." Then she said "Can I not have some?" He then said, "No it's mine not yours." He was laughing as he said it and she said, "Oh you are cheeky too." SHe didn't say it maliciously but I would never tell my ds he was greedy or cheeky without good reason and this annoyed me so I said "Actually he is a lovely little boy and not greedy or cheeky at all." AIBU to be annoyed at these people?

[EmeraldKitten]

I think the number of people saying the op is bu over incident 1 are purely doing so because she was so ridiculous over incident 2. I don't for one minute believe so many would be pleased and think the woman was helpful for unstrapping and picking up their baby if that really happened

Incident 2 - yab completely ridiculous, this is what I class as normal conversation.

Incident 1 - yabu purely for your lack of action. What did you do, stand and watch? The incident wouldn't have happened with most people because they would have stopped her long before she actually picked the baby up.

[Goshthatsspicy]

I have a feeling that only the sandwich 'incident' happened.

[SantasLittleMonkeyButler]

On the whole I agree with the majority. Unstrapping & picking up the baby would have made me angry/uneasy.

Personally, I would have considered the "sandwich incident" as lighthearted chat BUT the knowledge that the OP herself has suffered from anorexia does help me to see how the word "greedy" could be so very offensive/upsetting to her. Thinking of a friend of mine with anorexia, greedy is quite possibly the worst insult you could throw at her (in her eyes obviously). OP, I hope the responses have at least convinced you that this was an innocent bit of banter & that no-one was actually calling your child anything derogatory. Nor did the cashier actually want to share your 3 year old's half eaten sandwich.

I was once very upset by a cashier chatting happily away to me about her Mother's Day plans, saying things such as "you have to make a fuss of your mum don't you. I'd die if anything happened to mine" etc. etc. - just after I'd buried my mum. I walked out to the car park crying my eyes out because of what she'd been saying - but does that make it her fault? I don't think so, it was friendly small talk. How could she have possibly known my circumstances?

[Owllady]

I think everybody should be forced to work in a shop at some point in their lives

I remember catching the bus when my PFB was tiny and a girl on the bus started talking to me and she told me she was homeless but had been moved 200 odd miles to emergency housing which she was on her way to. She asked if she could hold my baby and I let her. A complete stranger on the bus :o it didn't kill either of us. The girl said it had made her day. Cuddling babies is good for the soul :)

[Quietlifenotonyournelly]

Awe, Owllady that brought tears to my eyes.

[slightlysnippy]

Seriously, a complete stranger took you child out of his car seat.

[TooOldForGlitter]

Did you just stand there while all the unstrapping of the child was going on? Seems you'd have had plenty of time to speak up before the baby was lifted out.

[TenForward82]

Owllady, I worked in a shop, and I can honestly say I've never lifted someone's kid up or called a toddler names (at least not loud enough that the parents could hear me ).

[tooneedyme]

The first incident most definitely happened. Her excuse was she hadn't seen her grandchild for so long. Some of you are really rude.

[OnMyHols2015]

Secondly was today with my DS (3) who was eating a sandwich and the checkout lady asked him if she could have a bit and he laughed and said "No". She then said "Oh you are very greedy." Then she said "Can I not have some?" He then said, "No it's mine not yours." He was laughing as he said it and she said, "Oh you are cheeky too


First one, Def NBU

However, 2nd one, your dc was laughing and joking with her
One comment to a child of 3 is not going to make him anorexic. You are completely overreacting in my view, I get that you are worried and looking out for triggers but you really don't have to worry here

[Sparklingbrook]

It raises so many questions.

I would think an official complaint would be in order OP so they can check CCTV etc and carry out a full investigation to ensure this never happens again.

[tooneedyme]

I dont think he will become anorexic from one comment OnMyHois2015 but he could have been upset.

[sugar21]

I seriously do not understand why you have not complained/ e-mailed/ phoned the store manager if you are so pissed off with the asda colleagues. Then as sparkling correctly states the manager can look on CCTV and address the incident.

[maybebabybee]

but he could have been upset.

But he wasn't. I don't understand why you can't see you have overreacted massively.

[Sparklingbrook]

Exactly sugar. If the incident was that distressing it needs investigating.

[Sansarya]

He could've been upset? But you said in your OP that he was laughing about it. You need to relax a bit - the poor woman was just chatting to him.

[Only1scoop]

But he wasn't upset so stop expecting him to be

[Icimoi]

Why didn't you just tell the first assistant to stop when she started undoing the straps on your child's seat?

[PunkrockerGirl]

Some of you are really rude

Well that's us told then

What did you say to the Asda lady who hadn't seen her gc for ages, OP?

[chippednailvarnish]

Some of you are really rude

Yep, you sound a total mare.

[TenForward82]

I don't blame the OP for getting annoyed that a bunch of people are questioning whether or not she is a liar just because the scenario doesn't 'right' to them. I don't think that makes her a 'mare', either.

[TenForward82]

doesn't seem 'right' to them*

[Sparklingbrook]

I think the OP should go back to Asda and redirect their rage there instead-get it all investigated and sorted out properly.

[KidLorneRoll]

I wouldn't be bothered in either case. Heaven forbid people try to help or interact.

[TenForward82]

I'm simply saying that I wouldn't be cool with people calling me a liar. Neither would most people, I'd wager.