Raging argument, who's right?

[LegoComplex]

Massive argument with DP, apparently I'm the jealous, wierd, no mates asshole who's dragging him down and not letting him enjoy life.

He sprung on me a couple of weeks ago he wanted to do a bbq with a mate over, this turned into 3 mates from work, bear in mind these are older builder blokes i've never met. Because i'm worried about it i'm being unreasonable apparently, but i have no idea how to host these things, I told him i'm 22 i havn't had kids and suddenly i can host big dos. I have a 5yr old bfing a 3 month old and found the last one incredibly stressful it was basically blokes round the barbecure turning meat and i was left with everything else to prep and 2 strange kids to watch as well. i was really an anxious wreck and couldn't even eat.

Then today we have a nice time at a festival for a couple of hours, he says we should go back tomorrow. That's be nice i thought have a picnic and me and him could chat and listen to music and enjoy the baby. Next thing i know he's ringing up all his mates trying to get them along.

Apparently i should be making friends with them and letting him live. Well i told him don't let us drag you down i can have a great time on my own with my kids if we're too boring for him.

To be quite frank i find these men intimidating. DP's making me feel like a complete wierdo, i socialise just generally with mums who i have lots in common with.

[Bambambini]

I think you've had a hard time here OP. In mn world you should be able to manage endless kids and babies and host a 6 course dinner for 8 easy peasy whilst playing a harp with your teeth for some entertainment. You are quite young and have a tiny baby and a 5 yr old and your struggling right now. Let your partner deal with his friends, either go out or say hello and just do your own thing, leaving you to it. I would be nervous that they just end up totally pissed and lairy whilst you're anxious, walking on eggshells and looking after your baby and child.

I do think you need to go back to your doctor and it's way to early for you to be think you no longer need medication. I think 22 can still be very young and you sound a little overwhelmed by life and immature.

[Slowtrain2dawn]

Lego, when did you start to feel anxious? Does it maybe coincide with when your partner became so disrespectful, rude and unsupportive?
YANBU, you are coping with an awful lot. Maybe post on the relationships thread for some support and advice, as you sound really ground down.