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AIBU to have remarked at the Asda colleagues?

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tooneedyme · 09/08/2015 22:30

I have been annoyed twice in Asda recently at the behaviour of colleagues. Firstly was at the self serve checkout where my babygirl who was in her car seat (10weeks old) started crying and an Asda worker came and unstrapped her and lifted her out without my permission. I remarked that I hadn't given her permission to lift her out and she said, "Why do you mind?" Secondly was today with my DS (3) who was eating a sandwich and the checkout lady asked him if she could have a bit and he laughed and said "No". She then said "Oh you are very greedy." Then she said "Can I not have some?" He then said, "No it's mine not yours." He was laughing as he said it and she said, "Oh you are cheeky too." SHe didn't say it maliciously but I would never tell my ds he was greedy or cheeky without good reason and this annoyed me so I said "Actually he is a lovely little boy and not greedy or cheeky at all." AIBU to be annoyed at these people?

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BigRedBall · 09/08/2015 22:51

In Eastern countries a shop keeper picking up a crying baby wouldn't have even made anyone bat an eyelid. It's not like it was a complete nobody. It was a person in uniform who worked for the shop. She wasn't exactly going to run away with a screaming baby was she.

WorraLiberty · 09/08/2015 22:52

All kids can be sensitive when they're tired or grumpy, no matter what is said to them Confused

Thankfully, he's not as sensitive as you are yet

serin · 09/08/2015 22:52

1st incident... the staff member was totally inappropriate....you just don't handle someone else's child. I would have been cross to.

2nd 'incident' was just the member of staff trying to be friendly and jokey. I would have been amused.

WorraLiberty · 09/08/2015 22:53

BigRedBall the OP doesn't live in an Eastern country so how is that relevant?

chocolatedonut · 09/08/2015 22:56

YANBU about the girl picking up your DD- completely unacceptable and I would have complained.

YABU about your son being called greedy and cheeky. She ment it as a joke like "cheeky monkey". I think your response to her was really rude.

sugar21 · 09/08/2015 22:57

I'm trying to work out where your car seat was, self checkouts don't have a lot of room? Nevertheless if child was removed from said car seat that is a no no.
As for the sandwich the colleague was just being friendly.

BigRedBall · 09/08/2015 22:58

I'm just thinking, why are we so protective about people holding our babies to comfort them? It takes a village and all that....

CassieBearRawr · 09/08/2015 22:59

Online shopping is the only way OP, that way you can avoid other human interaction at all costs.

WorraLiberty · 09/08/2015 23:00

But but but

Being called greedy and cheeky might give him an eating disorder and lifelong behavioural issues Shock Grin

ClaudiusMaximus · 09/08/2015 23:01

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Murfles · 09/08/2015 23:02

1st incident, well, I can understand why you were annoyed.

2nd incident - if you get upset about this you are going to be one annoyed mummy when he goes to nursery and school. You will be one of THOSE mothers Hmm

WorraLiberty · 09/08/2015 23:02

I do understand what you're saying BigRedBall but a quick, "Do you mind?" first would have been appropriate.

I doubt that person would have (for example) grabbed the OP's mobile phone just to check the time, without asking first.

Yet she unstrapped her baby and picked him/her up without asking.

chippednailvarnish · 09/08/2015 23:03

Go to Waitrose, Asda is a bit common.

sugar21 · 09/08/2015 23:03

Quite right worra
Possibly how these things start

WorraLiberty · 09/08/2015 23:03

ClaudiusMaximus it's just something wanky that Asda do.

avocadotoast · 09/08/2015 23:03

Second one, I'd be irritated but I'd just smile and nod.

First one I'd be fucking fuming though. Who does that?!

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tooneedyme · 09/08/2015 23:03

The carseat was in a trolley designed to hold carseats and WorralLiberty having suffered from anorexia nervosa for 25 years I am sure I could manage that all by myself without anyone elses input.

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tooneedyme · 09/08/2015 23:06

The carseat was in a trolley designed to hold carseats and WorralLiberty having suffered from anorexia nervosa for 25 years I am sure I could manage that all by myself without anyone elses input.

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Sparklingbrook · 09/08/2015 23:06

I am boggling that a colleague was anywhere about and had time to do that in ASDA. Shock I can never find one.

WorraLiberty · 09/08/2015 23:07

Go to Waitrose, Asda is a bit common

"Is that tofu you have there young man? Please may I have some?"

"No, I'm terribly sorry madam but this tofu is for my consumption only."

"Oh you're a tad on the insubordinate and gluttonous side aren't you, you little scamp?"

Grin
Only1scoop · 09/08/2015 23:08
Grin
TracyBarlow · 09/08/2015 23:08

Blimey. In both instances they were trying to help by distracting your children so you could get on with packing / paying / whatever.

Why are people constantly falling over themselves to be so bloody offended by everything? You had your hands full and your baby was crying so someone tried to help you by picking her up and you're moaning about it? Then someone had a laugh and a joke with your child and you're moaning about it?

I think it's lovely other people get involved in engaging with your children. They're not going to exist in the bubble of your family forever. People are going to touch them and talk to them. They're going to have to get used to it.

sugar21 · 09/08/2015 23:09

GrinGrin

chippednailvarnish · 09/08/2015 23:09

I see Worra you are also a Waitrose shopper!

WorraLiberty · 09/08/2015 23:09

and WorralLiberty having suffered from anorexia nervosa for 25 years I am sure I could manage that all by myself without anyone elses input.

You could manage what by yourself?

Are you saying you could manage to give your child an eating disorder?

Apologies if I've misunderstood? Confused